When do you think is a right age to think if you're LGBT+?

Bth I don't think anyone under adult age should be 100% sure that they're LGBT+ cause their brains are still developing and there's other things to worry about other than LGBT+. Im not LGBT+ or homophobic. This is just my opinion, feel free to disagree.
When do you think is a right age to think if you're LGBT+?
When do you think is a right age to think if you're LGBT+?
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  • The right age to think is whenever you feel that is the case.

    But I don't think we should be telling kids to care about this stuff until they're older.

    Without anyone having to tell me I just assumed that same sex couples were a thing and that was all I needed. I didn't need sex ed trying to beat tolerance for homosexuals into me and I think doing that messed kids up. Just let it come up casually like: "Hey mum why are those guys kissing? Some people are attracted to people the same sex as them rather than the opposite, the world has all sorts of people dear." Job done. Childhood preserved.

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  • You can't be completely sure about your sexuality before you've reached adulthood and are in your 20's, or at least older than 18. Before that you may have clues on what you might be because of teenage crushes, but the minds changes and develops a lot during the teenage years, so it's not that easy to tell. Sometimes you won't know your own sexuality without having sex with multiple people of multiple genders.

    Transsexuals can't be sure either before they've reached adulthood and enough maturity to know the long term consequences or effects etc. No one should undergo hormone treatment or surgeries before adulthood either because children aren't mature enough taking such big and irreversible decisions. There are many cis-gender people starting to follow the trans-trend and regretting the changes they've gone through.

    Anyway, there's no big deal labeling yourself as the wrong sexuality and experimenting since it's not permanent. But going through a sex change is permanent and therefor you've to think through it. I think adults over 18 can do what they wants to with their bodies and lives though.

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  • When someone knows, they know. It's not something that waits for a time schedule. I had a pretty good idea of my sexuality as a small child, and was sure-sure by the time I was 11.

    When are you allowed to figure out you're heterosexual?

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  • People usually know when they’re very young even if they come out later. Toddlers know if they’re a boy or a girl and elementary schoolers have crushes so it makes sense that a young child would know if they’re trans, gay, etc.

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  • Children bearly understand what a gender is let alone the implications and scale of sex reassignment. The issue is so dangerous if misdiagnosed or if you misunderstood your desires, that we need trained psychologists just to be able to correctly identify true cases. It is absurd to put any stock in the opinion of a child.

    Attraction to the same gender is a much more straight forward concept and the risks involved in experimenting and than changing your mind are minimal.

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  • There is no right age. There is no age restrictions on being heterosexual. I grew up in a heterosexual environment everyone around me is straight. However, I knew I liked girls the same way my straight friends liked boys. However, I remained closeted because it was not safe (so I thought) for me to come out yet.

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  • I had a crush on a boy in my class when I was 7. Not sure why the same can't be applied to LGBT people. Also grown adults have no problem forcing sexuality on even toddlers. I've heard plenty of grown adults call a toddler a lady killer or a heartbreaker.

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    • They thinks so because they supports a hetero-normative and cis-normative society, since being both heterosexual and cis-gender are most common.

    • @curiousnorway It's really gross. I remember being pre-teen and being told that I had nice long legs that will get boys attention.

  • A child will know that they are attracted to the same gender as soon as straight people know lol. Transgenderism is a different issue though, because there is a lot of miscommunication about what it is. Some people think tomboys are trans when in reality one is only trans if they experienced a birth defect (brain developed as a mismatched gender) that leads to gender dysphoria. So a tomboy kid might misunderstand what trans is and start testosterone when she really should be doing no such thing.

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  • Is there any right age to think you're straight? If you have a crush on a little girl instead of a little boy like the rest of your friends then surprise, you're a lesbian! It's not bad and ever hone forces being straight onto them. Not everyone needs plain sex between a man and woman to fulfill their life, not everyone wants kids.

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  • It's a mental illness. There are only 2 genders and the only way to procreate is through heterosexual intercourse. If your mind is telling you different you have a mental illness.

    Of course people can be born intersex and that is real but very rare.

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    • It's a mental disorder yes. There are only two genders. If someone can take antidepressants and sedatives to aid them in their anxiety disorder, someone with a gender disorder should be able to transition to ease their distress.

    • @MascGirls There should be no transition of any kind men are men women are women when science starts supporting lies like there are 99 genders and trannies aren't mentally ill that is when you know it is just lies being told to support an agenda

  • You know who you're attracted to basically as soon as you hit puberty. It's normal to have crushes at like 12 or 13, gay people just happen to have those crushes on the same gender.

    It's not obscene or inappropriate or something they're too young for, it's just normal crushes like every child gets.

