Happiness and what really matters

[hiyamotherfers]

I think these topics are highly controversial and if you know me pretty well you know when you say "yes" I will say "no". Basically I like to argue. Also if you know me, you'll know that I've had a small problem with depression. Something that should never be taken lightly. Recently I've been extremely happy with someone I've found online. We are pretty good friends, I'd say. You know who are ;) But today has really been a day of reflection for me. I've been thinking more and more how screwed up this life is and what we really need to be happy in this life. What and how we can improve our life to make things better for those who are struggling and how we can help them.

One of these things is confidence. Saying I am who I am, and nothing can change me through that. Sometimes confidence is hard to find and it often takes others to help see and gain confidence but once we get it we can be unstoppable. (just don't become a asshole because of it, getting to cocky isn't a good thing) Another thing is just doing things that push us out of that comfort zone with people who will support you through anything. I've found several people who are like this, but I won't mention them because I didn't ask if I could add them and I'm too lazy to ask at this point.

Doing things that push us that little bit can help us discover new things that we enjoy and things that can make us happy. Another thing, is just the obvious doing things we love with the people we love. While this may seem easy peasy lemon squeezy, it's not always. Sometimes we have family problems or something has shifted and things aren't the same as they where. So if things are going good, grab your loved one and please tell them you love them. It helps a lot. Trust me.

Last thing because I am at 1776 characters and this is a lot more than I wanted. The last thing is honesty with ourselves. (hey person that I mentioned at this beginning of this, I'm talking to you) Sometimes we need to be honest with ourselves. And you where right (you have no idea how much I hate admitting I was wrong) I was harsh on myself. But some of it was true. We also need to be honest to others. If something is going on we need to tell those who we trust. Keeping it to ourselves isn't going to help the end result. I sadly found this out the hard way. I promise I'm not an idiot but I can be hard headed because once again I love to argue. So I know some of this I probably got off topic and it might not make sense but this is everything I gotta say.

[Joker_]

great mytake kiddo, looking forward to the next one

[Ptrmbrs88]

Yes, I agree. Fantastic 'MyTake' :)

[hiyamotherfers]

thanks... we need to talk tho

[Ptrmbrs88]

Okay. You know where to find me.

[ohsheeT]

Okay so I must really like this question because I'm on my second round I wrote a book explaining how I feel about it and then I just erased it all and I'm starting all over I have a hard time expressing what I feel in the words that I want to use to do it so I'm going to try again

My belief is we have every possible emotion known already that lives with inside of us and I understand people can do things to us that make us feel a certain way but we are the ones that allow ourselves to feel that moment whether it's happier sad we are the only ones on the inside of us they can make us feel anything

Let pretend you meet someone and each and every day they're bringing the best out of you because of new experiences because of what they say or what they do you're seeing a new part of you so you're allowing yourself to be happy in that moment sometimes just glow they're opening up new doors new experiences within you to allow yourself to feel those feelings to allow those feelings to come out

So now let's pretend something happens and you break up you're angry you're mad and if you're honest with yourself it's usually you're angry at yourself for allowing yourself to do something or to believe in somebody and it wasn't real or something else happened it doesn't matter what I'm trying to say is that what it boils down to is you're hurt and you're hurt because of different reasons but one of the most important reason is that person's not in your life anymore that person's not going to be there to open those doors for you to allow you to feel those new Happy moments anymore and I think that's where the anger and the hurt comes from in time you get over it because something else takes its place I'm really still not saying what I want to say or how I think I should be saying it but the bottom line is we have every emotion inside of us when people come into our lives and we feel that happiness it's because they open up our eyes the doors to new experience when we don't have that we don't have anybody opening up those doors to make us feel that happiness happiness or sadness I think I should rewrite this again LOL I'm still not saying what I want to say the thing is is you are right happiness is what really matters we are the only ones that can give it to ourselves we allow people to come into our lives to open up those doors within us to allow us to feel that happiness to bring it out of us so no matter what in life allow yourself that freedom to feel that happiness become the best you can become and it will just come naturally if you hold yourself back in any manner in any way you're not going to allow those doors to be open and they become stagnant and you're stuck in a rut don't allow yourself to do that find the happiness find yourself it doesn't matter if you're right or wrong it matters if you keep growing with it that's all that matters a moment of time is a moment of time and then it changes just like life everything in life does the same thing

[hiyamotherfers]

no it was really good

[ohsheeT]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

I’m not better than anyone else.
I don’t know how people can get through life when they think that when we die we become nothing.
I do hope in the life hereafter and that helps me get through the crap of day to day life.
If I had no hope then I would have exacted vengeance on everyone that hurt me (it’s a lot).
But because I have hope through Jesus Christ, I was able to forgive those who did hurt me, and strive to be a better person with His help.
If God had not saved me from my anger, “ might is right” would have been my motto.

[strateguy632]

i liked "what really matters is telling others." that can make all the difference

[hiyamotherfers]

thank you! I've found that it does.

[Malwi93]

I don’t care CX about happiness only being successful lol

[Anonymous]

Yes the bigger the better

[TooHot2Care]

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