Guys, why should a beautiful/young/fit woman choose you over tall/handsome/fit men if you dont even want old/ fat women?

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I keep seeing questions that shame on women by saying that they "hit the wall" or by calling them leftovers aka using shaming tactics against women which they copied from the feminazis. These pathetic loosers ain't even original.
I was inactive almost for one month and came back and got spammed by incel questions. So where do these boys-not men-get this entitlement? So young beautiful women should choose you while you are trashtalking women for being over their 30s or for being ugly, fat etc? Who do you think you are? Then dont whine when women do this same shit against you and call you a manlet, looser, not manly enough just because you are short, broke, fat!

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

What is important is that you are able to be honest with yourself about your SMV (social market value), and accept that you are very unlikely to get someone above your own level.

This is just as true for men as it is with women, the main difference is that the majority of men understand their value, and that their value is based on how WOMEN judge them, and not how they judge themselves. A whole lot of women, especially in their 30s, have a hugely inflated idea of their SMV, and they think that their SMV is judged based on their own values, when SMV is ALWAYS based on the values of the opposite sex (assuming straight people).

Women have insanely high SMV in their 20s (their early 20s especially), because that's when they are at the idea place in their fertility window, which is why men place so much value on youth. The greatest gift a woman has to give a man is to bear his children.

But this also means that her SMV drops off SIGNIFICANTLY as she enters her 30s. At 30, 90% of her eggs are gone (on average), and medically, pregnancy at 35 or older is considered a "geriatric pregnancy" - and for very real medical reasons.

Every woman in her 30s lived an entire decade in her 20s where her SMV was, by far, the highest it will ever be, and had a decade to find the best man that high SMV could attract - but most women today sail right through their 20s "having fun" and squander that value, and Feminism teaches them that their education and their careers will make them more valuable. Perhaps that is true of employers, but it's absolutely NOT true of life partners. In fact, many men see those things as a negative, because it means that relationships were not a priority to you when they were most important, so why should he believe that they are important to you now?

Also, the overwhelming norm is that women, even when they earn more, don't spend money on men. Her money is her money and his money is "our money." Given this norm, women should not be at all surprised that men, at best, don't care about your education or career, and for the vast majority of men, those things do not increase your SMV - and to some men, it reduces it.

Also, women need to figure out that sexual attention is very different from relationship attention. A 33 year old woman can still get plenty of sexual attention, but that doesn't mean that those men take her seriously as a relationship partner, much less a potential wife.

A woman who could date men who are 8s and get banged by guys who were 9.5s at age 23 is not likely to be considered anything higher than a 7 at age 30, and that's if everything else is ideal. Hotter guys might still bang her, but that's irrelevant - they aren't committing to her, and if she keeps going after such men, she'll keep getting used and keep getting older.

That's a harsh reality, but it's also the truth - and it's not like the majority of men have it any easier.

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Now, this truth and probably worse with all boy/no man socialist and communist unemployed and/or couch sitting video gaming with 2 jobs person available, ETC…. —Oh for sure you little wussy boys-your achievements, as reflected by your aptitude and laziness, are exactly the 🧬 pool women want to make families and lineage with. Don’t worry run back to your media and internet who tells you “I’m okay, you’re okay.”

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You're so right girl
This forum seems to be full of incels and sexist, ageist and misogynistic comments towards women.. Before I used to get upset, now I just ignore these questions (I know which questions to ignore exactly) and block these people...
I think it's laughable how some of these guys act like they're Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp and can date, or are entitled to date 18 year olds forever and treat women as sex objects.. (I used to know one such guy, he calls all women who no longer look 20 hags)
It's sad that these individuals have to take their insecurities on others, instead of just working on themselves)

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

I don’t see those comments. I must have blocked all the right people at just the right time. 😁

TallAnon · Answer

I mean, if you are seriously asking.. I'm 6'7, look decent, have a good job with decent pay, I take care of myself and my apartment, have good relationships with my family, I'm independent, I take an effort to make my surroundings comfortable.. I may not be perfect and I don't expect perfect either, but I think I can ask for decent? I'm 26 and I am comfortable dating ~20-31, maybe 32, but much older would not be a good match. I also don't want to date someone I can't genuinely say to that they look beautiful to me. I don't want to ever lie if my girlfriend or wife asks "How do I look in this?".

