When you decide to live together, which would you prefer?

[DizzyDesii]

As i told shadowdweller in his question, I don’t want to rent nor buy, but I intend to build a home which I guess is basically buying. I saw an opinion mention that they prefer to wait and see what their future spouse would want. I think thats sweet but hella risky. So here's where I stand... If my house is built before I am engaged/married, then I’m keeping my house. I will not be renting it out. He can either move in with me or we can get a new separate place but I will absolutely be going back to the house I built anytime I feel like it lmao. And its technically not a bachelorette pad but if thats what you wanna call a 3 bed 2 bath home then so be it. Now if i am renting an apartment or something before having gotten engaged to him, then yea, I don’t mind giving that up. But once my baby is built, I’m not renting it out nor selling it. And just moving in to the guys place would ONLY happen if we’re engaged and my home is not yet built. #FeelFreeToList

I prefer they move in with me

I prefer to move in with them

I prefer we get a brand new place thats new for us both and sell our old places

I prefer we get a brand new place but still keep our separate homes on the side

We will move in with one of our parents/families

[DaveJord]

So, I own my place out right. It is 100% paid off. So, I do not see myself moving out unless she also owns her place out right and it is 100% paid off. Then I would consider renting my place out and moving in with her.

But honestly, I would want to live with her for one year before committing to buying our own place together, ultimately is what I would want to do with her so when would both have our own place together as a couple. You know just to make sure we really gel and get together well, before making any finical commitment. But even then, I would want marriage before going in together on a new place... but I would want a prenup that would protect the property I obtained before marriage, as well as hers.

if she did not outright own her own place then would want her to move in with me, I would not move in with her only to pay rent when I already own my own place.

[DizzyDesii]

Sounds pretty smart. A prenup is a must regardless lol. But its sad you’d give up the place you own 100%. I could never

[DaveJord]

I could totally do it, not give it up technically. I mean it's a fabulous rental property. It's a condo. I love it, but I bought it after my divorce, because I did not know if this is my forever place... but I do know it was an excellent place to live, and I could always rent it later if I wanted to move again or find someone and try new things and new places. The rent would cover the cost of the mortgage... and would give me another asset to invest in... and I would love to do that with someone special. But would just as easily stay where I am forever, or move in with her if she is in the same place as I am.

My current girlfriend rents but wants to buy... but I told her I would have to date her for a year before I could consider moving in with anyone, and then live with them for at least a year before considering marriage. She seemed 100% fine with that, and she loves my place. Actually, she used to rent a condo in the same complex and she totally misses it. So, who knows in two years she might want to buy a place and if I felt ready, I would consider it. It would cost me nothing honestly, the rent from my condo would cover my half of the mortgage. she's a fucking doctor anyway. So, she could buy a place if she really wanted to, but she wants to travel and do tele health.

So, it really depends, some time as couple you just want to build and share a new life together and doing it in a new place really strengthens the relationship. time will tell. No promises.

[LiamJHayden]

I move into her place, she gets pissed, changes locks and I have a hassle getting my stuff back. She moves in with me, she gets pissed, lying claims DV, and I get locked out of my own house.

Sorry, I work on too many domestic dispute cases to even consider it.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont blame you. Separate spaces it is

[melanieeeB]

Right now, if I would meet someone and the topic moving in came up... there would be just the option that he moves into my apartment and that's it.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao damn

[NathanDavis]

I do not have a preference in advance, if I were to marry with someone, or to get paired with someone for a very long term, the living situation will have to be decided by both of us... I would not decide it one side it on my own

also, I already have two places on my own (one in the US and one in Mexico) plus the business place, so when the time comes, there are options to use or trade up, and then who knows, maybe the one I end up with has other ideas or plans, options... we'll make it work when the time comes

besides, that, I've already lived with my two ex-girlfriends... and both had their own place as well, but they still moved in with me because we wanted to be as close and together as possible and then, the location of my places happened to be more convenient, geographically speaking.. so that worked well

so yes, I am open to possibilites and i would decide with them thinking of what is going to work best

now, ideally... I also have some land I could use, and IDEALLY... I would love we built our own place there, build it up from the very foundation and exactly the way we would like it to be, that would be great

[DizzyDesii]

Yea building truly is ideal but i get that it can be expensive. Still i think i can do mine for under 350k, land included. I’m simply elegant but not looking for extravagant

[NathanDavis]

400k sounds very plausible, around here...

