I'm not only referring to being rejected by the opposite sex. It can also be job university applications, being rejected by family e. t. c.
Does constant rejection build or break character?
Yes, as someone who's grown up with a lot of difficulties I've really struggled.
I couldn't have a lot of the things other kids did. I have dyslexia, dyspraxia and short term memory lost as well as coming from a poor working class family.
Fortunately my parents were very hard working and made sure i had a great up bringing and also got to see and do things other children never got to. My parents are extremely supportive and have fort hard to give me the same upbringing as others.
But no matter how hard they tried it couldn't stop the battle i was having in my head constantly. Id get bullied at school for being different, my grades were never good, i got rejected from schools id worked equally as hard to get into because teachers didn't want my grades on their records. I just wasn't good at tests, the only test i ever passed was the one to see if i had dyslexia. Im a good, hard working person and i will do anything just to feel accepted somewhere and work my arse off harder than anyone else because i never want to lose the chance that person has given me because id worked so dam hard to get it and appreciate it so much.
Every job I've had I've worked extremely hard but always had struggles with training and got let go. Yet I've also been the best worker. I just couldn't do the tests.
This has caused me to have low self belief and worth in myself. I've always let myself believe im not good enough and people try to resure me but im better than i think and deserve good things. It's caused me to have no confidence and a lot of anxiety in certain situations because i don't think anyone will take me seriously to the point I've had nervous break downs and stopped myself from doing things i want to.
I didn't bother having a relationship till i was 21 because boys just didn't take me seriously and thought i was stupid. They'd treat as a joke. Even boys i loved ended up pushing me away because they saw me as a embarrassments by association. I was just that retard girl too them and their friends and something to laugh at.
I can also say it's help me build character in some way. Im witty and can laugh at myself because i don't think im the shit like so many others do that others find appealing but they always end up throwing me away in the end like a broken toy when things get difficult.
Im also extremely hard working and greatful for the things i do have in my life. Im more grateful for my family and boyfriend and the roof over my head.
I've learnt to measure my success on my happiness not on status. So many people believe having good grades, lots of money, good job etc will make them happy but what happens once you lose them all. That boss you worked so hard for hasn't got your back once he let's you go he's on holiday living it up off of your hard work.
I've learnt sometimes there's no shame im giving up on your dreams they are dreams for a reason, dreams aren't real and you can always make new ones. People will try to tell you money and success is the dream you need to chase when it's all a lie. All that success will just lead you into a never ending hamster wheel trying to make money for the big man then never having time to spend it and then you die.
The easy, simple life is sometimes the best. I never want to live to work ever again now im out of a toxic job that just used me. I wanna work purely so i can live, as long as I've got good people around me and im happy thats all that matters.
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When I was growing up my dad would constantly put me down and say I’m not good enough and now I’m fiercely resistant to social criticism - I told a guy somebody could take my private diary and read it to the entire world so the entire world knows my secrets and I would feel no shame whatsoever - I have no fear of man because I was rejected over and over again and that toughened me up
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I am always rejected. ALWAYS! Even after I think I get the job or the guy, later, rejected! It does help build character in a way and it helps you realize that people are absolutely nonsense! For the first decade of being rejected I was hurt and took it personally but then later I could see that most people don't know what they really want. They think they do! They find someone who fits their needs perfectly and then reject them because... I don't know why yet, but if you get what you want and then reject it doesn't that mean yo ultimately have no idea what you want?
My family does not accept me because I am intelligent and stand for something, I don't conform but I do stand for a cause; integrity.
Guys reject me because... I dont know
Work places reject me... also don't know, I have strong work ethic and Im responsible. I have great references also.
Schools would reject me because on paper it looks like I'm not smart in High School, but there is nowhere to write that I had to take care of my little sister because my parents were alcoholics. 
It depends on the person, their personality, their viewpoint of things that happen, etc.
For me, it's been a rough go of things. I've applied to thousands of jobs, maybe had a few interviews, and the few jobs I did manage to get, they either didn't pay what they promised, or they were crap jobs - "I'm not fast enough" but I'd do a good job, but even after clients lauded my work, I'd get fired for not being quick enough. The people with years of loyalty in the company were treated poorly and weren't paid well, so it's not a big loss, and I'm better off probably, but still, felt like I didn't get much of a chance.
I got tired of looking, and getting constant rejection - calling up, following up, getting ignored... the usual - so years ago, I pretty much stopped bothering - I've been trying to make my "dream job" a thing, and I have a part-time job that I'm good at, but I've been working at it for ages, and it feels like it's time to leave. But it's something. With my dream job, no one really wants to pay for it. It's constant rejection, and while I'm good at work, I'm not good at selling, and I'm tired of the lack of paid work and the constant "no's" (and the "maybes" that are actually no's). It's been a struggle to even find clients.
