Why are looks relative?

[TenderFantasy]

Not sure I understand? Don't people generally want someone who is HEALTHY and whom they find attractive? And who would make a good wife and mother?

Unless OBSESE is the new healthy?

Serious question.

[RockyHammock]

The way you look is a direct reflection on how you live your life. If you have yellow teeth, you probably drink too much coffee. If you have weight issues you probably have no self control. I genuinely cannot think of anyone who wouldn't hit a button to instantly give them a flat stomach rather than ignoring it.

Nobody inherently wants a partner with bad habits. Thus, I believe people chose to settle for what they can get rather than what they want.

It's just overly stigmatized in our culture. If I said I want my girl to be thin I would be crucified by society. However, if I said I want a girl who goes running on the weekdays; I'd be fine.

[Berethor]

Well she was able to give birth, so she not totally unhealthy, the man might been drunk. :)

[TenderFantasy]

Sadly, fertility is based more on age in general rather than health, I believe. Plus, once the baby is in there, it's just a matter of time, going about normal routines, then they give birth.

[TenderFantasy]

Even drug addicts and people in severe poverty can get pregnant.

[Berethor]

Yea age is a big factor, but age and health are connected, also the getting pregnant and being being pregnant is the easier part in comparison to the giving birth part itself, a woman can die from that, though less likely to happen thanks to modern medicine. Here a link that shows things that can causes fertility problems, so as I said she not totally unhealthy, if she was able to fulfil her main purpose as a woman.

www.mayoclinic.org/.../art-20045887

[melanieeeB]

Do you know amy? She and her family, expect tammy, are so funny! They seem like a great family and great people, who work really hard to change something.

To still answer your questions, looks aren't everything, your character counts more. Plus you can't choose with whom you fall in love, if it happens, it happens.
And some people also date in their "league" an obese man usually won't try to date a model... just as an example.
And some few just have a fetish for obese people tho

[TenderFantasy]

I see.

[TenderFantasy]

And no I never watched the show. I had no interest in it. Why should I watch it? I've got better things to do with my time.

[ObscuredBeyond]

A healthy soul matters just as much as a healthy body, if not infinitely more. Give me a slightly plump woman with a heart from God, and I'd give her a chance. Give me a supermodel, but she turns out to be as duplicitous as the Devil himself, and I'll eventually find her ugly to the point of finding the mere thought of her presence sickening!

A chubby softie at a Subway, I'll at least never feel threatened by. Give me a cute black chick but she's a total psycho, and I'll get sick and tired of her BS after at least a month.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Looks are relative for minor aesthetic sorts of things, like nose shape, eyelid shape, face shape, boob size, hair length or style, muscular or soft, body proportions in general really, but there are going to be versions of every type that are unealthy/diseased versions. Unhealthy bodies are not attractive, however there are people who care about someone enough to get them back to good health, as well as people that lower their standards because they feel they aren't attractive enough to not pick an unattractive person. And then there are people who just settle for mental compatibility over looks, or looks over compatibility, and then you have people who want both and refuse to settle, and among them are health concious types who see looks as a reflection of personality/habits.

[exitseven]

There is many ways a person can be attractive. A few extra pounds is no a reason to reject someone but being severely obese to the point of becoming unhealthy might be.

You have a partner that will possibly have a shorter lifespan that will also have health problems while alive. Diabetes and heart disease is hard to deal with. It is just as bad as being married to a drug abuser.

[TenderFantasy]

Wow that's interesting. Thanks.

[4ngelic]

michael is also pretty fat also he used to be way fatter before the show. if i remember correctly he also had a gastric bypass and he met amy when he was as big as her. big people tend to go with big people even though its not the ideal

[TenderFantasy]

I see.

[WindAtMyBack]

To some degree it's relative, subjective and learned. But the large majority of people have similar views on what is good or bad looking.

"Beauty is within" That's something entirely different and skirting the issue. The question is about looks.

[Msputiton]

Everyone likes different looks. Yes there are people who prefer overweight people to athletic or skinny.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

What i find attractive works for me, and what you find attractive works for you.

And it is okay for me to not find what you find attractive, attractive and it is okay for you to not find what i find attractive, attractive

[jennifer_bloom]

A lot of people are obese for mental or financial reasons and not because they are arrogant or selfish. I am not saying we should honour people who visit buffets every day but we should not withhold kindness from people who are on the fringes of beauty and attractiveness. I had a friend who went from 80 pounds to 280 without changing her diet because she taking drugs that made her lose metabolic control over her body.

[OfMiceandMen]

Those two look perfectly happy together. I think people get too caught up in the appearance of everyone, they forget to look for the person with the qualities they actually need.

We are a want... want... want society and I find that it holds us back from getting what we need.

[sheenagwapa]

I don't know i'm fat but guys spend a lot on me... and we are taljinh here about pitential. many years followed, even the mall walkinh distance in my house is reaaranfwd for my erp tool. one yoy can only dreqm of 😘😘😘😘😘😘

[Razp_Sorbet]

You're seriously using images of someone who had put their life online and openly talked about struggling with their weight and who has lost over 125lbs?

Thankfully not everyone in this world is shallow 🤷🏻‍♀️

[TenderFantasy]

I'm not shallow just because I asked this question. It seemed to defy common sense so shut up!

[Razp_Sorbet]

You're defying common sense.

[serious]

Simple that is because not everyone will have the same thinking. Not everyone would want the exact same thing.

[LiamJHayden]

Looks are relative because they are based upon individual likes.

[Still-alive]

I personally can't do obese women but if others can to each their own.

[Nikki1989]

My opinion is, beauty comes from within, but that is just me.

[serious]

Very good

[Apulu_Imback]

They're going way too far in the name of body positivity.

[Sevenpointfive]

i scrolled down faster than the fat people smiling in those pictures

[PointTaken]

Just like @nikki1989 said. Beauty is within. A girl can be very hot, but a bitchy attitude will make them ugly.

[Anonymous]

Obesity is a big problem in the USA and yeah most guys want a slim woman but some guys like big women. I only go out with slim healthy women

[TenderFantasy]

I think some of hers is genetic combined with lifestyle. Maybe her and her family was surrounded by food?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably cheap fattening food

[Adogdog]

I want someone I find attractive lol