[NathanDavis]

oh, and it really helps that I have relatives in the construction/contractor business, lmao

[DizzyDesii]

I’m need those connects 😂

[NathanDavis]

I'll hook you up... when the time comes, lol

[DizzyDesii]

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[AimeeKyle]

I owned my first house when I met a girl that ultimately moved in with me. It lasted about five years and then I moved on. It was a big pain in the ass getting her to move out while we were ending things…. and I wasn’t going to be that guy that litters the yard with her stuff…. Not cool / classy at all. Ironically enough we became somewhat friends about a year later and hooked up a few times 😁. Great sex but not someone I wanted to be around all the time.

Then met someone else, moved to another region (so, sold my house) and bought a house together.

[DizzyDesii]

I remember when an ex and i were gonna get an apartment together and we agreed that if we breakup, we’d get twin beds and just be roommates until the lease was up 😂

[AimeeKyle]

That’s a good one! Did you end up getting a place together?

[DizzyDesii]

Thankfully no!

[AimeeKyle]

Very lucky. I don’t think the two bed method would have worked out all that well. Definitely easier if one person or the other owns or rents and the other moves in. It makes for an easier split if it happens.

[HighValue]

The only option is for her to move in with me. I would pay for the mortgage 100% because if I ever got married, there would be a prenuptial agreement where I get the house so it is only fair that I pay for it myself since I will be the one keeping it regardless.

[DizzyDesii]

Makes sense

[JDavid25]

That cost too much money, we'll just move in with each other.. I'll wait til the spouse comes around and see what she wants.. As it's both our decision ultimately.. Definitely not keeping any houses to the side unless we both got money to spare..

[DizzyDesii]

Better start savin up

[JDavid25]

Save up my a$$.. 😂😂.. Might as well add that to the list.. I better decide to start making some big ol money if I was gonna do that.. But I won't.. I'm too frugal for that..

[MysticDevice]

I'd prefer getting a new place.

If thats not feasable then I'd prefer she move in with me, IF she is currently living in an apartment. Cause to hell with apartments. If we both have houses then most likely sell them both and buy a really nice one

[DizzyDesii]

And what if one or both of you built a home from scratch? You just gonna give that bad boy up?

[MysticDevice]

Oh well then we'd definitely have to keep those

[ZenJen444]

Girl what!!🤣🤣 I can't believe he said some dumb shit like that. Um no, I'm not waiting on anyway. If I want something I'm getting it. So I agree with you because he could be waiting all his life for the tight one and they never come so he never gets a house.

[ZenJen444]

*anyone

[DizzyDesii]

Im glad i didn't tag him 😂

[ZenJen444]

🤣🤣 I'm glad u didn't either

[Twalli]

My parents house is well placed and big enough for two families with 0 children to live in. I haven't made it a secret that I want to inherit the house (mainly due to location). So I would prefer my girlfriend and I move into my parents house, and all parties are okay with it.

[DizzyDesii]

But would y'all live there while the parents are still there

[Twalli]

Yeah. Plus they're pretty old, so it won't be that much longer when they'd need someone there.

[DizzyDesii]

My parents would get an in home nurse. Im not tryna do all that

[Twalli]

I like the house.

[AviatorTom]

In both of my long-term relationships, I moved in with her. In my marriage, we then bought a house together and lived in it until we amicably divorced. I'm currently living in my SO's place.

