Who's fault is it if you believe you are good enough but everybody else doesn't believe you are good enough?

[Anonymous]

Your opinion vs their opinion

let's say you believe you are capable of doing something that you want to do but everybody is stopping you from doing it because they believe you are incapable

It's their fault because I believe I'm good enough and that's all that matters

It's my fault because other people are always right about me all the time

[Ozanne]

This is entirely circumstantial. If you are trying to do a task that requires experience and someone else has it, and your friends and loved ones know you can't do it or do it as well, then that's one thing. If they just don't know your capabilities, that's another. For a personal example from my own past, I offered to sing at a funeral many years ago, but the family had no idea I could sing, and were very concerned that I would make a fool of myself and bring bad attention to the day. Unless I "auditioned" and showed that I could do it, they wouldn't let me. So I remember standing in their kitchen and belted out a verse of the song I wanted to sing. Right there and then, they were satisfied that I was good enough, and allowed me to do it. I really can't blame them. It was an important task!--and they had no idea what I could or couldn't do, since it was either use me or book a soloist. It was not the sort of situation where I could just spring it on them and surprise them at the funeral. They absolutely needed to know my capability. Until that point, they had to assume I was not capable or suitable until they heard it themselves.

If you're dealing with people who simply don't know what you can or can't do, you might have to just show them so that they'll know. You can't magically expect people to know these things if all they see in you is you NOT doing what you say you can do. Do them, and let it be known once and for all what you're capable of. :)

[Hinaaaaa]

It's actually a little bit of our own fault like as it's written in atomic habits that people perception is made by your own habits if you are not a morning person it's because you are not waking up in the morning so it's actually because of one's own habits... if someone is lazy then they'll be called a lazy person... but if they change themselves... then they can remove that tag from them... but to do that... to change a habit or something one shouldn't listen to others either cause if they keep listening they are lazy they can't do it... then they'll never do it... so both are actually directly proportional to eachother...

[Effably]

Does their view matter? If you can do it, you can prove it. Prove it a few times and the third time you say you can do something of a similar magnitude people will start agreeing.

As for who is right? Impossible to know. We can blame others for lacking insight or not being supportive but we can also blame the first person for lacking demeanor and not inspiring confidence.

[Starrrboy]

If you believe you're good enough that's all that matters...