Does anyone else feel like they don't relate or get along with people their age?

I don't really get along with people my age. I personally think they are too immature and disrespectful. I get along better with people who are older than me. Like when I have a conversation with someone in their late twenties or thirties, it is a good convo but if I have a convo with someone my age or in their early twenties I usually don't like talking to them. There are some people my age I like talking to but for the most part I can't stand them.

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  • I'm with you on that. Older people have more interesting/varying stories/more perspective. Most of the most enjoyable conversations I've had are with people in their 50s or so.

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  • I think that this is incredibly common and normal, and especially common for girls of... well "your age." But it is really more about being a young girl. Young girls fall into a unique category of being generally prepared for a more adult life than guys of their age, but lack the social structures to meet other people more broadly.

    Women at 40 don't experience this. Men at no age experience this. It is uniquely girls in their late teens who have matured, in life at least, to a point that they are ready to leap into adult things. But boys that age are still building up to that point.

    So while it might "seem" like an 18 yo girl should date an 18 yo boy for the best "match", it's not at all true. First, because girls are generally more mature at that point. But second because girls seek maturity. So it is generally, actually, a terrible matching.

    Once you are older the boys will catch up and you'll notice this disappear.

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  • I feel the same way it's weird like you and the people your age aren't even from the same millinum or something it's actually sad

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  • I tend to judge by what people have to say rather than how old they are. It's interesting to get different perspectives. That said, if someone is culturally alien to me then I might struggle. If someone uses terms like "that's lit" or "on fleek" I will probably need an interpreter.

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  • I'm 46. Most of my friends are either 15-20 years older than me or 10-20+ years younger.

    Age isn't the issue. It's maturity and strength of character that counts.

    If you're more comfortable with more mature people then why not. Age is nothing but a number anyway.

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  • I have always gotten along and related better with people older than me. I used to think it was because I was more mature than people my age but then as I got older I realized being older doesn't really have as much to do with maturity as I had always thought because I still feel the same way 90% of the time and Im not exactly a teenager anymore.

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  • I don't relate that well to people my age as well, our ways of thinking are more than a bit different. I seem to relate better with younger people, like kids, but people my age think they're so mature and such, that sometimes I just want to facepalm. Anyone else get that feeling. I find it hilarious that some people who try to tell me to mature are the ones who do the stupid stuff they do.

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  • You just have a bit more knowledge then the people your age. Not that your more mature, you just simply know more. If you can find someone your age (which virtually doesn’t exist) that has the passion for knowledge and good banter that you would like, then you would be better off

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  • I feel. Same goes for me. I feel that kids my age won't actually feel me and they won't get the point I'm trying to get across. Sometimes they get immature and disrespectful as you said. So yeah you're not the only one lol

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  • The reason is some people have an older spirit like your spirit or soul has been here before and learned like me I've been told by other spiritually rooted people things that I knew about my self but I just thought I was crazy not I know that people like that are gifted

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  • I totally agree with you since i was 15 i used to have friends 3-5 years older than me. Even when i went to college my friends were older and my girlfriend too. Now im 21 and my girlfriend is 24.

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  • Oh hell yeah and I hate it. I am an old guy (53) but usually only attracted to women 35 and younger. I have very little common interests with women my own age so I am drawn to the younger ones. Needless to say I am single.

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  • I think the adults that surround me are way too inmature. I can't stand their fake relationships or narcisistic conversations
    Of course we both are generalizing and its always exceptions but anyways i used to feel that way

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  • I don't relate as in I don't drink, or party, or rave, or glued to my phone as much as some, or techno music,

    and the fact that I'd assume a lot of people my age know little about minor league baseball history

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  • Yeah I got interested in philosophy around the 3rd grade and at this time I've.. come a long way and I've thought about my life, the music I listen to, the things I do, the things I feel and think, basically I've never met anyone similar to me because they all seem to say I'm not normal, and they dont seem to understand me at all, yet it makes a lot of girls curious, but I'm interested in a really intelligent girl, well I guess a dark girl in terms of perspective on life, a philosophical girl, etc

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  • Sometimes to most of the time I feel like I was born in the wrong era

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  • I haven't felt like I relate or get along with people my age since middle school. I've also been told many times that I have an old soul.

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  • I agree with this wholeheartedly. I can't really stand anyone my age.

