What has been your hardest goodbye in life so far?

[dustybiker]

[Anonymous]

When the one man who ever cared about me and didn’t want anything from me died. He was my hero and like the father I never knew. A man the helped a total stranger, a girl everyone treated like trash. When he died, part of me died too.

I still remember. He worked two jobs at night, and I was a waitress. He’d always come in between his jobs at the end of my shift. He’d get coffee and a sandwich and he’d walk me home. We met when he stopped some guys from harassing me. He also saved me from my abusive ex. This old Chinese man who never needed to care about some trailer trash white girl. I waited for him at the end of my shift like usual. He didn’t come. Three days I waited. Finally his grandson, who was actually older than me came by and told me he had died.

That last goodbye. I didn’t know it was our last. I doubt he ever knew how much he meant to me. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t wish it had been me instead of him.

His funeral was full of people like me. Strangers he helped. People whose troubles he listened to. I approached his coffin and I bowed like I saw his family bow and I broke down sobbing until his grandchildren helped carry me out. It’s silly, but every day at the end of my shift I always buy a cup of coffee and a sandwich and give it to someone in need and say it’s a gift from my guardian Angel.

[dustybiker]

Beautiful and heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing this.

[BlurryHaze]

What a beautiful soul that man was. Thank you for sharing your story!

[CateM]

That is so sweet!

[Anonymous]

Two times actually not sure which one was hardest...

First one was saying goodbye to my twin brother when he moved abroad. We were 23 when he left, and we were very, very close, a special kind of bond. I felt like part of me died, it took awhile to adjust.

Second one was my cat two years ago... I moved abroad and couldn't bring her, so I gave her to a nice family. But she escaped soon after and probably died. She was also big part of me, I still cry when I think of for her purrs on my chest. She was so sweet and calm, poor thing must've been so scared.

[dustybiker]

That must have been hard for your twin to leave too. I’m so sorry about your sweet baby. I hope another loving family took her in.

[Valso]

Saying goodbye to my first male love when I was 22, after we were together for 3 years. His parents had decided to move to another country and we both new this breakup was permanent. But none of us was ready to come out of the closet and his extremely homophobic father wasn't the best stimulus for that to happen. His mom new and supported us in any way she could, even doing everything possible to keep our secret from his father. And after being together for 3 years, it wasn't easy to say goodbye. Living after that was even harder cuz everywhere I went, I had memories with him in that place.

Maybe one of the reasons for that goodbye to be so hard was that it happened in person, whereas my first female love trading me for a rich guy happened over an SMS and that made things a lot easier, altough when I read her SMS it didn't feel easy at all and after that it took me 13 years to get her over.

[dustybiker]

I feel your pain. Have you thought about reaching out to him since?

[Valso]

I did, once on FB. But it turned out he was already married.

[dustybiker]

I’m glad you tried. I hope you are happy now.

[SnowedIn]

A girl I deeply loved. Put her on a train rather eerily similar to your picture except for the expression on her face. She needed help getting on that train to go live with the guy that she deeply loved. I was the only friend who would help her, so I did. It was crushing.

[dustybiker]

The strength that must have taken. You are a good man.

[savagewolf22]

Sir respect 🙏
Very rare to see human like you

[SnowedIn]

Thank you both. I appreciate the kind words.

[melanieeeB]

Uhm my last ex... I wasn't ready to let this go and didn't saw it coming (him breaking up) and until now that parting away was the hardest for me to let go off.. if that even counts as a goodbye

[dustybiker]

It counts. Those are some of the hardest.

[Rosexøxø]

I’m so sorry you faced it. I wish strength, power, might, endurance, life, fun, wit, beauty, and memories to you. 🙏

[ArrowheadSW]

Of course, losing parents is the hardest. I lost my dad over 30 years ago and that was hard. And I lost my mom this year and that has been difficult.

But besides that, when a girlfriend who I was dating when I was 38 split up with me after she reconciled with an ex, that was very difficult. I didn't see that coming and I had no closure to the situation for a long time. I dodged a bullet though. She's been married 3 times since then.

[Rosexøxø]

I can relate somewhat. Told a friend I loved him, he downplayed it- never addressed it, month later he started dating a friend he knew longer than me. Was a massive blow.

Apologies for your goodbyes.

I do believe we are each dealt a measure of pain in this life, and it is nothing more than what we can handle and just enough to help us grow.

