How did you say goodbye to your loved ones that passed away?

Question

I loved my grandpa a lot.

When he passed, I wanted to give him the one last love touch, but I didn’t want to kiss him, because I wanted my lips to have a memory of his warm cheeks, instead I rubbed my forehead onto his forehead and that was my goodbye kiss.

Before I came to China, I went to his grave and once all of my family members left, I sat by his grave and quietly sang him a mellow song that we both loved singing when he was alive.

The sweetest moment was that, my brother came to me, he sat next to me and we sang for him together, very quietly. So that only two of us could hear.

That felt very nice.

I made a promise that I will keep this tradition every time I go there.

How did you say goodbye to your loved ones that passed away?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

im not really for sure. my father just past 2 nights ago. my mother has dementia and is not going to be too far behind him.

I really didn't know my father we met when I was 27 and as time passed we met up a few times. and he became a friend that really a father or dad but just a friend.

my parents divorced when I was one
I left home when I was 16.
and for the last past few years my mother moved in with me.
and the last past 3 years she has driven me crazy LOL
but it's all good I think my kids were easier to raise than to take care of my mother.

but we have become friends
and even though it feels like hell at the moment. there will be a time where I will miss it.

I didn't really say goodbye to my father and I probably won't say goodbye to my mother I believe in something that is hard for people to understand

the long story short I believe that when we pass on this Earth it's just our body defaults to the ground our energy gathers our soul our spirit and we go into another dimension it sounds crazy yes.
but I've had things happen to me I've seen things and it's just something I believe in anyway. so I won't say goodbye to either one of them I will just say I'll see you later. with all the above I can really get into a detailed story why I believe this but I'm not going to at this time.

and if you think about it just because they're gone doesn't mean they're not around I mean just like with your question and your answer your grandfather's still around because you bring him back by just using your energy your words about him and I'm sure he appreciates that and I'm sure you appreciate your words that you're saying about him.
because your memory is very beautiful thing and if you have a memory you have them.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

My best friend died a couple of months ago. I had not seen him in 4 years since he moved away. I had planned on seeing him this year. Nobody in his family even bothered to tell me that he died. I had not heard from him in a few months so I found out on my own.

I think that maybe I will go to a few places that we went to together just so maybe I could feel him beside me again. Maybe I will play this song, one of his faves.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/QwVjTlTdIDQ

Lilyrosy · Accepted Answer

I'm so sorry about your grandpa. I had an open casket funeral for my dad. It was a little over a year ago. I had kissed his forhead, held his hand, and just cried. I felt bad for my little siblings, my sister was 6 and didn't understand what was going on. So she wouldn't look. My brother was 8 and he just asked questions about the body. I do things daily. I write to him, even though it seems crazy it helps. I hope you can keep honoring your grandpa.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

With My Grams, She Had Put Me and My Two Siblings Hands on Top of Each Other To Stay Close But Not happening. With Mom? "I Love You" ON The Phone and Then Died That Week of Cancer. Dad? On The Phone... Went To The Hospital With a Twisted Bowel Which I Knew He was Going That Day and Did Say, "I love You" As I Cried. xxoo

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Hmmm... I'll stick to how I did it with my Great-grandfather. All the dead people and too many stories.

So he died and I just remained strong during the burial and all that. Gave hugs and shit. But years later I was in Thailand and just banged a chick I could tell didn't really want the D and I went outside on a balcony (hotel) with a switchblade, my drank, and smokes. The switchblade brought back a lot of the memories of the stories he told me. I cried a little. Drank my drank, smoked, and played with the switchblade knife. I said my goodbyes in an imaginary conversation with him and then I went back in and banged my Thai hooker again.

Sameone · Answer

When i lost my mom i was only 7 year old i didn't accept he is really gone
Before putting her in the grave, I was crying and saying, “Stop joking, please wake up.”
I told everyone she is not Dead she is just playing with as
I did not accept the matter until after three years of psychological treatment, and every time I visited her grave, I waited for her to come out of the grave.
And what make me cry every time is i don't have a lot of moments or memories whit her so like this i sayd goodbay

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I failed to attend my grandmother’s online funeral procession because I was a selfish asshole. They’d broadcast the funeral online because of CoVid, so in person attendance was limited to a select few.

