Is it normal that girls get treated as if they are stupid in gaming?

[Anonymous]

This year I picked up my favourite game again and I basically play everyday. I'm on Discord a lot with many different guys and I swear sometimes few of them will treat me as if I'm the dumbest person to walk the planet. I have to say that mentally I wander off sometimes and I also don't have the best social skills but I'm trying. My voice and looks don't help either as my instagram got leaked many times and people definitely just see me as a dumb blonde. I know I'm good at the game though especially since like 90% in the game use autoclicker etc. and I get asked to play Clanwars with them a lot

I get called stupid for the most ridiculous things though. Like yesterday I wanted to invite someone to a Discord server I've never been on before and I didn't know I don't have the rights to do so and I got called stupid for it in the most serious tone like? It makes me question if I really am stupid sometimes, if they just do it because I'm a girl because I never see them call another guy stupid if he makes a mistake.

[Effably]

Not really. Is it only towards you or are they also taking frequent stabs towards each other? It is very common to joke at each other's expense and if that is all it is you have several options. The three best being to leave for a new group, tell them that the dumb thing is upsetting you or starting to join in on the joke and banter to humble them a bit.

Personally, assuming this is all friendly, I'd go for the third one. Not only is it the most fun one but you might develop some additional social skills, wit and a sharper tongue in the process.

[slatyb]

Gaming attractive a lot of young men with poor social skills. It's the only thing that makes them feel good about themselves. They can't stand the thought that a woman could be better than they are at the one thing they think they are good at.

[Kori1236]

Nope. Now if you have a group of people that you game with online and they make jokes and jabs at eachother that’s one thing and normal. For example I bag on my brother all the time when we’re gaming and our friends sometimes join in but if some random person that doesn’t know the dynamic chimes in I’m the first one at his defence.


If it’s just random chatter and people are being unnecessarily rude I’d just write them off as intimidated that a girl is playing their game and likely kicking their asses over it.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Anonymize your discord.


No hints to gender in the name or pfp.


Don’t correct people when they refer to you as a man.


Ignore the assholes and enjoy the game.

[Jacobbbb]

It's called loser guys that devote their entire life behind a screen being critical of someone who doesn't live their lifestyle. They have this superiority complex in what they do, and they're probably jealous of you for being a normal person

[boggboss]

The issue is thats hoe most gamers are to eachother pretty toxic but there is a extra layer of shittyness when there is a girl because people tend to then add sexusm to there behaviour

[Berethor]

Are you sure that they don't doing it with guys? some of them might be misogynists.

[Guy13]

Well does it matter as long as you win or do well

[Wise4myage]

No that’s cruel.

[grega239]

Git gud scrub