If guys like femininity why do they often bash feminine/girly things? (Page 3)

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What i mean is on here you often hear men saying that they like women who do  NOT  wear any makeup, don't dress up (wear dresses, skirts), wear jewelry, get there nails done, dislike heels etc... this is all part of the appearance of a feminine women.. obviously this isn't all guys but its something i've noticed on here in the comments, what is your take on it? This is PURELY a appearance thing and not about behavior by the way.

Tdieseler · Answer

I am going to go according to what you said, its true that men for the most part don't like all that you mentioned, but for different reasons. What your definition said to me was femininity = fake.
I mean, what? you need a mask (makeup), "pretty dresses" (for what)
Get their hair done (i recommend shampoo), get their nails done (get a file)... smells like high maintenance to me.
The concept most guys would tell you is that we like simplicity... and I've said this on many occasions, if a man likes a woman, he LIKES a woman, it doesn't matter What she comes with. We ain't as picky as girls, and at the same time, we don't try to change anything so we can get picked by girls.
Men dont bash femininity, we bash the complements and so-called "additives" that women add to it because they "think" thats what we like. They THINK we like it... when we just like them.

@Benedek38 said some decent shit and it seems @Cammy137 is on board too... now i want to see what they think about mine.

Schaggy · Answer

A lot of the time on here, girls ask about their appearance and guys will give the whole "no make-up is better" and stuff like that. I think it's because us guys are trying to say that a girl doesn't always need that stuff to be beautiful and there are definitely instances where a girl will totally over do it with makeup. Personally, I go crazy for a girl in a more form fitting summer dress. Nice and flowy, a nice bright pattern and just form fitting enough to show what she's working with. I'm not talking skin tight and barely any fabric. I mean it hugs in all the right places.

ImSoSquishy · Answer

i can't speak for others as we are all different individuals. but for me, i only bash on it if they over do it. i naturally prefer natural beauty, so i only like makeup on girls but only to an extent. there's a lot of girls that just cake their face with so much makeup products and powder, that you'd think if you flick their face you'll see powder floating off like some special effects from a sci-fi movie like when a character is dematerializing or something. when some girls do the cheek kiss thing as a greeting, sometimes i feel like their make up smeared on my face, and it's like wtf...

as for clothes, there's nothing much wrong with it. but when it comes to those animal pattern shirts, i don't know why but i just hate them with a passion. like i just want to rip that shit off their body and burn it. lols...

Zorax · Answer

1. Personally, I prefer naturally beautiful girls, with no makeup, or just a little bit of natural looking cosmetics (e. g face powder, concealer, foundation etc).
2. I like sporty & casual & tomboyish type of girls, that's why I don't like dresses, skirts, heels and other stuff like that.
3. I don't bash feminine things because I don't believe in gender roles, femininity and masculinity are just a social construct.
My type of woman is a modern Amazon, not some girly girl.

EragonX · Answer

Me personally I think that girls who wear too much makeup or fancy clothes and jewelry that they're trying too hard and not being their real selves. I wouldn't mind it if we're going out to eat somewhere fancy like a restaurant once in awhile but just not on a regular basis.

9teen · Answer

Stop. You're confusing two different things. Girly is not the same as feminine. Men love femininity in girls, being girly is rather annoying according to most.
A girly girl is that basic high-maintainenced dramaqueen, wearing jewelery, (cake) make up, nails done, heels, overly emotional, barbie, annoying, gossiping, pink, cocky, seeking drama etc.
A feminine woman is quite different. She embraces her femininity. She is sweet, empathic, submissive, takes care of herself and those involved with her, is good with kids, can cook, is soft hearted, appears to be kinda shy, has outstanding feminine features like big eyes, boobs, wide hips etc. Make up hasn't anything to do with femininity. It are certain features and behaviour that make a woman feminine. Men prefer feminine women who don't wear make up yes because that indicates she is confident and comfortable with herself. Besides that way there is no surprise awaiting them once she takes off the makeup

ScienceWoman · Answer

Sometimes guys don't realize how much work it is sometimes to look good, when you just want to get fat and not shave all week😆 And then there are girls who take "girly" stuff over the top which annoys me too and I am a girl ( like too much makeup, too much perfume, ridiculous trends , clothing etc).

Oram52 · Answer

I like girly girls and like girls who wear any makeup, don't dress up (wear dresses, skirts), wear jewelry, get there nails done, dislike heels etc :)

I have complained that girls have stopped putting effort in their appearance. I date high maintainance girls for a reason because they put effort in their appearance.

