If you live with your mother are you obligated to help her with her personal bills?

[Anonymous]

I’m not talking about water, electricity , gas or any other utility

[Kaneki05]

If you are living somewhere you have to an agreement with whom your living with or owner. If you are the owner fully yourself and by yourself then of course no such thing is needed. But most average people don't, we are all paying something to live somewhere owned by someone.
Therefore it all depends on such agreement. But no one is obligated to do anything unless it's under law.
For example I am not obligated by law to pay any rent here to my mother. But we have an agreement that I do. And I for sure aren't obligated by law to help with person bills nor do I have that agreement so I don't.
So no one is never obligated but if you've agreed upon a reason then you should.

[Anonymous]

I do live with her and no, I pay her housekeeping she can spend it however she wants as long as the lights are on and there's food in the pantry

I have paid a few bills in the short term because it was cheaper than the interest payments but I'd get it back

[77five]

No? If she doesn't ask you to, then dont. I still live with my mom and Im not required to pay for anything. It would make no sense for her to all of a sudden demand me to as well. It wouldn't be because she can't afford it but she clearly could for 18 years.

[Paulalove98]

Currently live with my parents but yeah i help my parents with groceries if money is hard which nowadays so much is going up but in general i help with the bills.

[Sandeeppingping]

Personal bills as in what? If you're in that 25 to 29 age range and you will with her then electricity water rent these at least you have to split them 50/50, if personal bill means she wants to buy 1000$ worth of clothes, you must pay 0$ of that

[Agape93]

Fuck no. It's HER bill. She can handle it or she can't. Not my problem.

[Asker]

Exactly I agree 100%. Besides contributing to rent and food I’m not obligated to do nothing else

[AviatorTom]

Her personal bills, no. When I was much younger, working a regular job, and living with my parents, I voluntarily paid them a monthly rent, which they used any way they wanted.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You are not obligated to pay anything except your share of the rent, utility bills, and food. Any personal debts a parent has is their debt, not yours.

[Asker]

Absolutely. Thank you for being the only one on here to understand the question.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Seemed pretty easy to understand, I dunno why anyone would struggle with it.

[sheikalana]

I believe so. During 2020 I had to temporarily move back to my parents house I used to buy my own food and groceries.

[Asker]

I understand paying rent and buying groceries but I’m specifically talking about her personal debts, why am I obligated to pay that?

[petitedollbabee]

Credit card bills, loans, non-necessities… no. But medical costs if she’s sick, absolutely if I’m financially free enough to help.

[genericname85]

do you have any sort of contractual agreement about your living situation? like are you paying rent or just freeloading?

[Asker]

I pay rent and buy food but I was referring to paying her personal bills which are mostly credit cards. Why do I have to pay her credit card bills?

[genericname85]

i would say that she's not "entiteled" to have you pay "her" bils (assuming you're paying for your cost of living). but like why would you not wanna help your mom out if she's struggeling? has she not done enough for you?
or is she not even struggeling and just asking for money?

[Asker]

How can I help someone who is struggling if I’m struggling myself. I work a low wage so how can I help someone when I can’t even help myself.

[genericname85]

Well gotta stick together and Hussle your way through it dude. Keep the food on the table and the roof over your head. Life is being rough for many. I figure you need one another. Try not to leave her hanging. If you literally don't have the money to help try to figure something out for both of you.

[MzAsh]

She makes the rules. So whatever that looks like is what you’ll have to agree to if you stay there.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Depends on age. I think 1-15 not responsible. 16+ maybe.

[Jamie7f8dx]

You should obviously be contributing. She is your mother and your water, electricity and living expenses add up for her. Its hard. Your mom likely gave everything to you growing up, you should be a good son and help her

[Asker]

If you looked at the question and the additional details you’ll see that I was talking about utility bills or my living expenses. I’m specifically talking about her personal bills which includes credit card debt and loans. Obviously I give her money for rent and food which is why I didn’t mention it

[Pinay_ako]

Yes it’s your mother… or father. I would if I can. As long as I live.

[menina]

If it's not a necessary bill, I don't think you should help her.

[josephinelcajon]

This should not even be a question! Absolutely YES!

[TroyDT]

Need more info. Does she have a mortgage / rent and are you paying part of that? If so, no. If not, probably if the amount is reasonable.

[art84]

Like credit card bills? I wouldn't pay it since it's my mom's.

[Asker]

Yeah credit card bills or her personal loans

[TacosRAwesome]

Yes for needs (eg food, medical, she bought a new washing machine). No for fun extras.

[In_Trance]

Are you obligated to help her with bills... but not these bills... wtf

[Asker]

Yeah utility bills, rent and food not her personal debts

[In_Trance]

Do you pay rent?

[Asker]

Absolutely

[TacticalLizard]

If she is in pain.
It’s Your Duty to Ease your Mothers pain in whatever way you can.

[Asker]

So who will ease my pain?

[TacticalLizard]

Knowledge and applying that knowledge will.
If your interested in easing your own pain.
Reply back with
I would like you to recommend me some books

[Anonymous]

If you live with ANYONE you're obligated to help with the bills

[Opinion Owner]

Not personal ones, but rent electric basic necessities.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree but the question specifically mentioned personal bills

[Paul09]

For Personal stuff no. As long as you are giving her monthly payments for actual bills.

[TwinFace]

I wish i didn't but i know my responsibility and ill live up to it

[Anonymous]

Not really unless you aren’t helping at all, then it’s just paying to help in another way instead

[FilmGuy93]

No, but it would be kind.

[Staximus]

Rent and utilities, that's it

[Fuentes]

Lol u can to be nice

[maximumpower]

Yes.
Otherwise, like my ex, you're a deadbeat.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Yep.

[Asker]

Why?

[Midgetmcwidget]

Because living isn’t fee.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Free*

[Asker]

In the question it says personal bills which are credit card bills. Why do I have to pay her credit card bills?

[LopezLinda]

Yeah that is your duty do so

[dudeinohio]

Nope

[OddBeMe]

Yes.

[panamared1]

Yess

[Kingofkings1992]

Move out

[jimmy2]

Of course