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  • It isn't that simple. It's been proven that people start exploring their sexuality in their early teenage years. The journey is different for everyone. There are no rules. No "should". If that's your case, cool. But some people do know what they're into since their early teenage years. You can ask any psychologist or psychiatrist and they'll say the same thing. Oh, and the brain isn't fully developed when you turn 18 either.
    -med student who has taken several psych classes

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  • There is no particular age. It's based on when you discover your sexuality. The thing is, from a young age, despite the brain still developing (it doesn't stop until 25 or so depending on the individual), one can still know what interests them and what does not. It's like discovering a new food and liking it or not. We have the capability past puberty to determine our sexuality by what interests us... sexually.

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  • I didn't know there was different ages where you should and shouldn't think about what you are. This seems strange; wouldn't you want to figure yourself out as early as possible?

    I am not sure what LGBT+ means though. Is this something different than figuring out your mental health or personal beliefs? If so then my answer may not apply properly, and I'm sorry, I'll need more information.

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    • Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, etc.

    • @MlleCake Oh it's an acronym. Okay, thanks.

      In that case though it's not as much thinking about what you are as it is deciding what you want to be. That is different, but I still think you should be thinking about that at any age that you want to and your parents allow. If your parents encourage it at an early age but you don't want to, respect them by having the discussion and thinking through it at an early age anyways. If you want to think about it at an early age, but your parents don't want you to until you're older, then respect them by not making decisions or thinking through that choice until the age they set.

      In this situation I would say like with relationships, philosophy, and other important decisions, the parents should have the say if they claim it on when and somewhat what it is, while you are living with them. After all they are your parents.

  • There's no age limit. Some people know at a very young age, others are unsure until later in life, some people just end up in denial for a long time... and then there are those who are just confused.

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  • there's lesbian, gay, bi and asexual. you usually find out which of those you are in the wake of or shortly after puberty, if not earlier than that.

    gender dysphoria can be diagnosed at a preteen age.

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  • Sexuality changes with age, most gay people realize they actually are not gay when they are ready to settle down but they are trapped in all the gayness, its around this time that they start with heavy smoking, drug use, partying, its like an lgbt midlife crisis.

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    • Exactly and liberals are taking it so far just to piss off conservatives that they are brainwashing young kids and ruining their lives and will possibly lead to their kids committing suicide just over a fake political cause

  • There is no age. Someone could know when they are fifty or they could be four. You know when you know.

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  • If you feel like it, don't try to fight it much, it's something natural.
    However the younger you are the less you should worry about, when you are nearing 18 then you can be more sure of your feelings stability, after that they (ususaly) don't change much.
    So take time to see if it's really true, the older you are the more certain you will be, and if it is, it's natural and you don't need to be afraid of it

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  • This depends. If we're talking sexuality then most people know even before puberty, if we're talking trans you can think whatever you want but you must be an adult before we even consider this as anything other than a child having issues with his/her gender.

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  • Maybe like 16+. I used to be a bit against it, but now I feel like people can be like that if they feel like it (doesn't include trans). For example I've met couple very cute and smart lesbian girls at the club. I liked them and I don't think I could never say to them that they have a wrong sexuality. Of course I told them my lesbian girl pick up line "Can I change your mind". 😃

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  • I was sure I was straight when I was like 10 so I don't see why the same couldn't apply to LGBT peeps

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  • The LGBT community was established to instill division amongst the people who disagree. It is also being used as a gateway into pedophilia.

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    • How did I know I'd find a few right wing wackos here?

      I can count at least 3-4 people here that I know are alt-right.

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    • Actually, I categorize them because I have the familiarity with the topic to do so. I'm not naive enough to give the alt-right the benefit of the doubt.

    • Nada_Brahma is 100% right the left tried to normalize gays and trannies next is trying to normalize pedophiles which is the same sort of sickness and they will try to say science backs it up which these days science is just full of lies to back up ridiculous theories anymore and the same idiots who fell for the LGBT nonsense the same ones on this post badmouthing right wingers will be the same ones defending pedos in a year

  • At least 30. Half of young people who identify as GLBT grow out of it and later identify as straight.

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    • That's called being indecisive, not being too young to decide.

      There's no such thing as a "Right age" to think you're LGBT.
      If there is? Then you're not allowed to think you're straight until then either.

  • I knew I wasn't straight by the time I turned 10, before I was even aware that there were women out there that were attracted to other women. My earliest years were spent in a kind of country rural town, and being queer wasn't even a topic of discussion. I was also attracted to boys, so I considered myself just like everyone else.

    It's not a decision at any age, though sexuality can be fluid depending on where you are in life. There's no "right age" for things like this, because every person is different.

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  • When you start to notice and you get turned on by the thought.

