Does anyone else wish they can wake up as their child/teen self and adulthood was just a bad dream?

[Anonymous]

I have so many regrets. My absolute biggest regret is not experiencing young love. I am turning 29 and STILL never had a real girlfriend. You hear so many songs and there are many movies out there talking about young love, and it rips me to shreds. In addition, my adult life has been horrible so far and filled with missed opportunities and failure. I wish I can wake up and be my teen self and all this is just a bad dream.

Yes

No

I am not there yet

[RealMarek]

I’ve thought about it before because I also missed a ton of opportunities when I was young and went through a long, hellish relationship. But, the only way I would go back if I could is if I could find my current girlfriend when we were both young. If there was no guarantee I would end up with her, I would rather keep my frustrating past. This is a way of saying I’m not regretful or bitter because I’m grateful for what I have now.

You still have a lot of life ahead of you. If you are reasonable in what you are looking for I’m sure you can find a good match, especially if you’re in okay shape, emotionally stable, and willing to commit.

[stepyo99]

We all have regrets, but if you let your regrets dominate the rest of your life it's only setting yourself up for another decade to look back on and regret.

Something that helped me in a similar period of depression was taking a few days off, going into the woods, and meditating. The time spent with no external stimulus vying for my attention made it easier to process my thoughts.

When I have a regret. I take a minute to think about it deliberately. If there's a lesson to be learned from it, then learn it and put the memory away. There's no point in beating yourself up.

[Apple1996]

Nah I'm happy with the things I've accomplished in my adult life

[msc545]

Your impossible standards combined with your right-wing politics ensures that you are very unlikely to ever find a woman willing to put up with this kind of stuff. I suggest you rethink things. If you don't, you are likely to be alone for the rest of your life or even worse to be with somebody that doesn't even like you.

[Asker]

I thought it was normally the conservative women that meet what I am looking for. That is what I have normally observed.

[msc545]

Your allegedly normal observations don't seem to be serving you well. Better look again.

[Anonymous]

No way! I never want to go back to being young again. I've earned all I got and I wanna keep it.

Also you idealized what could have been. Maybe you didn't get young love. But I promise you it wouldn't have been all good times. You missed out on that as well.

Sometimes I regret being single. But then I take a look at what is available out there and then I realize I'm not really missing anything.😆

[Anonymous]

Angers me a lot on how men end up this way more than women do because men for all time have always had to be the ones to get off their asses and do something about it while women can literally just sit back and let it all happen to them

[CrimsonAngel09]

100%. Half my family was still alive.

[Asker]

Same. 3/4 of my grandparents were still alive. Also, I seek a woman without a romantic past. When I was a teen, I could have found that more easily. I wouldn't have even had to worry about that because we would have both been young anyways.

[Grovermint]

Nope. I'd rather not relive the past.