Hello everyone. I have never done this but I can't take it anymore and what a better place then this. Straight to the point I'm bisexual hold on give me a second to breathe... It just feels so good to say it without hidden and I have a girlfriend who is a lesbian well I had, the thing is we just broke up today for the simple reason the she doesn't wanna admit to her family and friends the she's a lesbian and she's been living with me for a very long time to the point the we got engaged well she decided to throw away all of this beautiful relationship because she doesn't wanna admit who she is but the problem is the because of her I can't let anyone know who I am either because that would expose her with my family and close friends so here I am broken drowning in a ocean of tears because she decided to not reveal her self. She grab her things and left and let me tell you is the 3 time she does this but this time I told her no more of me been stupid and taking her back is over this time. Any advice? Or anything really, I would really appreciated and please don't tell me " move on " because I already know that and I will. I wanna hear something the can make me stop crying please. Thank you.
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It turns out the I told my girlfriend when ever you leave I decided today to tell my family and because of that she decided to tell my mother the she's a lesbian and the I'm her girlfriend and my mother told me right after I confess to her the I'm bisexual so my girlfriend instead of telling her own family she decided to tell mine. That make me so upset and that's BS. She had no right to steal away my choices because I never did that to her. I never force her to come out and admit the she's a lesbian to anyone. She choose to leave me behind. All my family now knows and they all already had the feeling and they all accepted me and nothing had changed, it matter of fact they all started making jokes and it make me feel better.
I'm your family accepted you and are making you feel better. There's not much to say on this really - you loved her and she hurt you really badly (in the process of hurting herself too really), you're gonna be in so much pain and heartbreak and you'll probably feel like nothing could ever make you feel better, but something will, whether it's a small thing or a big thing, whether it's permanent or temporary. This will impact you for the rest of your life most likely, but you're out and proud, you'll learn to move on with it, and eventually you'll get over her. She sounds awful, outing you but not herself, and I can truly understand the hesitation she has over coming out to her family, and the fear of getting rejected, but it is ultimately her choice to stay hidden or not. You have your family, and you're being yourself. Your life doesn't end here, even if it feels like it - you're loved and you will be happy
Thank you for sharing your story and its good to hear you have a supportive family! I'm incredibly sorry you didn't get to be the one to come out in your own way and it sounds like you are better off not being around your ex anymore.
It's hard to admit your sexuality to those closest to you and maybe one day we get to a point that we never have to. Nobody ever has to come out as being straight after all.
I hope you find someone who doesn't treat you like a dirty secret and actually wants to be with you.
Hurt people hurt people. Emotions control…and she is in fear and shame and who knows what else. It’s not right nor mature adult…but par for the course when things are messed up in relationship…eg have you seen the Johnny drop amber heard debacle? The truth will set you free…Jesus was right about that. I’m not lgbtq but I’ve had my own emotional issues that turned up and exposed in confidence so can relate to how that might feel for betrayal.
doesn't count if you’re anonymous I’m Christian and try to get more lgbt people in the church because Jesus came for the people who needed him not the righteous and I hate that so many in that community feel like outcast and have been mistreated by Christian’s though I can’t support your lifestyle my sin is no better than yours and the lord would love to welcome you as his child despite your faults
What she did is totally bullshit, with that being said you can't force her to come out. She has to do it on her own terms. Unless you want to be an asshole like her and then go tell her family and you don't come across like that kind of person. I don't know why you couldn't keep it the way you guys had it. It's nobody's business whether you're engaged or not. You could have continued living together just like you were and nothing would have changed
if you are lesbian, gay, bi, trans or whatever else non standard sexuality, stay the fuck away from that toxic hellhole of a community.
this isn't even really a non standard sexuality issue. you're with a partner who's in public denial about who they are. they are forcing you to live their lie in order to stay with them... if i was you, i'd leave them behind.
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If it keeps happening you will just get hurt again. If she really cares about you, she won't do this to you. You care more about her than she does about you. I know that feeling.