Regardless, we always try to avoid problems and resolve them. It is in our nature. 🙏

I wish you nothing but the best and finest. The beautiful, enjoyable, and memorable out of life. 🙏

[dustybiker]

@ArrowheadSW Parents are painful. Even though you know it’s going to happen and expect it. Still hits you full force.
Sounds like you did luck out with that woman. Appears she hurts a lot of people.

[ArrowheadSW]

@Rosexøxø Thank you! Very nice words.

[ArrowheadSW]

@dustybiker Yes it is painful with parents of course. Like you say even though it is pretty much expected, it is still difficult. I remember way back when my dad died I just figured that I had no choice but to deal with it. This year with my mom it was different because by this point she was very elderly, but still tough to see her go.

And that lady who I was dating. Yeah I'm not sure what her thing was/is. I know someone who somewhat knows her and she has nothing but bad things to say about her. I didn't see it at the time but she and I didn't date that long either.

[dustybiker]

Do you ever think back and wonder if you had done this or that differently they might still be here, at least a bit longer? I do that a lot myself. Silly thinking I suppose.

I’m glad you are free of that woman and hope you are happy now.

[ArrowheadSW]

@dustybiker Well when it comes to losing our parents, I think "it is what it is"... Just the inevitable I guess. I remember when I was 19 and I lost my dad suddenly, all my friends who heard about it were in shock because none of them had lost a parent yet.

Regarding that woman... Yeah that was awhile back but I'm curious as to what was up with her. She was very nice when she and I were dating. But like I say she's been married 3 times since then. I did see her on social media and she is living with her sister and brother in law.

[Anonymous]

Thats a toss up between 2 things

Watching The love of my life walk, away from me, after being nothing but a good man to her.

Or having my best friend die in my arms doing everything i can to save him, And it wasant enough.

looked at me with horror in his eyes, begging for help, but their was nothing i can do but watch.

[dustybiker]

You were there for him. That was comfort. I’m so sorry.

[Opinion Owner]

Water under the bridge now, Maybe i can talk about it with him,
, in another life.

And as for my ex, i think she knows she made a mistake, Its just a matter of time before she comes back.

I keep in touch with her family, and i know exactly what she's up to.

she's not a bad person at heart.
Just makes poor choices.

When she falls flat on her face,
(Wich isant far). Shel be back.

She just refuses to believe someone could actually love her. So she runs. In fear of getting hurt.

[TrueConfection]

My aunt. She died and I had something important I wanted to tell her.

[dustybiker]

I’m sorry.

[TrueConfection]

That's ok, she knows now. 😉

[Rosexøxø]

Happy she knows 🙏.

Wishing all the best to you in life. All the beautiful, and the good.

[TrueConfection]

@Rosexøxø Awe, thank you! I wish the same for you! 🙏

[Rosexøxø]

Ofc! And thanks bunches 😁😄🙏

[dustybiker]

@TrueConfection That is very true.

[exitseven]

My father died as he was getting ready to retire. We had not spent much time with each other for a while. I had planned on seeing him the next day and I had a whole speech in my head what I was going to tell him. Then he goes and dies ,

[dustybiker]

@exitseven Have you ever thought about finding a lovely spot. Sit and tell him? Let it out?

[TrueConfection]

@exitseven That's difficult to live with. I'm sorry.

[DizzyDesii]

Letting go of my longest relationship… Idgaf about him lmao. I just hate that all that time and love wasted and it didn't result in marriage and conception. Damn if only i could get those early 20s back

[dustybiker]

You learned a lot I bet though?

[DizzyDesii]

Hard to say. I still make a lot of the same mistakes unintentionally

[Rosexøxø]

The ideas and mindsets about everything I thought life would be. The goodbye to true friends I had that feel like a once in a lifetime thing. Before I would say unlucky, but lucky to have experienced it in the first half of my life. I hope I treat what they have given me well, and with respect. 🙏

[BlurryHaze]

I'm certain you absolutely will. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Saying goodbye to my uncle when he was on his death bed. I couldn’t physically be there because I had just had major surgery but my phone put him on the phone so I could talk to him. He could hear me but he could no longer speak. That was extremely hard. I didn’t get to see him to say goodbye and didn’t get to hear his voice one last time..

[dustybiker]

I’m glad he could hear you. That must have comforted him at least.

[Opinion Owner]

I always think of that. Like I hope that made him happy for one of his last moments.

[dustybiker]

I’m very sure it did.

[BlueScorpio]

Saying see you later fo my daddy, he's gone cause the Lord decided to call him home after 5 years of battling cancer.

