Domestic violence can happen to anyone and so many people are afraid to tell anyone including myself. I watched this video on tiktok and it was very relatable and it honestly encouraged me to tell everyone about what happened to me. When she said “I don’t want anybody to know about it” really struck a nerve. I doesn’t months lying to myself and others pretending like everything was fine and it was my fault. I’m very glad to be out of that situation
yes...
my mom and step dad used to whip me with belts on my bare bottom and burn me with cigarettes. They weren't nice to each other either, used to have knife fights in our crappy little apartment which would end in yelling so loud the cops would come.
my mother's mentally ill. she had a shitty past as well. her brother died when he was 8, she got addicted to drugs, became a prostitute, and we ended up on the streets a lot. she just now became sorta sober.
ik u don't want a full ass life story but i'm gettin this out
my grand mother died when i was 8, and she was a primary caregiver for me. I got adopted at 9. My grandfather just developed lung cancer. My mom and aunt don't talk to each other because of my aunt stealing her man a while back. So when and if my grandfather passes, they don't have anyone left to lean on.
Only with my father in my childhood, my mom and I run away from him when I was 6 and I didn't bother talking much about it and would lie more often why my father wasn't in our lives but since he finally died last year it's easier for me to be more open
My brothers and I had to undergo a lot of violence from our stupid father and his second wife. I'm not feeling well talking about this here, but the question touches me somehow. Domestic violence is one of the worst things some people have to live through because it destroys possible confidence in others. By the way, I discovered that violence from a partner means often that they don't know what to do with themselves.
Yes, I had an ex that had issues, she would just snap at times.
One night a knife went sailing past my head and broke a window, she hit me, it was on my back, so after a few times that was it, I left.
I think she was bipolar or something like that.
It wasn't fun.
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Yes an ex of mine was very abusive verbally, mentally and physically. She was cheating on me too for a year and hive me an std. Turned out she was also beating my kid so when I left her and involved social services even though she admitted to it all and I had tons of evidence social services treated her like the victim and myself the perpetrator. In fact women's aid got involved and various false allegations followed of harassment, bullying, verbal abuse, rape, following, intimidation and threatening solicitor letters with treats of restraining orders, non molestationorders, prohibitedsteps orders (treats only) . Only I have a dash cam and record all conversations on my phone, calls and talks so I was able to disprove the allegations but still she escaped any real repercussions. Social services and women's aidtreated her like the victim and me the perpetrator. Police largely just ignore her now.
From parents (not step, actual)
Beating every day with steel, belts, bats, and other items till unconscious. I Burned, had bruises all over my body, starved, and threw boiling hot water on me. Made me do housework, I was practically a slave, shamed me for my looks, my brother was their favorite as he was more good-looking and tall. I wasn't allowed to play, had almost no friends, bullied in school, they made me sacrifice my studies and work to raise my brother. Always cater to his needs, and help him with otherwise verbal and physical abuse. Girls were strictly no, even if talk with a friend from the opposite gender, they would have unleashed horror. There's much more but I think it's enough to write here.
I am 27, finished my master's doing research work, and never had any girlfriend or have seen any kind of love or affection towards me. Don't know if any girl will stick around if they know any of it.
I had a partner who used to hit me a lot because she thought she couldn't hurt me since I was a man. Although I was eventually able to get her to stop.
My step mother liked to torment me ceaselessly emotionally, weird long interrogation sessions where I'd be forced to give all kinds of wild false confessions just to sleep or eat as a kid. Chick was nuts and my Dad was complicit for letting it happen.
Yep. Every woman i’ve ever been with hit me out of anger. There’s an enormous disparity between how we address male victims and female abusers compared to female victims and male abusers. That needs to change.
From my ex-wife. She'd pick fights and send her kids to stand in front of the doors so I couldn't get out of the house without having to touch them and the commanders at work would be so clear how they're going to destroy the life of any domestic abuser so I felt like I didn't have a choice and just put my hands on the closet wall and let her beat on me with her shoes until she got tired.
Yeah I had an ex. I thought it was regular angry teen relationship, the more people I talk to the older I get i realize we were actually pretty fucked up. I wish I knew to keep it secret at th time. Now everybody already knows. 🌾
I dated somebody for a while that used to abuse me, Mostly verbal abuse but she sometimes would punch or kick me and once she bit me so hard that I still have the scar. She was abused as a kid and I felt bad for her.,
No, but I'm pretty picky about the people I associate with and the situations I put myself in. My dad taught me to be cautious, and it's definitely saved me several times in hindsight.
almost yes several years ago with an ex it got so bad i had to throw her out before she started physically assaulting me.
and years ago i had neighbors break down my door trying to physically assault me luckily for good ole butcher knife and baseball bat
of course the useless police tried victim blaming me in both instances
Dam, y'all calling your parents beating you Domestic violence? Lol
Yeah, but it was physical violence by my parents and eldest brother and emotional violations by my older sister.
If by domestic violence, you mean: physical violence, no. I have been victim of psychological, patrimonial and economical violence. The two last ones, indirectly. Long story. I am glad my mom realized what was going on.
yes. my father was abusive physically when i was a child. he beat all 3 children and our mother.
Well not exactly.
I had an incident when i was 15 from my cousin's friend, and thankfully my cousin stopped it before it got really bad
Yes, Unfortunately I marred a wife with BPD. She regularly lost control of herself yelling at me for hours over the same thing with frequently violent outbursts.
I'm really glad you got out of that situation too! 🙂
Yup, first relationship. Not to mention most of my childhood
I'm really sorry that happened to you.
I have not had that happen.
I've been a victim of violent abuse, physical and verbally.
No, but have defended a woman that was being assaulted.
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