I'd say higher a guys standards more likely he desires these traits from girls.

MLGbreezy · Answer

Those guys are the guys that don't really know what they are talking about they try to convey this super nice guy attitude and maybe feel like girls will like them for it or something but that's my take on it. I love when girls do all those girly and feminine things not all the time but sometimes its good to do everything in moderation someday I want my baby to where no make up and some days I want too look her sexist but as long as she's happy I'm happy just wish I had a girl to call baby lol

gclark2708 · Answer

I think too much of that stuff can cause an opposite affect that drives guys away. Like too much makeup/ spray tan, talon like nails and so on. Also High heels are just impractical and painful, although they can be sexy.

Personally aside from what I just listed, I love girls looking really feminine but I also really don't mind the other look.

blkhermano · Answer

All too often people don't know what they want, they only "think" they do. A person may think they want a person with certain qualities, but when they get that they realize they don't truly like it.

Plus, some guys don't like a woman who looks all "dolled-up" for no particular reason.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah they are probably lying. Femininity is attractive to most straight men , I think what they mean by 'a girl who doesn't wear makeup' is that the girl is naturally attractive to them and if she wears any makeup that it wouldn't be noticeable. I haven't heard much of the 'dont dress up' one but I'm guessing they mean girls who are obsessed with always dressing up? so she wouldn't be able to leave the house without a full face , done hair and a girly outfit ( but this is hardly a bad thing? idek ).
Most men like girls who wear heels ( as long as she isn't super tall with the heels on or the heels are more than 5") . I mean heels have been proven to make you more attractive , but heels can fuck up your body so I'm guessing thats why some men dont like them. But that's a very small percentage of men.

Hans222 · Answer

I've never noticed it, except that some guys don't like lots of make-up.
Also, you have to take into account that if you love a girl you'll find her beautiful no matter if it's with or without make-up or accessories :D

Shar98 · Answer

I dont't really know how I should answer this. Wearing dresses skirts, etc, doesn't have to mean that you're feminine. Also anything that is toxic, for example having your nails done every two days or so (which costs a lot of money or can form An addiction) is obviously not good and I don't want to deal with someone who is so obsessive over such things. Personality is probably the main thing someone doesn't like, which doesn't correlate with femininity. Femininity isn't all about clothes. Thought it sounds like you're talking about two different guys here, or a Guy who is ignorant/doesn't know what hé wants

dandee55 · Answer

First, please don't use all italics and bold. That's not how they're supposed to be used, and it makes it harder to read. practicaltypography.com/bold-or-italic.html

I haven't heard "bashing" of femininity -- maybe "high maintenance". For me, I don't mind some makeup but not too much (it looks whorish); I love dresses, skirts (but that's not necessarily "dressing up" - as there are casual dresses/skirts); I don't care for jewelry, period; I don't like colored nails; and yes, I dislike high heels (or at least spiked heels - again, they make her look like a whore/prostitute). But, these things don't really have to do with femininity (except maybe for dresses). And you didn't mention hair. Hair that's too short is unfeminine -- especially this shaving the side of the head thing.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Some guys have different types whereas women all like the same thing lol

martinezi · Answer

Femininity is not in the dresses, makeup or etc. It is in the person, on how they move, how they talk and carry themselves. Makeup and dresses are there to emphasise the feminine qualities. I love feminine women, I can look at them, listen to them and admire them the whole day. And like about everything else in life you shouldn't just listen to what people say, but watch what they do. Feminine things are a big industry, have always been and always will be, as they work. You just have to strike the balance between being your naked self or being a fake someone else. Somewhere in between there is a place where you emphasise your features and qualities. Remember, you can't make everyone happy and this app is a small community. So probably doesn't represent the whole population.

ThePetSquirrel · Answer

Maybe their perception of femininity differs from others'?
As for what you listed, I really only like when a girl dresses up and wears some jewelry. But I still like a feminine woman. I'm not saying I want a girl to wear dresses or skirts all the time, but on occasion, it'd be nice.

dolemite68 · Answer

I think both sexes have a very a la carte approach to the opposite sex, we want all the good things about femininity/masculinity but none of the bad stuff that comes with it

CubsterShura · Answer

I don't have a problem with this. I love all those girly stuff and I know that my man will definitely love this side of me. I mean, why would he even love me if it isn't for everything about me?

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