[DizzyDesii]

When you divorced you won the house?

[AviatorTom]

@DizzyDesii We sold the house and split the profits 50-50. My original move in with her house was from my apartment that I rented, so there was no loss for me. All was amicable.

[DizzyDesii]

Wow im glad things worked out

[soe11]

I personally prefered moving with her and contribution in expenditures.

Currently I live with my girlfriend, that's her own, I contribute maintenance of the house and extension so on.

[DizzyDesii]

Do you both pay on the bills

[soe11]

I pay bills, she use own personal stuff and occasionally she buy something especial.
She is a honest girlfriend.

[SnowedIn]

I like your plan and I selected D.

I'm still saving to build my house on the Maine coastline.

[DizzyDesii]

Yessss 🙌

[Redstang88]

Totally depends our situation when it happens. If one of us has the better place or better location, or if we both wanted a change and move somewhere new together.

[DizzyDesii]

Mmkayyy

[TaureanBull81]

If both partners had their own properties, you'd rent them out and move into another together (already built or to be built). That way you're protecting your separate assets as well.

[DizzyDesii]

Never renting out my place. I’ll just keep it for when im mad and need space 😂

[TaureanBull81]

Haha and you could do that 🤣

[TallAnon]

Depends on the circumstances of course. Ideally we get an apartment together and both put in the same number.
What we do with our houses, if any, depends on the economy and if we want to be landlords.

[DizzyDesii]

Ahh i seeee

[Sparkie460]

As we did, we got a new place for both of us. We just rented an apartment which was a nightmare both times. Then we moved in with her parents until our new home was being built

[DizzyDesii]

Damn what made it bad

[Sparkie460]

We had the downstairs apartment in a house and the owners sold the house. The new owner was a dick and we had a month to get out. The bank foreclosed on the second apartment even though we paid our rent every month.

[RavVid]

I prefer them to move in with me proffering a signed prenup. Had a close escape wake up.

[DizzyDesii]

I recommend a prenup and keeping backup places

[RavVid]

Definitely. I think it has to be filed with a court or something like that.

[Pink2000]

If my house is better then he’s moving in with me. If his house is better I’m moving in with him. The spare house will be rented out.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao if i build it, its gonna be considered better for me 😂

[ariadneR]

I would probably move into his place, with the intention of buying one together and living in that one , while renting out the others.

[exitseven]

I think getting a new place together is best for the relationship

[DizzyDesii]

Maybe

[Jennz6]

I’m going to move in with someone really soon, we just talked about it

[DizzyDesii]

Hope it works out

[Titanic1912]

I voted D. A brand new place is perfect but I’d like my childhood home to stay on the side.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea gotta keep that backup plan

[the_sinner]

I’d prefer we both shift to a new place and have a fresh start. But I’d hope that I stay somewhat close to my family too so that getting to them during emergency would be easier.

[Damian69]

I'm too young for that rn, and I can't say what I'd prefer to do. I'll figure it out when the time comes

[BLP11520]

My wife and I almost lived together; we both were about to lose are roommates, so we married 3 months early

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow

[Jamie05rhs]

I kinda like the idea of a new house to go along with the new relationship.

[Anonymous]

This is not easily answerable. There are many factors to consider. What most important is not where we are, but that we are.

[Abdulwahh]

If I get married if I can afford a house I will buy but my parents has separate entrances they agreed to let me stay if I can't buy a house as yet

[DevinAM]

I'd prefer they move in with me, assuming I have my own place by then.

[DizzyDesii]

And if she doesn't want to?

[DevinAM]

Depends on circumstances.

[nawtee_me]

Your house, your rules….

[DizzyDesii]

Lol which is why they prob dont wanna just move in 😂

[TrillXHippy]

I would prefer moving in with someone

[DizzyDesii]

Oooo well look at youuu... i like you more already 😂

[Debbie14217]

wow lol feel way you do

[clampfan101]

Not E. lol