Why isn't he trying harder to keep up the convo when he's the one who likes me?

[soccershortie50]

This guy has been trying to talk to me for the last year and it's never worked out because I've been skeptical of him because he can be a player, but recently we talked about it and he told be that he wants a real girlfriend- someone he can trust and who won't screw him over like the other people he's dated. I've known him for a while and he's serious and he wouldn't try to pull something on me because he knows I won't take any of that. So I decided to give him a chance, but when he texts me, he never contributes to the conversation and gives short answers, and I just end up not responding because I feel like I'm wasting my time. Since he's the one who has been trying to talk to me, I thought he would at least put a little more effort in since I'm finally giving him a chance. What's going on?

[Arwens-Fire]

He may be awful at texting. This world of technology is so impersonal...not everyone is on the texting bandwagon. If his conversations were terrible in person...that would be something to consider.Texting is really not that serious. Maybe try calling him instead? Also,from my own experience,if a person is constantly on the fence about someone they are trying to date, or may have the possibility of dating...its not going to work out if you are constantly on guard about the individual.It just stagnates things,or causes tension. Either he wants to be with you,or not and VICE VERSA. If your gut is distrusting of him,then maybe you shouldn't give it a try. Just because some one is going after you,it doesn't mean you have to allow them to catch you. Good luck!

[CatherineTheSoSo]

Sounds like neither of you are really giving the other a chance. Do you initiate chats sometimes? Give him a way to answer a question that is more than a yes or no? Prod him a little bit to at least show /your/ interest? Hell maybe he just doesn't know how to text and does better with phone conversations or being there in person.

I mean come on, you're already on guard with this guy for his past and he has been trying to get to you for a while now. If you really mean that you'll give him a chance stop keeping him at arm's length unless he enjoys the chase.

[Pyrusmole]

I've had the same problem this guy has. He just doesn't know what to say. It's the inherent flaw with texting. There is no situation to talk about so you're forced to create one. The reason he can't keep up the conversation is because he doesn't know what to talk about. It can be hard.

Let me guess, he's much better at keeping the conversation up when you talk to him face to face.