Yea some people are stupid to do this, they just don't understand how bad nor ignorant that comment is and think they are cheering you up or thinking they are helping but they wrong. If this happened to me, I might snap and say "you don't know me nor get to tell me what to do about my feelings. I'm dealing some crap so if i wanna show my scowl, i will. Better way to handle this is ask how I'm doing or be friendly to me. Gees louise I'm not Mona lisa. Thanks to you, my day got worse so i hope yours worse than mine. Bye." Lol yes I'm a mad, bitter woman, working on my issues. If i get better, i might answer, "excuse me, that was rude of you to tell me to smile. You don't know me, don't know what crap I'm going through, or what is going through my head nor know how my feelings are. Next time for next stranger you seeing who ain't smiling, ask if how are they and be kind. Well take care and bye". I rather correct them or tell them off so that hopefully the next person don't have a mental breakdown from it. It could happen lol i feel like anything could trigger me
Because they feel more comfortable. It's really all about them. They likely don't care how you're feeling.
I generally have a neutral expression. Not angry or upset or anything. No emotion. It's just natural for me. I smile when the situation is right. Or if I'm thinking about something that makes me happy. Having a smile plastered on your face is just unnatural... you know who does that? CRAZY people that's who! Or people on drugs. Nobody is THAT happy all the time.
I think most people say it to humor others to make them smile. They say it without thinking
My nephew died a few months ago, and on the day of his funeral a stranger said to me " smile , it may never happen" He obviously didn't know i was grieving, but i just ignored him. I had no reason to smile at that moment
Maaaan it infuriates me. When I was working in hospitality and men would tell me I need to smile or whatever I would seeeeeethe.
The classics:
"You're much more beautiful when you smile"
"A smile wouldn't hurt"
"Smile, its not that bad!"
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Smiling is a Universal Language we all understand
Smiling spreads joy
Smiling makes you more attractive
Smiling is contagious
Smiling requires less effort than frowning because fewer facial muscles are used.
Smiling builds relationships. It bridges the gaps between us.
Smiling puts you and others at ease
Smiling makes you more confident
Smiling changes your brain chemistry
Smiling attracts more of the same energy* to you.
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Smiling actually gives you a boost of dopamine and serotonin, so telling someone to smile is literally giving them the means to have a better day. It's the same reason you can make yourself sleepier by yawning, because it releases melanin.
Even without the science if someone tells me to keep my chin up and or ''turn that frown upside down'' I'd have to be pretty bitter to take offense to that. They're obviously trying to help and spread a good mood, and it's a pretty dick move to think they're an asshole for that
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My nana and mother ALWAYS would say. If you see someone without a smile give them yours its just being polite and nice in a way tht is not expected it just one. Of those things tht is just better like trying to get tht frown turned up side down turend where u become as beautiful on the out side as well as the inside and wht is on the inside counts just as much as the out side but wht is on the inside is stronger thn wht is on the outside male some one laugh tht is down can be very powerful inside and out
Having been in depression before (and every now and then) I am respectful and never judge when someone is downcast or sad faced, if anything and if the opportunity comes I just ask "hi, how is it going?" sometimes people just need to vent. God sent plenty of people my way to be able to vent while I've been in the storm, you just don't know their walk. I kinda think of the people that say "smile" as manipulating over hyped fakes.
It's not usually to please them, it's to try and to get you to feel happy. Never experienced that moment when someone has told you to smile and you do, and it makes them smile, and you kinda smile genuinely in return? Sure it doesn't work every time, but I don't think these strangers are trying to be rude to you. I can understand it being frustrating at times, but I don't think you should be mad at them.
Just smile, you never know how much a smile can do for someone. I've been told I should smile plenty of times by strangers, and I always have always better day, because my mood changes to happy, and we all kinda need that in life.. some of y'all is bitter and gonna say "i'ma do whatever I wanna" or "let me be"... but seriously it puts others in better moods. It's just uplifting and beneficial :) 😊😊😊😊😊❤
They mean well but they could also be trivialising something serious. Over the years I've had various periods of deep depression and someone telling me to smile or "cheer up" would only make me feel worse.
