Are you good at holding in your smile/laughter?

[DizzyDesii]

I am horrible at holding in my smile. I smile when I’m happy, mad, sad (even when crying), telling the truth, lying, innocent, guilty, sick, hurting, nervous, all of the above. I can’t help it. And don’t even get me started on laughing. I will hold it in as long as possible and even choke myself trying to do so. As a kid, we would laugh at the sound of people’s crying at funerals and it felt awful inside. Now I just don’t go to funerals and I have controlled my laughing in more ways than one. But smiling? Nah i still fail at that. #FeelFreeToList

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I might be the only person who is actually smiling/laughing when i type lol/lmao or certain emojis 😂 But yea I literally will be deadass crying but I go to the nearest mirror and look at it and smile because I don’t ever want to be accused of ugly crying. I’m just weird like that 🤣 People always tell me, “you have such a welcoming smile” well yea but I’m not always welcoming. I’ll be smiling like please dont let this hoe be walking over to talk to me 🙂 But my fake smile matches my real smile

[Sour-rose]

Ya know, i've been known to be sad, depressed or in pain. By my face. :1 I'm usually just fine, I just don't need to smile to everyone to show my mood. But here's a good story where my classmates were shocked.

So I was in a call center bit, and I never laughed or entertained what my classmates did. I'm that quiet bish who watches. So we were in nesting (warm up stage before we do calls by ourselves) and we were taking on live calls. So it was me, and two other ladies and one went first. And before the dude even said "Hello, I'm tryi-" she hung up on him accidentally. I couldn't help but laugh because oh shiiiit. xD It was the one time they saw what entertains me and they remarked "Well, we know how to make Sour rose laugh!" and it was funny. So yeah, i'm good at it... until my sadistic funny bone activates

[DizzyDesii]

yea i had to do nesting too and even train some nesters. Bt wow so other peoples mistakes make you smile hmmmmm lol

[DarkCarousel]

No, I’m not. It’s hard work to force stop— I think awkward moments can be so funny.
I went to a funeral recently and the director and assistant were turning the coffin towards the aisle and realized it was apparently facing the wrong direction. They had to awkwardly move it down, back, turn, back up, turn again. It shouldn’t have been funny but I had to stifle my laugh. It was so obviously uncomfortable and reminded me of the scene when Austin Powers is trying to turn the golf cart around in a narrow hallway.

[DizzyDesii]

For sure

[JDavid25]

I can be good at hiding my emotions if you are not paying attention to me.. But, I've been told somethings are just written on my face.. I'm not terrible but I'm not the best.. Although, I wanted to be an actor, so obviously I can to a certain extent..

[DizzyDesii]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5KHnxIZGX9I

[Guardian45]

DON'T change! I wear my heart on my sleeve. I don't have to speak a word, and people know what I think: good, bad, happy, sad, funny, or if "Looks could Kill" they be maimed and dismembered! LOL!

People often tell me my laughs are infectious!

[DizzyDesii]

Aww thats good :)

[Guardian45]

Ya, it's kinda embarrassing

[EbeneezerGoode]

Sometimes in school or university or whatever, there'd be like a little nuance or something... just some funny remark whose timing was on-point or a funny miscommunication or misunderstanding, or y'know being really intelligent and knowledgeable it might be where someone in class has said something insanely stupid but I'm likely the only person in the room whose aware of it... or maybe one or two other people are aware of it and one person's response to the spoken stupidity is even funnier to me than aforementioned stupidity... y'know something like that. Often just a very subtle nuance that increases in hilarity the more I reflect on and analyse it thereafter, so while everyone else is just carrying on and has forgotten about it I'm desperately trying to just not burst out laughing.

So in these such occasions I'd basically force myself to think about my childhood friend that died in a horrible accident, in order to stop myself from bursting out laughing. It doesn't feel particularly good and there's perhaps an element of guilt in the fact that I'm trying not to laugh while thinking of my friend that died... but actually what I'm doing is thinking about an event that made me really sad and was horrible and tragic as a coping mechanism to try and prevent me from inappropriate laughter. A lot of it is to do with how my brain works differently (high-functioning autism, often I see things from multiple angles... like an event happens and I see it in mult-dimensions, like it's octagonal in shape whereas to others it's probably just triangular or some shit).

[DizzyDesii]

Aww man i wish you had a better thought that could stop h from laughing

[LovingLoverReturned]

Haha I'm ssme. I'm the joker. I especially laugh hysterically when nervous or even with second hand embarrassment. I apologize for laughing at inappropriate times if I do.

[DizzyDesii]

Lol same

[SnowedIn]

When I have to, very good. Absolutely vital to make it through boot camp. Equally vital when you're sitting in a room full of Admirals or members of Congress or executives and they say stupid shit or ask dumb questions that my cat can answer. Can't laugh so you learn not to.

[DizzyDesii]

On Special Forces, the former bachelorette that i never cared for is even struggling with this. She can't stop smiling no matter how much they yell at her and it makes them more mad lol.