Anonymous · Answer

I’ll tell you exactly WHY. Because woman in their early 20s and when they are most desired will sleep around with Chads and then have a couple of kids by them while ignoring us good guys then when she is in her 30s, chad leaves her and now expects for us to come in and play the knight with shinning armor to rescue her. We are done now playing the simps and being the ones that always get taken advantage of. We have had enough. You girls can’t keep doing this to us all the time. You expect for us to take you in after you’ve been with multiple chads while ignoring us constantly. We are working on ourselves and when I hit 30, I will be a stud with money saved up and I will become the chad. I don’t wanna be the nice guy anymore. What for

ohshee · Answer

There's nothing wrong with your question or the way you asked it it was your question because you wanted to understand what's going on and you deserve that respect you have to understand if a guy answers you wrong or in a manner that you're the bad guy it's a form of manipulation and he's still trying to get what he wants when he wants it those are called jackasses those are called guys and f*** the world that for other guys because they can't seem to control themselves it's all about them it will always be all about them and that's just sad I like your question it made a lot of sense to me and basically I only want a girl that wants to choose me because she wants to choose me that goes for me to her I want her to choose me because of all the right feelings that she has about me and the odds are she would probably
Be right it's the same thing that she's dating women I look to the inside first the outside is just all an extra bonus

Staximus · Answer

I think men and women will both have more dating success if they choose to seek someone who is realistically "in their league" and someone who is actually attracted to them. Birds of a feather flock together. Sure I would like a young hot fit woman, but that rarely happens with old short fat bald guys like me. I'm sure money, fame, status, etc would help, but I'm not looking for a woman who is looking for such superficial qualities anyways. I just want a woman who wants me because I'm not a piece of shit person.

If you keep looking for perfection, you will miss what's good enough.

Anonymous · Answer

Well kudos on the last statement. That was beautiful humility. Deep respect for that.
I don't know what incel is. Sorry.
I do know that the second you step out of self control to control others is absolute waste of time and frustrating for obvious useless reasons.
Its not possible to control people. You can only influence people
Good mindfulness on what influence you want to be is more helpful.
Have to just let jerks and creeps fade into the background. Even just laugh at their left field comments without a word otherwise.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Someone's height has nothing to do with being out of shape.

MTC29 · Answer

Nonsensical. Try harder next time. Of course, there is no next time for me... BLOCKED!

SeekingVirginWife · Answer

Hoes Mad!

Phoenix98 · Answer

Well I am an attractive fit man so it doesn’t really apply to me. but I personally don’t give a shit be with whoever your attracted to. There’s plenty of fish in the sea.

Adronicus · Answer

The way I can make them feel.  Mainly responding to the title here.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Lol. You are so adorable. I swear, you are like the sweetest person I have ever met. I love how you always have passionate opinions and go on rants and then afterwards you apologize in case you might have offended someone. I love you.

Zenit93 · Answer

Women amongst modern society act like selfish whores with no morals. It’s a byproduct of culture. Men aren’t losers if they speak out against it. It really has little to do with women's standards and feeling left out.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

"short, broke, fat" im not short broke or fat and thats why im too good for a woman even close to my own age. I haven't gone on a first date with someone over 22 in almost a decade now.

Anonymous · Answer

Wash the blood off your hands then I'll answer your question.

RobEurope · Answer

I want to be fit and handsome too lol. Only im not tall. Well too bad for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Because I know I can treat you better and take care of you better than the Guys you usually Date.

PastorJohn69 · Answer

Hung like Einstein,  Smart as a horse!

Pohjolan · Answer

But I am tall and fit.

msc545 · Answer

I am smarter and more educated.

Waldoe · Answer

I am married to an "Old fat woman"

Guys, why should a beautiful/young/fit woman choose you over tall/handsome/fit men if you dont even want old/ fat women?

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