If both were in danger and you had the potential to save both (but no guarantee), who do you go to save first?

[DizzyDesii]

#WhatsTheScenario You’re the driver of an uber/ride share. Your next passengers are coincidentally your significant other/crush and some parent with a kid around age 3-5. He/She asks to sit in the front while the parent and kid take the backseat. On the way to the destination, someone runs you off the road and you crash through the rail, off the bridge and into a deep lake. You turn out fine but the car is filling with water. Your crush/SO is knocked out in the front seat and their seatbelt is jammed. The parent died on impact and the child is awake but freaking out since their seatbelt is jammed, their shoulder is dislocated, and their parent is dead. The car is sinking terribly fast. There is a chance that you could save both if the car hasn't sunk into the deep by then. Who are you saving first?
#FeelFreeToList #DeepDecisions

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I always let guys know early on that our future kid should come 1st especially if in danger. So if an SO didn't expect me to go save this (random) child first then i wouldn't be able to live with him anyways. I’d come back for him if i have a sharp rock or something to cut his seatbelt. Otherwise i’d call up to the bridge to see if help has arrived. My heart goes out to kids and always will. But it hurt that a boyfriend once told me that he’d save the kid CAUSE he’d make a better parent

[ohshee]

There's no way to answer this question because no matter how I answered it right now the other it would be different if it really happened since the kid is conscious I'm going to tell him to listen we only have a few seconds can you swim do not panic stay calm when I bust out your door window wanders going to rush in here it's going to push you back to the other door you need to take a deep breath you need to pull yourself out of the window Define the window ledge and push yourself up to the top as fast as you can go I want you to stay calm and I want you to pretend like we're and just get a big swimming pool right now playing in the backyard are you ready get ready to take a deep breath not until I bust his window when this window shatters take a deep breath the water that's going to come in going is is to push you back to the other door be prepared for it don't freak out take it on I want you to go for it I will be right behind you I will not let anything happen to you are you ready as I'm telling him this I would have already cut the seat belt and slapped my girlfriend and trying to wake her ass up and if she doesn't wake I would pinch her nose and cover her mouth before I broke the kids window I would do whatever it took to wake her up before that water filled up the cab at the vehicle that there's that's all hearsay because you don't know how it would play out because there's always going to be something and if she doesn't wake up she's going to be dead weight but I'm still going to try to get her up out of there but the kids going up first

[DizzyDesii]

he's 3-5 and his shoulder is dislocated. He prob can't swim

[NathanDavis]

the children... no girlfriend of mine would want me to let a kid die if I could have done something about it

also, it is easier that way and there's more chances for survivors to make it... the child instincts could kick once free of the seatbelt and either swim or float around to safety, and then I could just get my girlfriend out the car...

I do have the tools for both, breaking windows and cutting seatbelts... get them on Amazon, even if there's no body waters where you live, they're kind of cool... lol
and well, they also work for many other dire situations

[DizzyDesii]

Well thats good you came prepared

[NathanDavis]

easy to carry with all other 300 keys I go around with... lol

[DizzyDesii]

Im personally not a fan of guns or knives but this looks tolerable

[NathanDavis]

definitely not a knife... or gun, lol

[DizzyDesii]

WHat is it

[NathanDavis]

well.. a good window breaker, should be just a little "pin hammer" head thing, that has a loaded spring, when you click it on the edge of a car's window it should shatter... and for car seatbelts, it's just a small hook like opening with a blade inside, you slide it and it should cut the seatbelt

[DizzyDesii]

Well dang i learned something new today 🙏

[NathanDavis]

pro tip... it is always going to be way easier if you hit the edge of a car's window... not the center of it

[Jassminee]

Firstly, girl are you okay haha, this seems very oddly specific 😂😂
secondly, sorry kid, im saving my crush first. My reasoning is, he is unconscious, keep in mind, car is sinking terribly fast. If i used my time to save the kid, there is a good chance the car would sink too much for me to save my crush, so I would need to spend as much time as possible to bring him out. The kid since is stated 3-5 years old, he would probably be crying and calling for his mother which would make it harder to save him but he is small too which would be easier to try to get him out through windows. On top of that (I assume he isn't in those baby car seats) he would be easier to be pulled through his seat belt and since he is alive too, if the car sank while we are trying to get out, he would have drank abit of the water but at least if he is choking he can cough it out while my crush can't be said the same as he is pretty much a goner since he is unconcious and I don't know any cpr thingy

[DizzyDesii]

Yes im fine. I often get my questions from movie scenes that shocked me. And yea good point about he kid but he's mainly screaming cause he has a shoulder popped out of place. Thats gonna hurt to yank him by it

[Apulu_3]

Logically I will of course save the kid first because they haven't seen the life and yet to grow up. It will be unfair if a flower which just blossomed gets crushed. My crush already have lived life more than the kid. Emotionally I will be devastated and of course blame myself for not being able to save them both but saving the child is best than saving crush. However I know worthless but I will try to save them both.

[DizzyDesii]

I always say the same that its about giving someone younger the chance to live as long as we did

[Apulu_3]

Yeah they don't deserve death so young.

