If I have a bday dinner, do I pay for everyone or do they pay for themselves?

[Anonymous]

How does it usually work for bday dinners? I thought everyone is meant to pay for themselves, but my girlfriend thinks otherwise.

What normally happens?

The hosts pay for everyone

Everyone pays for themselves

[sunflower00]

Every time I’ve invited people out to dinner for my birthday, or I’ve gone to other birthday dinners it’s always been a case of everyone paying for their own food. I don’t understand assuming that the host will pay for everything? That’s so expensive! And it’s their birthday haha expecting the birthday person to pay for everyone’s food and drinks is a bit rude in my opinion? I’ve never seen it happen where everyone’s food is paid for apart from maybe my 10th birthday when my friends obviously couldn’t pay because they were 10 and my dad paid for it because it was my birthday

[Asker]

Yeah I agree it'll be a few hundred dollars. I'm just not sure on the etiquette.

[Dinklex3]

Growing up until the age of 18, I was taught the host pays.
As an adult, people usually pay for themselves and one person covers the birthday guy/gal.
If i want to eat at a super expensive restaurant (usually no more than 4 people total) I try to pay as a thank you for people taking the time to come out and celebrate my birthday. They don't let me though. When I'm celebrating someone else's birthday i pay for myself and ensure they don't pay for their food either... So imma vote B since we're all adults with our own money 😊
I guess it really just depends on the crowd and who you're expecting at your birthday.

[exitseven]

If you are inviting friends to a dinner it is up to you to pay. However your friends better pony up with a good present.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Apulu_Imback]

Well from what I know that if you are a kid then your parents pay it and if you start earning then you pay it all. No matter it restaurant. Because you are throwing the party. It won't be different to attend a party and pay for your meal or just simply hanging out if you don't pay it all. All the parties I have attended and seen, the host pays everything.

[cosmicallyinclined]

if you invited them i think you’d be the one to pay but if they surprise you they’re probably gonna pay.. you should tell your girlfriend to pretend it’s a surprise party so the guests hopefully can split the bill..

[jennifer_bloom]

My friend said if you do not mention their payment they will assume that you are paying, it seems stupid but it’s what people assume if you do not specify who pays.

[Asker]

Hmm, I just feel awkward asking.

[jennifer_bloom]

Make an excuse like your saving for a dental treatment or a post college class etc..

[Anonymous]

If you’re inviting people out to eat or to come to your house for dinner then people will assume you’re paying. If that’s not the case you need to say so beforehand.

[Asker]

It's at a restaurant, not my house.

[douride2]

Any time I have ever been invited out to a Bday dinner I have paid my own meal. There are the odd occasion where some one has paid for all those invited.

[SnakeBoop]

up to you and what you decide.
I've been to both.

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on group culture. Back when I had bday dinners, everyone paid for themselves and sometimes split bday boy / girl's tab.

[UpdateGloomyNights_]

Voted b