[Rosexøxø]

I bet if it were up to him, he’d be counting the days until you arrived. He most likely has things to learn there, and assignment/tasks to do, and as needed, while there. I hope you do the same while here. All about the levels. 🙏 Wishing you nothing but the best out of this life. The beautiful, the good, the strong, the best, the fun and memorable.

[dustybiker]

@bluesscorpio What a strong man he was, heck of a fight he put up. That is so very hard.

[Alexandrubaschet08]

2016 say goodbay to my coworker from my country, i had a boutiful job that i alwase question myself if i did the corect decision

[Rosexøxø]

There are different versions of ourselves in the different walks of life we tread, and the different places on the earth we venture.

You loved the best version of yourself while in your country. Live the best version of yourself where you are now, so no regrets follow in the here and now.

You are willing, capable, and able.

When we say goodbye to one thing, we say hello to something else. 🙏

I wish you nothing but the truest best on YOUR journey, that is truly, and specially yours.

[dustybiker]

@alexandrubaschet08 Those regrets are tough. You never can shake them.

[BCRanger10]

If this counts, one that I don't even remember. My grandfather. I don't remember the last time I spoke to or saw him.

[dustybiker]

It counts. I never met most of my grandparents. I miss their loss. They are who I get my biker genes from.

[whereismyjohnny]

My aunt. She passed away from cancer two years ago.

[Rosexøxø]

Life goes on for us, imploring us, and she would have wanted you to go on, just as you would want your niece to go on. Indeed you have, and that shows you carry a little bit/ part of her within you.

This gives me hope for any time I lose a member I love because I know moving on will be attainable. 🙏 I wish you nothing but the best of might, love, and the best in life. Every good thing that can be gained and offered out of life

[whereismyjohnny]

@Rosexøxø Thank you for your kind words. 🥰 I wish you all the best as well.

[Rosexøxø]

Thanks bunches 😁😄🙏

[dustybiker]

@whereismyjohnny I’m so sorry. I wish they would bring forth the cure already. Awful for everyone surrounding a loved one too.

[humanearth]

Saying goodbye to my grandma

That hit me hard when she died

[Rosexøxø]

She lives on through you if she has impacted you in any way. That what they do for us. You also have her blood within. Carry that with pride. Live on for her as she would want you to and as you would want your grandson to do so.

I wish you strength, power, and might, and every good and beautiful thing out of life.

[humanearth]

@Rosexøxø That you for your kind words

[Rosexøxø]

Ofc 🙏🙏

[dustybiker]

She must have been a very special woman.

[humanearth]

She was, it still hurts, she past in 2007

[dustybiker]

Sounds like lots of good memories. If we are all so lucky to be loved that much.

[nolabels]

Losing my dad to cancer when I was a young boy.

Nothing else, as hard as other goodbyes have been, comes close.

[dustybiker]

*hugs*

[bolverk]

Watching both parents die, even decades down the line it can still hurt deeply, and it can rear its head out of nowhere, a song on the radio or a phrase being spoken can bring it all back.

[dustybiker]

Yup. Same. I get that.

[Jccowen77]

I visited my best friend's mother in palative care. She had cancer and was close to death. She was like a mom to me for a lot of years. It was the last time I saw her before she died. It was tough.

[dustybiker]

I bet she appreciated the time you spent with her.

[Jccowen77]

I think she did. She was heavily drugged and she knew I was there but she couldn't get a lot of words out. She had enough strength to clasp my hand though.

[dustybiker]

You did a good thing. As hard as that was for you. I’m glad you had that time together.

[Jccowen77]

Thanks dear. I am too.

[Kreneman]

Leaving my Fiancée back at her hometown until I come back for her because we are in a long distance relationship and I miss her.

[dustybiker]

Hope the time passes quickly!

[Kreneman]

Oh yes, because I will be coming back to marry her and she will come back home with me.

[MrJoJo27]

When I realized that my best friend's of 15 years were actually toxic and childish, and so I had to make the decision to either be stagnant with them or grow without them.

[dustybiker]

What did you decide?
I’ve had to remove several people from my life. Never easy. You keep giving chances. In the end you feel so much better for it. I hope you do too.

[MrJoJo27]

I did feel a lot better. I decided that in order to change my life, by making better career decisions and practicing healthier and more positive thought patterns, I had to leave them. I voiced my opinions and understandably they were not well received but they were content to remain shifty people and pull the people around them down all the time. They shunned effort and success and so once I realized that I took that as my cue to go.