I still have character. But I can say that getting so much rejection (rough childhood, a crappy dating life, and constant work rejection has not been good for any kind of confidence.-
Well, it depends on a person’s system or mechanism of viewing and handling these rejections. The sum total of a person’s environment and biology will cause them to act in ways that are in accordance with these two things. It’s difficult to know why someone did something and not another, as we cannot read their minds and even they themselves cannot determine the exact cause of their actions, thoughts, and decisions. So, rejection can both break some people’s character and can build some people’s character; it all depends on the person’s unique makeup.
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Yes , I would have to say both. It built my vocabulary a tad bit as to incorporate the word “no” I in fact was what you called a “simp” for those who don’t know what the term means it’s a short way to call me or another being took advantage of as a pushover. During this journey you could say it’s like trying to fine the sweet spot of a shorted electric cord. I completely fell into the pits in every facet of my life. Although this is still going on I’m proud to say I am a product of a built and broken individual.
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constant rejection can break some ones character so much that they become depressed and distraught into thinking about suicidal ! they may commit suicide just to get away from this person and because they do not have what it takes to go on with life ! thanks
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Depends. Constant failure can lead to self-improvement if there is a lesson to be learned from it. If you get rejected because of arbitrary reasons especially if those reasons are outside your control I think it actually pushes you to become a worse person.
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Both.
It can send you i to depression and that's the worst outcome.
But mostly it breaks you down so you get to learn to build yourself up. Stronger every time. So, both, it break your character, pokes holes into it. It unveils your flaws so you can work on them, teaches you to move forward and play the long game. - 664 opinions shared on Other topic.
Constant challenges from work or school can build character. But constant romantic rejection is - as far as I am concerned - a road to bitterness which can permeate for years. Long story short I remember years ago I was really into this one woman and she rejected me. The emotions I felt for her were very powerful but they were unreciprocated. This caused me a lot a pain. It took me years to get over it. This was not the first time I had been rejected but that experience in particular caused me a lot of bitterness. In the meantime there were several good looking women who were nearly throwing themselves at me but I rejected them due to the bitterness I felt.
The result of constant rejection can to lead to a certain cynicism - an impenetrable wall around the heart. -
I think constant rejection is probably extremely damaging, i would suggest that reward needs to come at the correct intervals and the challenges in between need to be enough for growth but not excessive so as to be overwelming / counter productive.
You might want to look at the sort of reward schedules that are used in mmorpgs (games) this is psychological conditioning actually which is a little different and not really anything to do with character building but i think there are strong links between these 2 ideas, if something is too hard people just won't do it and if its too easy they won't learn anything. - 3.2K opinions shared on Other topic.
The vast majority will break. A small few will come out better for it. Imagine applying for college and getting 50 rejection letters before getting into one. Then upon graduating you can't find a job in your field so you have to settle for a job and not a career. Then to top it off you've been rejected by every person you've ever asked out. I don't imagine many people could handle all that and come out for the better. There are always exceptions who never give up but lets be real. Thats not even close to the majority.
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constant rejection breaks your character. just like "working out" breaks the muscle. the healing process is what builds strength.
the difficulty with rejection is to defend your self esteem. you have to separate your feeling of self from the fact that you were rejected. - 1.7K opinions shared on Other topic.
It crushes people and makes them feel worthless. It's pointless to keep trying, that leads to more disappointment, you have to try something else.
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I think it depends on the situation. Rejection from potential partners or break ups can lead someone to not really believe in true love but can go and build their careers and lives up. Constant job rejection entirely another story because there’s no silver lining to it that I can see.
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Constant rejection can break someone’s character but also build it. For example, being held back. If you’re held back a grade or two- does it make you want to push forward or give up? I personally would want to give up. I know some people however that would say they would just push harder but I feel like being held back takes a big toll on your mental health and breaks you. Not necessarily rejection but I thought that comparison made sense.
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Depending on the person, a certain amount of rejection is healthy to build perseverance. Constant, chronic rejection is destructive, especially when it relates to job or university applications, as those may not be fairly weighted. Relationship rejection has never bothered me, because I was the one rejecting others.
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Well look at villains, they were constantly rejected by their family or by society as a whole. Which lead them to be who they currently are, but they are also considered broken.
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Rejection, and any hardship for that matter, is what you make of it. You decide if it makes you or breaks you. It is a choice to take something hard or disappointing and turn it into a stepping stone for your success.
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I guess it depends on the person. Some may break down slowly until they can’t handle it anymore while others thrive being rejected and improve and build themselves. Or they could be a mixture of both depending on what they got rejected from.
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Constant throughout life would eventually break anyone, but a few continual is just life, if you pass the challenge you reap the rewards! You have to go beyond what you think you can. It isn't that easy for anyone in one way or another. Everyone has their personal battles. It's not about how hard you gte hit, it's about how you keep going. If you need a break, take it. But don't quit if you really want it, always focus on what motivated you to try in the first place.
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Both.
It builds one's personality that I like to call the public personna, but once they're alone they start to feel the toll of the rejection.
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