Why am I here? I just need to know if my feeling and mind will change and if I’ll ever do anything significant. Anyone?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 15 year old black girl. My mother is Caribbean with a bit of Arawak in her. I’m a light brownish skinned. My mother has beautiful dark skin. I have extremely wide, fat shoulders and a skinny lower body. My mother has always been fit and slender, and my sisters are all beautiful. My nose is wide but my lips are small.
I have such a wide face. I have terrible 4c hair, I already have hip dips. I’m so tired of people telling me I’ll change.

Look at every 15 year old girl out there and tell me they aren’t already beautiful. It must be nice to be slim, or at least thick. I have so many blemishes everywhere. I’m so immature I have no identity. All of these boys and girls out here my age are already having sex with each other and stuff, learning, while I’m still stuck.

I don’t know anything about either of my cultures my era as a Gen Z’er. I’m only a teen, it’s supposed to be the best time of my life. But if the rest of my mental and emotional life is going to be worse than this, I’m not sure I want to see that. So, ultimately, my question is, why am I here?

[MorticiAddams]

Being a teenager sucks. Being the less attractive sister also sucks. Having no sense of purpose yet sucks. Anyone who tells you being a teen was the best years of their life was a bully in high school who couldn't succeed in real life. Everything from 13-19 is a total shitstorm of regrettable decisions.
But it passes.
YOU won't change. Your body will always have hip dips, and broad shoulders, and 4c hair. But you'll figure out how to use them. How to dress and style yourself in a way that makes you happy... I'm near 27 and only just settling into what makes me look really good! (And for the record, 4c curls have a LOT of architectural styling potential, strong shoulders are boss, and hip dips can be veeeerrrrryyyyy sensual! 🤤)
And the world around you will change. People will get more mature. Their tastes and aesthetic values will diversify. And you'll find people jealous of your features. I guarantee it.
As for identity... that's a bitch. I'm still working on it... but identity is something that develops and evolves well into adulthood. I had no idea who I was at 15. I was a human Trainwreck in very bad clothes with unformed opinions. Don't feel pressured to settle in an identity. Try a bunch on. Try being different people. Figure out what you like. Or wait a while... and new options and ways of thinking about yourself will present themselves with time.
My best advice is find something you care about. If it's a hobby, a school subject, a social issue, a fandom, a creative project WHATEVER. Just find something that you can be excited about and let yourself be excited about that. Don't be afraid to be idiotically passionate about something... because those passions and the skills they'll lead you to cultivate are what will lead you into a more open, more interesting future.

[SueShe]

Everyone has a burden to carry and nobody on this earth has ever been asked if she/he would like to be born. You and I have been placed here, basically against our wish.

You and I and all the 7+ billion humans have to make the best out of it. You seem dissatisfied about your looks at age 15 and you seem to be stuck solely at the looks. What about your inner beauty, your character and personality?

Not having had sex at age 15 is a benefit and not a curse. Why do you put so much importance on something as trivial as being intimate at age 15?

You physiology is different than the ones of your mother and siblings. Beauty comes from the inside and not from this outer shell. Physical beauty fades with time while the inner beauty stays the entire life.

It is not because you did not have sexual experience until now that you have to feel bad about it. Be proud of it instead because it saved you a lot of disappointments and tears. Concentrate on your future, not your past. The person that will love you for whom you are will come as certain as the next rain. It may not be today or tomorrow but reward comes to the one that is patient. Good luck!

[brigfrey25]

You gotta try to find yourself. They did what they felt they should do. You shouldn't think or do stuff based on others choice.


And yes the now you and the now in future can be completely different completely changed person. All depends on what you gonna decide to do today.

Life gets seriously complicated the more you sit down and think about it. Just enjoy stop all this deep thinking. ✌️

[brigfrey25]

* you now and you in future 🤦

[madgoat]

Teen is not the best time of your life for many people. I don't know why people say otherwise. You have far more control, experience and opportunity in your life as an adult. So I suggest the best is yet to come.

[Plitty-Tank]

Sometimes people just are born and their mental health is not good.

[Asker]

Wdym

[Iron_Man]

For God