[SnowedIn]

lmao I totally get that. I saw some recruits do that. It was funny until the company commanders punished us and not them. Very quickly after that they changed their behavior.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea the whole group gets punished and she still smiles while crying inside lol

[SnowedIn]

We'd fix that real quick.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont think a person should get beat up or something. Someone shoudlnt have to act a certain way just because the men in charge choose to take it out ok everyone. If anything, discharge that person from bootcamp/etc but no one should be forcibly changed. And in her case, i dont like her as a person but she is killing all of the stunts/tasks. They just can't stand seeing her smile through it. More people need to rely on optimism to get through the day

[the_sinner]

I might hold my laughter in but definitely not a smile. I smirk like an idiot when I comes across something really funny and when I try to hide it my face becomes all red and I get teary eyed.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[TrillXHippy]

I got to see LeBron pass Kareem’s scoring record yesterday so I’m not gonna let what I just read even ruin my day. I’m great at holding in my smile because I don’t like smiling. If I’m not around kids, people I work with or not watching something that I think is actually funny then I’m not laughing

[DizzyDesii]

Welp i must be in trouble again

[Paul_in_Indy]

I am very good at this. I can always extend a joke or a gag as long as necessary without cracking up. That makes the laughter far more satisfying. Now that I think of it, there are some parallels to…um, other things.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao liiiike

[Paul_in_Indy]

I have a completely straight face right now. I’m raising my eyebrows and turning my head slightly as if I don’t understand the question.

[DizzyDesii]

Ew no thats scary. I need you to smile lol

[Paul_in_Indy]

I’m raising my eyebrows higher and cocking my head. Sorry, I am not sure what you mean…?

[mstbooblover]

Incredibly contagious those gif images. Really nice :0) Still, if need be, I can hold a smile and laughter, but I love funny situations and other reasons like kidding to have a good innocent laugh.

[DizzyDesii]

They definitely made me laugh

[mstbooblover]

No doubt about that from my side :0)

[electromagnetic]

I smile a lot. I cannot have a serious face. No matter what. I’ve seen people get hurt and I laugh at their pain.
These Covid masks have been such life savers.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn im not that bad

[CateM]

Nope. Even when something isn't funny I just can't help it, though I try to. No, I don't think it's funny your mom died, I sympathize with you and am not laughing on purpose, I'm trying to stop

[DizzyDesii]

Of course i wouldn't think its funnny someone died. I’m saying as a kid that we laughed at the sounds people made when crying. But again we were kids. Although my reaction now a days would be sitting robotically quiet, i just wouldn't attend

[Alchemizt]

I actually don't have the problem of holding laughter at funerals. But I have this problem where I'm in a bus or somewhere public and all of a sudden I remember a meme or something funny and I have to choke myself trying not to laugh.

[DizzyDesii]

For me the laughter at funerals was a kids thing. By time we were 12+ we certainly werent finding peoples crying funny. But i still dont go to funerals because i cannot relate to others sorrow and that makes them
Angry with me. They ball their eyes out and i sit robotic and tearless. And yea the random laugh thing with memes and stuff, i reacted that way when I was working and the customer assumed i wasn't taking the matter seriously

[talka20]

I think i am good at it unless im not lookin at someone who is lookin at me while we both are thinking the same thing or thinking the same way without saying or doing doing any gesture

[DizzyDesii]

I like that

[talka20]

But I've had some messed up moments too related to this😂

[Chazmatazz269]

I don’t have to withhold my smile. I really only smile as a precursor to a laugh, and i don’t laugh often.

[DizzyDesii]

Ahhh

[RavVid]

I find it hard not to laugh and smile in amusement at people's minor misfortunes but not at major ones. Fortunately not at a funeral so far.

[DizzyDesii]

The funeral thing was like under 12. Major immaturity. But in general and as an adult, i dont laugh at peoples misfortunes unless its some tv character i despised and i’ll be like Ha! THATS WHAT YOU GET

[Ligerzzero]

Yes, don’t have reason to smile and almost never laugh, never didn’t do much when I was younger.

[NathanDavis]

laughter, yes... I can hold them

smiles, not a chance

[DizzyDesii]

Yep thats how i am

[NathanDavis]

and I also smile for many different reasons... lol

half-smiles are more common

[merveto]

No, unfortunately i can't control my face...

[DizzyDesii]

Sometimes i hate that because smiling so much feels like im stuck on botox 🤣

[RobT312]

Nope I’m terrible at it. Even when I try to hold it in, I’m caught smiling

[DizzyDesii]

Lol yep same

[RobT312]

I can't hold in a laugh either

[Jaximus-Lion]

Oh yes! I have a great poker face plus the beard helps a lot :D

[DizzyDesii]

My poker face would be laughing and still winning/losing. My smile could easily mean the opposite of what most think

[AdithyaR]

I'm really bad at it when it comes a camera, when someone asks me to smile for a photo I legit can't. And then i have think of something funny to trigger an involuntary smile.