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  • Lbgt feeling and attracted to words same gender comes before 18

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    • Ya but sometimes it’s just caused by hormones in puberty, I used to think I was bisexual in high school because I was attracted to dudes for a while but as soon as puberty ended the attraction ended, so like you can be gay under 18 but you might be just temporarily bi curious

  • I say let them figure themselves out and say what they wanna be when they want

    Some are well aware of their sexuality by 14, others may not find out they are queer until they're in their 30's

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  • I discovered it when I was 9 I didn’t know what it was then didn’t anything until I was 16 came out after high school. Being gay isn’t a choice it’s who you are.

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  • The human brain continues to develop until age 25, so it would be grossly irresponsible to make any such decisions before that age.

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    • Being lgbt isn't a decision

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    • @shi-shi
      To be heterosexual is the natural order.
      We are made male and female.
      Any departure from that is contrary to the order of nature.

    • Contrary to order of nature or not, a person's sexual preferences are not their decision, and it should not be treated as such.

      The decision to come out is theirs, but simply being that way is not.

  • She doesn't matter. Most people start thinking about their sexuality in their teens. So if they feel they're LGBT+ then they're free to do so.

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  • Anyone can feel that way. I mean yes people change but you know who you're into at the time.

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  • No age should support this bullshit. Lol, they had too many letters and just settled on +

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  • There isn't a "Right age".

    I see questions like this a lot, but wanna know what I never see?

    "When do you think is the right age to decide you're straight?"
    But it's basically the same.
    If you don't know if you're LGBT+, then you don't know if you're straight either.

    LGBT+ children need helping through the bullying and abuse they get.
    They don't need to be told that they're too young to know who they like.

    I never see people going up to a cis heterosexual child and saying, "No, You can't say you're straight. You're far too young to decide your sexuality."

    Trans people?
    They get the whole thing of,
    "Give it a few more years so you know it's not just a phase."
    Cis people don't get that.

    LGB and Anyone else who isn't straight?
    They get questions like this.
    "You're too young to decide who you like."

    Straight kids aren't.
    Heck, a straight 9 year old? Fine.
    An LGBT 17 year old? Much too young to decide.

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  • 13-15. I think that children younger than that are easily influenced and could end up becoming lgbt just because they see it.

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  • Post-Puberty at the earliest. Before that it is 100% parental/peer/societal influences.

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  • I don't remember how life was before I was -18 because only 18 years later I was born

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  • I knew I was a lesbian when I was about 13, and my brother is friends with a gay kid who's 11.

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  • Puberty would be the earliest you could reasonably. have even a feeling about it.

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  • Id say 16+. You can change of course but you probably have a concept of what turns you on.

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    • You cannot change sexual orientation

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    • Here's a summary of current and ongoing studies: www.sciencenews.org/.../genetics-dna-homosexuality-gay-orientation-attractiveness-straight
      TDLR: There is no specific "gay gene" but there are significant links between genetics and homosexuality.
      Yes, environmental factors and the ways our body changes affect how we perceive our orientation. For example, a homosexual individual who was raised in a strongly homophobic environment is likely to think or to pretend that they are heterosexual. Also, it isn't until a certain age do we start being attracted to people, and someone homosexual might originally think that they were heterosexual as a child (having been raised in an environment in which heterosexuality is the norm) but as they grow up realize that they aren't attracted to the opposite gender, but rather the same.

    • @MascGirls Science also says we were a fish first so yea take that as you will lol

  • Other, as in never.

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  • Probably 15-16-ish.

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  • people may know at age 6

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  • As soon as you know

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  • There is no right age. It's bad cause it's gay.

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  • Anyone who voted below 18 is a child abuser lmfao

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    • Exactly if you are being serious.

    • Uhh... No?
      Quite frankly, if you think that saying "My child can decide their own sexuality" is abuse?

      Then you need to buy a dictionary.

      I know that that's a lot of reading for someone of your... Mental capacity.
      But don't worry! You'll find "Abuse" pretty early on and realise you're wrong hopefully.

    • @Troy898 oh sorry you're too obsolete to realize there are free dictionaries online, I know my words thank you, and I know that letting a child destroy their own life so early in it is neglect and abuse, grow up and learn to at least try and have a discussion, don't prove to me that you're an ape like all other retarded liberals.

      Thanks for reading.

  • 25yo

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  • I don't know 44?

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  • When you're ready for sexy time.

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    • by the way kids can have same sex crushes without being LGBT.

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    • I'm not calling you stupid.
      For all I know, you could be a genius.

      I'm just saying, in my opinion, your opinion is stupid.

  • You can start seeing signs around puberty I think, but I wouldn't put a strict label on it. I thought I was LGBT at that time, but it turns out I was just really confused and I'm definitely straight. I think 18+ is when you know for sure what you like.

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  • Really, it shouldn’t take long in my opinion to discover your own sexuality. How stupid are people? It’s normal to get crushes on little boys or girls at a young age. I always knew I was straight. I had crushes as young as elementary and then fell in love hard at my teens.

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