[Apulu_3]

Thanks for the MHO 😊

[Andres77]

The unconscious one. I always have a few knives on me.
Cut her loose and push her out as I tell the kid to hold their breath and then grab him and push him up and get my girl.
I keep belt cutters and glass breakers in all my cars because that's a scary situation and I'd rather just be prepared for it before hand.

[DizzyDesii]

Wow this is a relief to hear

[Phoenix98]

I always have my rescue/survival knife on me and it has a belt cutter made specifically to cut seat belts in those kind of situations as well as a glass breaker for windows made specifically for rescue and escape operations.

So there is a pretty good chance I could get them both out if I was fast enough.

I would probably cut both of their seat belts and have the kid try to swim to the surface while I got the other one out. Because the SO/Crush would drown if I left them down there since they are unconscious.

But if I free them both the kid at least has a chance to swim up to the surface while I help the woman.

[DizzyDesii]

The kid has a dislocated shoulder

[Phoenix98]

Well then he can hold onto my shirt or something and I'll try to swim with em both up there. I'll find a way.

[hafinjun]

Well you don't have easy questions do you okay. Your significant other is knocked out the car is sinking rapidly I don't personally see how you'd be able to save both because taking a child service you'd also have to take him to the shore but I think I'd save the child first I'm sorry to say and they're helpless so as you're knocked out so too I guess I don't think I can leave the child behind knowing that I can't get back in time to say and he wouldn't be able to close the car out with your significant other passed out that you wouldn't be able to get back in damn hey I didn't think about this more but at this point I say I'd say the child and come back with a significant other if I could thanks for the thought-provoking question

[DizzyDesii]

Yes saving someone unconscious before someone whos conscious is kinda sad but it happens. I’d definitely go for the kid first

[hafinjun]

Thanks I know there's no right answer, truth be told I would probably drown trying to save both at once

[DizzyDesii]

Awww

[hafinjun]

Thanks

[Fromdusktilldawn]

This is like a Saw situation.
So I heard first thing to do is open all windows and let the water in so you can open the door without pressure against it. First thing to do is open my seatbelt and open my door.
The next actions depend:
-if the water is ice cold, I get out as fast as I can, no chance to save anyone else without dying myself
-if its not too cold and I have an emergency multi tool pocket knive ready in the side compartment I quickly try to cut through the seatbelt of the passenger next to me and reach over to open that door. Then I quickly proceed to the kid which I cut free and let him swim to the surface himself.
-another idea is to first cut the kids belt and then save the unconscious girl first because she is unable to swim

After all I would say the girl would die since an unconscious body can be hard to move. The kid is easier to safe since he is still able to move himself and cooperate. But if he panics and can't follow my help both can die

[DizzyDesii]

How will you bust all windows with that pressure? Its sinking so fast there's no time to let the windows down electronically unless you got roll down windows. And yea i expected a few to have pocket knives to cut the seatbelt off.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

If that doesn't work I've seen that you can smash the front screen with your feet if hitting them in the upper part.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea I've seen that too haha

[call_me_scar]

Yeah I'm saving my girl first as I dont know If I could handle things I felt like her blood was on my hands this said I'm of course going to unbuckle the kid before exiting the car maybe get him to hold onto me as I swim up with her but she is the main concern

[DizzyDesii]

I mean you already have a dead parents blood on your hands

[call_me_scar]

Yeah but they weren't special to me so I may be able to justify that it was the other drivers fault rationally but if it's someone who I do care about then I may not have the same thought process

[DizzyDesii]

The kid may grow up to get revenge

[call_me_scar]

Well then I'd hate to be the guy who crashed us killing his mom

[call_me_scar]

Crashed into* us

[DizzyDesii]

Right lmao

[call_me_scar]

But to address the point of maybe he would want revenge on me for valuing her life over his well it wouldn't be the first time someone threatened my life I suppose all I could do is hope he would grow up to understand my decision he could disagree with it as many people in the comments do by picking the kid over the girl but you don't need to agree with a choice to understand it

[Кураж]

Lol, sorry kid.
But let's look at the bright side, it would have sucked being an orphan anyway.

[Uptowngirl88]

Lmfaooooo

[DizzyDesii]

Damn 🤦‍♀️

[Uptowngirl88]

@DizzyDesii I don't like kids so🤣🤦🏾‍♀️. I've really tried to like kids but they're annoying. I like infants and 11 year Olds and up. That's it.

[Mangospacho]

Well it is against Ubers terms of service to be driving with a friend along with another passenger. I would save the child first after he agrees to not snitch on me for driving with my crush and I would only save my crush if she agrees to a date first.

[DizzyDesii]

Its a crush OR significant other. They dont know that you know this person. Theyre just sitting in the front because its no room in the back.