[dustybiker]

Good for you.

[Nikki1989]

I had to say goodbye to 3 of my dogs, all within the same year. Painful.

[dustybiker]

Goodness so sorry.
Similar here. Gutted me. I caught severe case of pneumonia from being so down.

[LovingLoverReturned]

My boss... but she sldecided to stay lol. I cried for none

[LovingLoverReturned]

None meaning nothing

[LovingLoverReturned]

Hmm pr maybe it was my first boyfriend, I was young then so.. weaker

[dustybiker]

Happy ending, so it was worth it.

[tfan1]

When my dad passed away the day after my birthday 💔😢😢😢

[dustybiker]

I was thinking the last I saw my mum too.

[tfan1]

My condolences to you and your family 😞

[dustybiker]

Same to you. It’s no easy thing to go through.

[Msputiton]

My ex. It got very ugly because i caught them off guard wit it

[Charliefretz329]

🤗🤗🤗🥺

[Msputiton]

@Charliefretz329 yeah it showed me a side of her I'm glad i got to see

[Charliefretz329]

Fortunately and unfortunately that’s the good side of dating

[dustybiker]

It’s crazy when people flash a side of themselves that you would never have expected.

[Msputiton]

True

[AsaKyo]

Saying goodbye to my awesome teachers from high school and begrudgingly moving on to the adult world *sigh*

[dustybiker]

Oh yes!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

My Cockerspaniel had to be put to sleep at age 15

[dustybiker]

Sweet baby. You gave them a nice long loving life.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thank you for your kindness

[dustybiker]

Of course

[Heolurt]

I guess it's a blessing that I don't have anyone in my life to ever have to say goodbye to.

[Rosexøxø]

Sometimes it’s not that we are alone, but we are free. Free to be whomever we wish, and do/ achieve whatever we desire. Along the way I am sure you will say hello to a good many people.

Wishing you the brightest, thrilling, funny, and memorably, beautiful adventure/ party and whatever you see life as being, to you ☺️🙏

[dustybiker]

That’s a hurt all of it’s own though, no? No avoiding it.

[CubsterShura]

I'm studying abroad so uh literally everything in my home.

[Rosexøxø]

Natural explorer! See the best side of that side of the earth you are in for such a time!

I hope you learn the lessons needed, experience the fun deserved and unexpected, and receive the best out of life and all it has to offer. 🙏

[CubsterShura]

@Rosexøxø thank you ❤️

[call_me_scar]

I'm in the process of leaving my first job and I really like my coworkers leaving them will hurt

[dustybiker]

Strength to you.

[call_me_scar]

Thank you I'll need it

[Fuentes]

I never say goodbye, they're all with me in spirit alotta people I grew up with are gone before 30.

[dustybiker]

So young..
I feel the same. I think when we suddenly remember them that is them coming for a visit.

[Fuentes]

Gotta pour out for the homies lol

[dustybiker]

Yes. Absolutely.

[Mangospacho]

Definitely after I left my last job where I was working for nearly 10 years.

[dustybiker]

Lots of memories.

[BJP21]

Saying good bye to my childhood home after my parents passed.

[dustybiker]

I’m contemplating this now. Gonna be hard.

[jamesgoldman]

Either waving my first girlfriend off at the airport in this plane of existence

As for the other side probably my maternal grandmother and my antique dealer

[Anonymous]

I never had because I don't allow anyone to stay closed to me that I get addicted to them.

[Rosexøxø]

Yes. The true ones will stay. I think it’s wise you don’t let any dependence be upon others. Experiencing others in the best situations can be a wonderful thing.

Keep winning king 🤝

[Opinion Owner]

Aw thanks ma'am 😊

[Rosexøxø]

Ofc 😁😄🙏

[dustybiker]

I can understand this.

[BlurryHaze]

The ones that hurt the most were the ones I didn't say goodbye to them.

[dustybiker]

I get that. Yes.

[Chelsdope0]

Saying goodbye to my grandmother and a guy I really liked … and to people/family I thought would stick around forever

[HugeDikEng]

Saying goodbye to my dog dox, she had cancer and she was in extreme pain by the end of her life. I wasn't sure if I should put her down or let nature run it corse. I couldn't stand seeing her in pain anymore so I made the choice to let her go.

[Tina19]

When i met him for the last time to end our relationship that goodbye was the hardest

[tonamimargaux]

Accepting the fact that my dad won’t be there anymore

[bowenw]

Being transferred for work to another city from my home town.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Saying goodbye to my grandpa when he died.