So, the last time I visited my grandfather who is on hospice care and will pass this year, I visited my grandmother’s burial site and held my own private funeral. I reminisced about our memories past and remembered our joyous moments. Her favorite was when I grew 1/2” (growth spurt) within a week. One day, I was absolutely famished. I ate 5 peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. I kept coming back and politely asking her for another and woul reply “Oh my gosh, you’re still hungry?”. For the rest of my life, that was the story she would always reminisce with me: “XYZ, do you remember when you had 5 peanut butter and jelly sandwiches?”

That is how I say goodbye. By remembering them.

DagonbroughtMehere · Answer

When My Little Brother (a Dog for clarity) passed I knelt beside His Body and gave Praises to the All-Creator for bringing Him to Me and asked that He bless Him, had Him wait for Me in Elysium and He would understand what I had to do next,

Then I closed His eyes, carried Him outside and Buried Him.

NathanDavis · Answer

I didn't get the chance... I was young, a kid... as soon as I heard, got a bit too broken and till today, I can't remember anything of the next three days, what I remember after those days was to meet in dreams, so we didn't say goodbye then..

because they've never left my heart... not one day, and they are never gone (=

Jessica405 · Answer

I never got the chance to say goodbye to my dad. He collapsed on the beach and was gone in seconds.

DJB72 · Answer

I used to go to my brother's grave every day after he died on my way home from school. I was able to go to my dad's grave last time I was in England and his parents' as well but I didn't make it to Yorkshire to go to my other grandparents resting place.

I was holding dad's hand as he died. That means a lot to me. I went to see my brother after his accident. Thankfully he wasn't disfigured. I kissed his forehead and said goodbye.

It's never easy.

McLlovin · Answer

My grandfathers wife passed 4 years before him and he spent time living alone. I visited him for a weekend talking about his old days and how he met my grandmother. A week after i left he passed away. I was shocked. He use was a retired FBI agent. 80 years old.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I told them that I'll be seeing you again. Enjoy Heaven and see you on the flip side. 🥰😇👼🏼

Sour-rose · Answer

Cry in their honor. Buuut my little doggy comes to see me once in a while so he may have passed but he ain't gone.

AviatorTom · Answer

You don't have to say goodbye. Memories of your loved ones never go away. They may dim over time, but you will always remember them. I sometimes think of my father, mother and sister who have passed away. Fond memories.

Agape93 · Answer

On Samhain we get together to eat, drink, dance and reminisce. Once we do all that, we formally say good bye and send them off to what comes next for them

msc545 · Answer

Mine have just died suddenly and in other places. I didn't see the bodies.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

I can’t remember if I actually did or not, my next focus was making sure I got my grandmother back home safely.

OddBeMe · Answer

Honestly there’s not much you can do. Imagine his POV, scared dying def not thinking “why am I not being hugged?” It’s more what you did beforehand. Sounds like he knew already.

laly520 · Answer

saw em for last time put flowers down prayed for em n that's it

Carly2005 · Answer

Spent time cried and probably sound harsh but was relieved. But my grandfather had strokes at time point he didn’t know which took a toll on him.

MikeyPH · Answer

I lost my mother three days less than a month after I turned 4 and honestly 38 now and I still ain't said goodbye!!

Rangers · Answer

I don't, there's nothing for me to say. I don't care about anyone but myself, I have no care or kindness to give

Half the time, I'm not even sure I care for myself, either. What would I say? "Hi, bye"?

JayBones · Answer

Peace homie. Then slow poor a Yuengling on the spot where they died.

Jennz6 · Answer

Sorry for your loss

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

I dunno if I ever did.

elaphe · Answer

Attend the funeral.

Batsy01010101 · Answer

I'm still learning how to

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