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  • It's very common. You are probably more mature than others and can't stand the bs

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  • Same for me, can't really relate to people my age and I usually get easily bored with them. I get along better with people 10 to 15 years older than me, always been like this.

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  • That's because your very mature people your age can't relate to you because mentally your so much more advanced than your peers

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  • Age is just a number in lots of things in life, not only in relationships.

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  • Probably because you are too mature for your age and that kind of maturity is rare in teenagers. Thus older and wise people attracts you more.

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  • Most of the people I relate best with aren't my age

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  • Nothing wrong with that I was the same and a fair few of my friends are too. Sometimes you just click with older people and feel more comfortable.

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  • Same here, but you should not feel bad about it. This makes you diffrent from most people, so you can consider yourself special in a good way.

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  • Yep, me. I'm not mature, or even feeling like an adult enough to talk to them. I get along more with people younger.

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  • I've never gotten along with most people, or "fit in" anywhere until recently. In highschool I played football, was in drama, played chess, etc. I couldn't relate to any group. I started volunteering at a firehouse a few years ago, and the wo/men there shared similar personality traits, goals, etc. as I - I finally found where I felt like I belonged, so I became a firefighter.

    My point is, that it's difficult for some people to find others they can relate to; if you only have one, or maybe two close friends, you fit in this boat. You just need to keep looking and you'll eventually find your "people" or "person" :)

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  • Age is only a number. Enjoy who you enjoy being around.

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  • same i love talking to older people like 20s to 30s and its fun

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  • I know what you mean. There are some exceptions to the rule, but yea, totally get what you're saying

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  • I relate, and this has usually been my experience. Looking back, it wasn't just a fascination with a period of history or culture that was at the root, though. I think it had less to do with the age of others itself, and more to do with finding others that were living and seeing the world through their own eyes. These incredible minds, hearts, and souls that stood out against the bleak landscape of norms and stereotypes were dissatisfied with throwing in and compromising their identity to/with the (name a group. Any group) and insisted on being their own person. Artist, intellectual, caregiver, unapologetic nerd... whatever it was that fulfilled them, they reached for, and that made them memorable.
    I still don't relate closely with my demographics. I am, however, better at finding out what is unique about the people around me, even when they appear incredibly mainstream, given the opportunity to have a real conversation with them.

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  • yes me l like to talk with younger and daye younger

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  • Yeah. I tend to have a better rapport with people in their 30's and 40's

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  • I completely agree, I haven`t had many good relationships with people in my age group

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  • I felt like that when I was your age too, I’m at the point in life where I want my friends to be nice and funny, but immature a big no! Being a senior in college it’s getting more difficult each year to tolerate people.

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  • I’m the exact same way. Like to the point where I don’t go out really at all because there are no people other than my close circle of three friends that I can tolerate around my age. I don’t even date because of it. I sit at home hating my whole generation tbh.

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  • I feel completely same. All my friends are either older than me or younger than me but not the same age. I just think people at my age are too immature, too rude and too mainstream.

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  • I mainly Get Along with People all Ages Under the Sun, hun, but Online Sometime... Cam irk my Liver Livid. lolxx

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  • Yes I do, I feel the same way you do... I am the 2nd youngest of 7 and I grew up being told 'to grow up'. Ever since then its changed me to become more different and mature and that I get along with people way older than me

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  • Yes I so agree! I'm the same way I hate people like my age they are so immature and childish. Very selfish also. I get along great with older people and that's why my boyfriend is older than me

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  • I understand. Even though I have friends my age but I click mote with people above 20.
    My best friend is the only person I can stand but that's because we have almost the same personality of not bothering the other more than needed. Other than that we just do a bit of fan girling.

    Except her, I am irritated by all of them. I feel that their view on life is just too unrealistic, like they are living in a dream. But when talking to older people I like how rational their thoughts are.
    I admit some people enjoy being kidish but that's different. I don't mind that.

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  • I’m the same way. I hang out with older adults or little children I take care of

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  • Same here I felt like I was the older one in my group of friends before I graduated. Which was recent

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  • Yeah I felt that way when I was a teenager.

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  • yea most my people are older than me

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  • Sometimes

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  • No, whether or not I get along with someone is based more on their personality and interests rather than their age.

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  • I don't get along with people my age, i have a natural instinct to wanna just tell them what they are doing is wrong.
    But I'm not the parent.
    I get along with people much older than me they are smarter and don't smack other girls asses.

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