Their intent may be good but at the end of the day actions speak louder than words.
If you see someone who seems down then don't just tell them to smile, actively try and make them smile. Sometimes just a short and friendly conversation can flip a person's mood.
I agree. I had this issue in primary school. People pestered me to smile more. I mean, once there was this math text and everyone was focused on the task at hand, me included. And, for reasons I've yet to determine years later, the teacher asked specifically me to smile. Like, bitch, I'm fucking busy. LIKE EVERYONE. Dafuq do I need to smile for now?
I think they're trying to seem nice
I say seem because it does come across as slightly patronising - no-one likes to be told what to do
The best way to invoke a smile from someone would be to genuinely smile at them, leaving them to decide whether or not they want to smile back
I've been told to smile a number of times. Most of them were completely strangers that I simply walk pass. Those ones are mostly selfish, because apparently you have to smile for them to keep for ruining their day or something like that. Other ones are kind of wanted to cheer me up cause I looked angry. Those ones I don't really mind.
Because a smile has some awesome powers. It is contagious and boost your system to get you into a better mood. Nobody likes when we see others having a bad day, are worry, or have a problem. We want to help them, and because we are strangers one of the easiest way to do so without getting into non of your business is by said something like.
"Hey are you ok?"
"Yes"
" Well then Get a smile on, cheer up a little." And say a joke or something.
Maybe the person is not only not smiling, but looks like the sky will fall or something.
On the contrary, it may not be the best approach, but why wouldn't it be okay to say so? Better than ignoring and pretending you didn't see, aka not caring at all.
One thing I absolutely despise, is when you buy something from a retail store - and the customer assistant is as grumpy as f***! Enough to spoil anyone's day! I often tell those people to brighten up cause they're looking scary...
I use to work in retail (McDonalds ffs).. Where I was punched, shouted abuse at.. You name it! And yet, I still always tried to put on a smile for the next customer!
That's a good question. I was told years ago by my boss to smile more. I told him to see me @ 3:00pm at the employees entrance when I'm leaving. I've had people say that to me and I can say or do anything from, giving them the the smile they requested or say "FUCK OFF", it depends on how I feel. Lol.
I would tell them to fuck off, mind their own business, and that they don't know me or what shit I've got going on.
It is just as rude as anything else and trying to claim it's an exception to normal social protocol because it's "happy" is just BS.
Never encountered this here in the UK , however smiles here are very rare... most people look pissed off & beaten down , also strangers rarely talk to each other , not the culture here , esp SE England & Greater London. I rarely smile myself , I admit that.
I used to tell cunts to fuck off when they said that to me. Walking along deep in thought about something and some fuckin Nigel with a spotty face and no neck squeaking at me 'cheer up it might never happen.' I end up growling up fuck off and it basically backs up the fuckers argument that I'm a miserable cunt lol. Only idiots walk about grinning all day. I dont trust people that smile too much
They just want to see you happy, but they don't know how else to put it. They don't realise that the slightest compliment will brighten someone's day and make them feel good. There's an art to getting someone's mind to switch from negative to positive, and unfortunately very few people know anything about it.
I have no idea. I typically avoid the opposite sex like the black death foe two reasons when I'm in public. Reason 1, I'm married. Reason 2, in the current climate and with the war on men, the simple act of saying hello can be seen as harassment and possibly rape by some women, so they are best avoided.
Some of us guys are programmed to make you ladies happy, when your smiling it makes us happy, comfortable makes the world beauitful, when your sad we wonder how we can fix things and our primitive sign of happiness is when you ladies smile bc im sure you ladies smile a lot to people you like yes. I try hard to make my lady friends smile when there having a bad day even if i have to sing fking disney songs out loud lol but my grandpa thought me "happy women, happy life" and i believe him.
I personally don't mind it unless the person acts snarky about it. I have had many people-usually senior citizens- tell me to smile. Honestly I don't think they mean anything negative so I just let it go.
I think most of the time it's meant harmlessly, like they're trying to make the person feel better. But it really is not a good thing to say, because it comes off like you want the person to smile for YOU, which they clearly don't owe you.
If you want to cheer someone up, just smile at them. Chances are they will smile back.
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