[LaFerrari]

Yes I can control it, growing up I was always quiet and shy, I would avoid people often, so perhaps that’s the reason why.

[DizzyDesii]

I was shy too but never stopped me from smiling lol

[LaFerrari]

Haha

[TheAfrikan]

Well at times am good but once I cannot I let it out like an explosion

[Hallix26]

I never do, I laugh when I find something funny, no more and no less. Sometimes it's in less appreciated contexts but hey, if it's funny it's funny.

[DizzyDesii]

Dang

[DancingQueen16]

Its always been hard for me to hold in my laughter if I want to laugh because I'm always laughing at something 😂

[kellytheman]

I only really smile when I am happy or if I am flirting with a girl and after sex. I laugh quite bit but it has to be a good joke that I can relate too.

[Sparkie460]

Smiling is what gives me away when I try to lie so I don't lie. Sometimes I try to control my Smiling when someone tells a joke

[DizzyDesii]

But thats the thing, i smile even when im telling the truth. people would never know

[Sparkie460]

So your nickname should be smiley instead of dizzy

[DizzyDesii]

My nickname is Desi. Dizzy is just the verb or adjective that describes my clumsiness or confusion. I wish people would remember that

[Sparkie460]

So you're a smiling cluts. Lmao 🤣

[Rudon00]

Not me. The first Chance at laughter and I'm all bursting out. So bad a keeping secrets.😂😂😂

[DizzyDesii]

Damn

[Rudon00]

🤣🤣🤣 what can I say

[Hardworkingguy]

I believe I'm pretty good at that since there have been more than one time that I had to do it

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I suck at it. But other emotions, I'm pretty good at it.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Like even if i'm alone, and something made me emotional like thinking of the past or whatever, i still tend to hold my tears like it's automatic. However, there are times I'd look like a crazy person laughing in public for remembering something funny.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I remembered this meme, and this face is pretty accurate lol

[DizzyDesii]

So you never cry?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I do try not to resist if im alone.

[nawtee_me]

I knew that I loved your smile. Now I know why. It is just so natural…

[DizzyDesii]

Haha

[Dantezam]

I just can't hold back, even in the worst moments 🙈

[DizzyDesii]

I walk out if i can't hold back

[Dantezam]

Yeah, does it happen to you often?

[DizzyDesii]

At work it was too often

[Charliefretz329]

Yes I’m great at suppressing emotions. But I don’t think it’s healthy

[DizzyDesii]

Its not healthy. Thats why i stray from robot mode. Its probably the only time i dont smile and everything goes numb and dark for a good hour or two. It usually only kicks in twice a year if someone has pissed me off

[Charliefretz329]

I’ve been hearing a lot about that kind of coping mechanism. It sounds quite unhealthy and dangerous. It could lead to far worse coping mechanisms and mental instability.

Stay healthy and strong!

[Charliefretz329]

For me I can completely “gray” out and basically be gone from my mind entirely during extreme duress. Like can’t even see or feel anything.

Definitely bad news. I’m making a conscious effort to show and experience emotions and not surpress

[DizzyDesii]

But i meant more so in holding back your smile/laugh when it maybe inappropriate

[Tim-loves-it]

Oh yes!! I am rather adept at "pulling leg" as well!

[Phoenix98]

Nope not at all.

[DizzyDesii]

Does that go for both or just one over the other

[Phoenix98]

Both lol.

[DevinAM]

Smile- yes, laughter- not so much

[Justneedtokno]

nope everything it written on my face

[DizzyDesii]

People hate that its not written on mine

[exitseven]

yes, I have a very practiced poker face.

[Anpu23]

I am pretty good at it.

[violetsareviolet]

im terrible at it lol

[DizzyDesii]

Haha same

[BJP21]

When I smile the room clears.

[DizzyDesii]

Whyyyt

[TallAnon]

Showing no emotions is very easy.

[DizzyDesii]

By phone, I can talk in a way that it would be hard to read me. But looking at my face, i’d still be smiling so the person wouldn't understand just how serious i am

[A_Nihilist]

I have a solid poker face when needed.

[DizzyDesii]

Like your avi lol

[Msputiton]

Not at all

[DizzyDesii]

I believe it

[Msputiton]

Yeah. I will laugh at just about anything

[Agape93]

Nope

[DizzyDesii]

I don't know why i imagined you’d be like a Wednesday adams lol

[Agape93]

Lol not really. If I'm trying to hide my emotions I will. But if I'm smiling, I'm either pretending or I'm happy. If I'm laughing, you made me laugh.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Maybe.

[MysticDevice]

Haha nope.

[DizzyDesii]

Glad im not alone

[annabananna]

No I’m really not

[DizzyDesii]

you're not alone

[collie22]

Not at all 😀

[eagle1951]

yeah

[DizzyDesii]

Lucky