What's the difference between being a negative person and just venting/complaining about sometime that's happening in your life?

[jgirl99]

Where do we draw the line for the distinction between 'negative personality' and ' response to negative situations' (if I'm making sense)

[Obtuse]

That's too difficult of a distinction to draw for me as an observer. I can't read minds. I have to go based on actions and what's being communicated to me. So if someone is complaining all the time, and especially without any humorous undertone to it, and looks moody and grumpy all the time, or crying all the time, I have to assume they interpret a lot of things in the worst ways possible and feed on their own negativity. It's going to be quite unusual to find people in the extremities here who are upset and complaining all the time but are actually thinking all positively inside.

The one case where I might see a discrepancy is for comedians and really humorous types. Sometimes you see people whose comedic act takes on an angry, ranting type of comedy, and in those cases I suspect they're not actually that angry or that upset. It's all part of their humor and way of laughing at situations and inviting others to laugh as well.

[Obtuse]

Like a Bill Burr. If you look at him, his comedy sounds so angry, so filled with rants, and if we just go at face-value of the words he says in a transcript, he might sound like the most negative person on the planet. Yet he's laughing and getting people laughing doing that, so I suspect it's all part of his act to exaggerate his ramblings and complaints and he's probably quite a positive person able to cope with stressful situations very effectively. He probably deliberately looks for things to complain about as a source of comedic material.

[Obtuse]

You look at humorous people like that and I suspect they're actually quite positive people. Because you can't find a funny spin to a situation if it's genuinely making you very upset. It's like people who come up with very witty comebacks to an insult probably aren't very upset by the insult since if they were actually very upset by it, they wouldn't be able to think clearly enough to come up with a clever and funny retort.

[Totti94]

The quality define are you boss or leader... But you have confident best friend or soulmate near you... at least father or mother as bestie... You will rock. But never stop trying... And start in one way very quickly... In the meantime you can find some alternative and correction... You will finish great.. you will become positive and boost near you reach 35-40 % of work...

The things is you must start in a way as soon as possible... Have good discussion and field analysis... But keep moving and go forward

[Totti94]

Thanks for #MHO

[Aya17]

A negative person will view most to every situation negatively. They are pessimists. So they'll only see the worst aspects of situations they're put into. Whereas a person that is just venting/complaining about something that's bothering them, most likely just wants to get it off their chest, because talking about things that are bothering you often makes you feel better afterwards. However if someone is always venting and complaining, then they're no different from a plain ole negative person 😂.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I think venting is normal and is a good way to relieve stress when the pressure has gotten to you. I think the difference between venting and having a negative attitude is how much you do it. It's perfectly normal to vent about stress you've had building up for awhile, but complaining for a good portion of every day is just negativity.

It's good to try to look at all of the positives in your life and try to remain positive, but we all need to vent sometimes.

[ecfresh]

One way is to witness how someone reacts when challenged. A negative person will create excuses and try things to avoid the challenge because in their mind they will certainly fail. Someone who vents in a healthy manner may seem frustrated but they will sometimes use that frustration as energy to meet and overcome the challenge.

[RLovesD7792forever]

The amount of complaining and whining and bitching one does. if it's a continuation with no positivity at all then it's a negative person. if the person does show or tell you about positive things then it's just venting and complaining. and it also depends on how much that person complains

[ericsteve]

Agreed

[Aaron_Stone]

whenever you have discussion you always talk about your problems and keep complaining and whining that's when people call you negative person.
Keep problems to yourself. Talk about positive stuff in your life.
Instead of whining and complaining discuss about solving problems.
Everyone has problems how you deal with makes you mature positive or negative person.

[Blueeyes81]

How often an the length that you carry on. If you complain every day and it drags on for years, its you. Mostly venting is a once or twice type of deal. Where as a toxic negative person is constant.

[Faithfullycrazy]

If someone is constantly venting, saying pessimistic shit, always crying about things without coming up with solutions etc then I'd say that person is negative.

[scooogy]

I can smile and even laugh despite the stress, even though to others it seemed like I was a negative person.

[Bravesgirl20]

I guess if someone is complaining all the time, it can be construed for being a negative person

[Bman4907]

venting happens sometimes, negativity happens regularly

[chriscdi]

when someone complains about very small things, it usually means they are a negative person in general

[TacosRAwesome]

The frequency of complaining and the attitude about it.

[jakeofalltrades]

frequency

[George090]

It’s just selfish