Is it bad that rn I don’t want to be a girl?

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like I right now I don’t feel comfortable in my own body I’m born female and mainly go by she her and don’t mind they them but don’t want to be called he him or any male/ masculine pronouns. And usually it’s just like I don’t want to dress up in like a more feminine today and prefer to dress what some people consider more masculine but today it feels like I’m not in the right body and with my lover who is straight I don’t know what to do i feel very stressed and everything I can do to cover/hide my except a hot oversized hoodie hurts to do.. what do I do? Can someone help me?

Charliefretz329 · Accepted Answer

I get that way sometimes in my own way. It’s like I love being a man but wish I could get rid of my penis. Definitely don’t want to be a girl, just a guy without a sex drive or a penis.

I think that many people have somewhat similar thoughts from time to time and they usually stem from some other life experiences. It’s good to be able to talk with someone you trust like a psychologist even just to help yourself figure these things out.

Don’t feel like you are abnormal. 🙂 Many people have uncomfortable thoughts but it’s best to be open and honest with yourself and not hide from your thoughts in my own opinion. Healthier to admit and talk about it. You may learn something about who you are and where these thoughts came from and that may help you cope and enjoy your life more

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

It is not bad what you're feeling.

It's also normal for some people to feel uncomfortable in their body.

The best I can tell you is take each day and each part of each day one at a time. Do what feels comfortable at that moment. You will figure this out.

And it's okay to change and change back and experiment and do things different.

Be patient with yourself.

Also, don't expect everyone to understand or be kind about what you're thinking, feeling, and doing.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s interesting that you believe because you don’t like traditionally “feminine” things that that indicates you’re not comfortable being a girl?
None of these so called masculine or feminine traits define that, they are societal gender norms.
If you are a girl, you can define what that means for you, you don’t have to fit into a stereotypical box.
Obviously this is my opinion but it’s also a factual observation.
Gender is a construct. Sex is real. If you are a biological girl then you are a girl, nothing else can dictate that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Wanting to be both is normal. Someday you may feel like you want to be more feminine while others you can feel more masculine. I think that happens often but people don't realize it and it because a problem. So I can honestly say that it's okay to feel one way or the other depending on the day.

bolverk · Answer

OK, it sounds as though you are the classic tomboy, don't worry about it you are still young and thing may balance out by itself, if you are really worried see your Dr and maybe ask for a blood test to see if your hormones etc are in the normal range, also if you are on a hormone birth control it could be having an adverse effect.

Berethor · Answer

It not a choice, you can't become a guy, dressing masculine makes you a tomboy, not a guy.

HighValue · Answer

Just stay away from liberal media, liberal tv/movies, for a while and you will start to feel normal again.

Anonymous · Answer

That is normal to be uncomfortable in your own skin. The problem is that society thinks that you should affirm this discomfort as proof that you aren't who you are. As someone who has struggled with gender dysphoria; once you get through this phase in your life you will be happiest of you didn't change yourself medically.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Hope you feel better tomorrow I guess, what changed?

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

It's seems to me like you have some real issues and need to speak to a professional

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I'll be quite happy to trade with you!

LazerBean · Answer

Yeah, you need a therapist

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