[Rosexøxø]

He lives on through you, you know. You also carry his blood. Live on as he would have wanted you to and you would want your grandson to.

I wish you strength, power, and might. Every possibly good and beautiful thing out of life 🙏

[dustybiker]

He was a lucky man to have you to love him. I really wish I had been able to meet mine. They rode bikes and races cars. Would have love to share that.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

@Rosexøxø @dustybiker

Thanks guys. He was a devout Christian, very nice man with strong principals. Always provided for his family, overcame addiction and dedicated time to helping others do the same. Always tried his best. I don't know if I'm living my life in a way he would be totally happy with. But I did learn a lot about life and the kind of person I want to be from him.

[dustybiker]

Then you make him proud.

[Nahid1707]

That is true
People will come and go in life
Part of being an adult
Letting people go and moving on

[HaveNoName]

At this age of mine, the goodbye to every passing year is pretty hard.

[moonpie89]

None actually. My parents are still alive 🙏

[Anonymous]

Losing my cousins was hard to deal with. They were my best friends growing up.

[Rosexøxø]

Nothing can replace a best friend, but to be offered the experience is like us cheating in life. Continue to chest sadness, life and all those obstacles in the road, and I wish you the best, funniest, exciting, beautiful adventure, with the promising friendship of individuals who know only how to offer their best and may have been unlucky to experience the richness of saying “I have a true friend.”

You know what friendship is. I hope you grow in your knowledge and take as much as you can in this lifetime 🙏

[exitseven]

Great question.

[dustybiker]

Thanks. 😎

[exitseven]

I will give you the answer but I cannot DM you.

[Charliefretz329]

First wife who left me

[Rosexøxø]

When we say goodbye to something, we are offered the chance to say hello to something else. May life always be good to you, and may you grow into the fullest person you can possibly obtain 🙏

[Charliefretz329]

Thank you for that! That’s beautiful! I wish the same for you

[Rosexøxø]

Thanks! And ofc 😁🙏

[Charliefretz329]

🙂🤗🥰

[dustybiker]

I didn’t know this. I’m so sorry. ((Warmest hugs my friend))

[Charliefretz329]

It was long in the past but some things always exist

[Charliefretz329]

thanks

[BLP11520]

The bitch that broke my heart when I was 22

[dustybiker]

She was lucky to have had you love her this much. Too bad she didn’t see it.

[BLP11520]

I got over her , 22 to 25 were rough years for me all around,

[Blackcupcake]

my cat…

[Rosexøxø]

I know you gave him/her the best memorable life as possible, and I hope you put the same effort into allowing yourself to live the best life as possible, and even grander since you have the luxury of extra time. I think your cat would have wanted that for you if they could say it.

You know what it’s like to have been a part of a pride (your cat accepted you), and you know a level of friendship not everyone knows. The loyalty. the affection. The bond.

I wish you go on to learn more in this lifetime, and receive the warmest, the brightest, the funniest, moments you can dare to experience. 🙏

[dustybiker]

@blackcupcake I swear it’s even harder to loose pets than people. Pure love. Not conflicted feelings.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Family. Family matters became too much so I left.

[jimmy2]

To my wife last breathe

[dustybiker]

I’m sorry.

[jimmy2]

It's ok dear

[User3191989]

my dogs

[dustybiker]

Pets are hardest for me too.

[EaterPeter]

@dustybiker

[dustybiker]

What do you mean? 🙂

[EaterPeter]

To let you go 🙂

[dustybiker]

Awe. Thanks. ☺️

[EaterPeter]

Welcome dear!

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[dustybiker]

You are welcome.

[Becky316]

My dad

[Rosexøxø]

Your dad taught you many things, and he did so in wanting you to learn in life and to experience. Continue to learn from the everything you have yet to encounter. Learn everything you can, laugh at all that you can, smile at everything you can, and I wish you the best time around in doing so.

You carry parts of him within you so he lives on.

Live on because he would have wanted you to live on, just as you would have wanted your daughter to live on, and yes, lol son because life goes on for us, teaching us how to keep moving forward long enough to start to unveil other beautiful moments, like that of a new rising sun, the birthing of greatness.

All the best to you sis. You standing to tell this give me a hope I can stand and be a token of truth, a joyful smile, an angelic crazy ball of laughter, and more to someone else, when this time comes for me and my household. I know it’s soon, but I remain hopeful. 🙏