I messaged my crush from years ago and ruined my reputation?

[izzie_morris]

Hey everyone, it’s been a while! I really need help and advice. I’m a huge embarrassment, I just did something impulsive and stupid and contacted my crush from 5 years ago from my old school. I sent him a bunch of voice notes apologising for stalking him and being weird to him all those years ago. I absolutely was weird those years ago, I was 14 years old and did stupid things over social media. Like messaging his friends to get him to unblock me and just act like a complete psycho. He replied to my voice notes with “it’s all good”. But the thing is, he declined my follow request which shows he still doesn’t want me in his life whatsoever. And now I’m just realising how stupid what I just did was, because he had probably forgotten about it and now I just reminded him and ruined my reputation all over again. He literally has a girlfriend by now and a new life. I’m so embarrassed and humiliated, I feel like the damage is permanently done. The school we went to was a posh boarding school with a small exclusive social circle and now all his friends know about me and probably make fun of me. If I ever see them again it would be awful. My reputation is completely ruined. I wish I could go back in time and act differently.😔 I look at photos of the other girls from my boarding school and how everyone likes them and they had the time of their lives whereas I was just a complete embarrassment of a person. I can’t forgive myself and can’t seem to move on from my guilt and regrets. Please help me if you can. 🙏

[Guanfei]

It's been a while indeed, you've been missed.

So, let's see that... Honestly, and sorry for being a bit too brutal: he probably doesn't care at all. It was 5 years ago, you were both kids, he moved on, he has a girlfriend and a life, at this point you're just some girl from his past, who he didn't talk to for years, coming back, saying weird stuff, next week he won't even remember it, or you, and his friends probably don't care much either.

You're probably the only one who is making it a big thing. Just move on, never contact him again, and you're fine.

[izzie_morris]

Hey!! I remember you💖 you’ve always given me amazing advice. Thank you so much. I will absolutely NEVER contact him again. I just hope this won’t ruin or effect my future in any way, I feel like such a psycho

[Guanfei]

Don't worry, it's embarrassing now, but you haven't done anything bad, and certainly not as weird as what you did before.
Everyone will forget that soon, and unless you have people in common, you won't hear from it again.
And if you want advices, you know where to find me 😌

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't sweat it. You reached out and apologized to him, which is good. You are in the brink of becoming an adult and shit like this quickly fades into the past and eventually becomes irrelevant.

[izzie_morris]

Thank you so much seriously, I hope it won’t effect my reputation too much. I’m just so humiliated💖🥴

[KrakenAttackin]

I'm serious when I say the school shit will quickly fall into the past... focus on your future, it's coming fast.

[NotTacocaT6969]

You’re overthinking it.


Nothing changed significantly except that now you know he forgives you for the past.


Just relax and let it go.

[Guy13]

Wears fallen mdd Ed n snd women who make mistakes and must learn to forgive others and ourselves. Live in the Present to Future please.

[jjj101010]

Don’t be hard on urself. It will pass soon enough

[izzie_morris]

Thank you so much, I really hope so

[magiusX26]

well a lot of this seems more like you are imaging issues where none may exist.

[In_Trance]

I think that happens to a lot of people sooner or later. I wouldn't worry about it

[Nahid1707]

You can always move on