[Mangospacho]

Oooh. Or significant other. Well, if she’s going on Uber rides with me, that would make her very “ride or die” so she would be essential. I would just have to save the person closest to me first then save the child or have my crush save the child while I save her. But what kind of car has all these seatbelts jam right when they’re supposed to save your life? 🤣

[DizzyDesii]

Irl, my little cousin was in the backseat and when a bush crashed into them, the seatbelt dug into the side of her neck and roughed it up. It was nothing like carpet burn

[Mangospacho]

Wait. A bush crashed into them and damaged the car? Please tell me that’s an autocorrect

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao yes a “bus” 🤣

[Mangospacho]

Oh wow. That’s crazy. They were hit by a bus? That’s pretty rough. I’m glad they were okay though. But, if I’m being honest, I’m more relieved that bushes are not an existential threat to me and my car.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea the bus hit them and the way the kids neck swiped against the seatbelt material, it cut deep into her. Thats scary

[Mangospacho]

Ouch. Did it leave a scar on her neck?

[DizzyDesii]

Yes it burnt her so deep like worse than carpet burn. The doc told her it was close to hitting something important to her breathing. So like wtf do seatbelts truly protect

[Twalli]

Probably the kid, at least once the kid reaches air, he/she can breathe, I would have to take my SO to a shoreline which would make it highly unlikely I'd have enough time for the kid. Granted if the kid can't swim, then I doubt I could save both of them and I'd probably save the one I can reach more easily.

[DizzyDesii]

Aww i see

[TallAnon]

Realistically whomever I *can* save.
If I had the choice, the woman I love would go before a random child.

Unfortunately my dad has been in a situation where he could not save a child stuck in a car, so I do realize the weight of the choice, but someone I love would still go first.

[DizzyDesii]

I get it

[TallAnon]

If it was my own child, that would get the priority, 100%.
The other way around would be expected too, I don't want to die, but some things are worth dying for.

[DizzyDesii]

I agree

[ElvenMr]

If i save the kid first, he/she can swim to the surface, or even help save my crush/SO.
It would be faster to save the kid first, then my crush/SO.
And because my SO is knocked out i would have to carry her. I would have a hard time saving the kid after, if i choose to save my SO first.
So this way i would have time to save both of them.

[DizzyDesii]

The kid has a dislocated shoulder. I doubt he could swim much

[ElvenMr]

But concious, so just staying above water is possible for the kid, then the kid can grab me after i saved my SO, then we swim to land

[HighlyVolatile]

I'm leaning towards the child although with a heavy burden. He/she is still conscious and lighter and also more fragile as well as afraid. I might also have a better chance of saving both if I start with the child.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea just get him to the top. Maybe he can still float although his shoulder is dislocated

[HighlyVolatile]

If my wife was conscious though, I might start with helping her first to unjam the seatbelt since we might be able to work together to improve our chances of saving the child. However, with her unconscious and the child panicking, I lean towards the child. Typically in the few times in my life where I had to make these types of snap decisions, I never had time to think like this. I typically went for the one who was weakest and most afraid. Their cries for help made me prioritize them first.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea hearing someone cry almost gets to anyone

[De_La_BakedBeans]

Grab the kid and push him out of the car, so that he might float/swim up, and then get my girlfriend and swim up with her, and grab the kid on the way up if he hasn't already surfaced.

Hopefully the driver knows how to swim...

[DizzyDesii]

You are the driver. You dont think the kid will have trouble swimming up with a dislocated shoulder

[De_La_BakedBeans]

It seems that I did not read through the scenario too well... Lol...

[Hans222]

The kid. It's hard but everyone would save the kid first. If the kid can swim, try to help him/her out of the car to swim to safety. Than the mom, than my girlfriend.

[DizzyDesii]

Everyone should save the kid first but not everyone would

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I will save no one in this case or in any cases similar to it.
I will be ready to carry the burden of indirectly murdering them for the rest of my life.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn

[Aqueeld]

I think mostly who ever is in his in this situation would save the kids first...
SOO I WOULD SAVE THE KID FIRST AND THEN COME BACK SOON AND SAVE MY CRUSH

[DizzyDesii]

I agree

[JosyJosy]

Fuck... this is hard. If he's my SO, my SO. I love him and have to protect him, protecting goes both ways. If he's just a crush, I'll go for the kid first.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao sorry crush 🤣

[kellytheman]

Yeah I have to save the kid first because he probably more helpless and my SO might be knocked out but I tthink she would come to and be able have sex hope to save herself or be more helpful for me to save her.

[DizzyDesii]

Maybe

[BeenThereLovedIt]

You always save the child first, unless they are some seriously spoiled rich asshole kid, then it's dealers choice.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[Agape93]

My s/o hands down. Get the one that actually matters to me safety, then go back for the kid.

[DizzyDesii]

#Dead 💀🤣

[Agape93]

Hey if the kid drowns, oh well, I tried

[DizzyDesii]

Yea im glad you at least went back for the kid cause i know you that even though you dont want any of your own, you still show care for others

[Agape93]

Realistically I wouldn't. I don't like kids and I'm terrified of deep water. But hey

[Gwenhwyfar]

I would save the child. My heart goes out to children. But I would defo come back for my SO.

[DizzyDesii]

Same. I mean i think they were gonna need mouth to mouth regardless with them being unconscious underwater

[Gwenhwyfar]

True