Would you ever change for someone?

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[Radiate143]

The human being is not settled. Our nature is movement. Changing, shifting adapting and evolving are what makes us human beings.

We are not rocks or mountains.

People change all the time. When it is mentioned that to have someone you love and want to commit to require changes people start losing their 💩.

Probably because they are not mature enough for such an intimate relationship anyway.

If there is nothing harmful or negative about a certain habit or interest, and the person wants you to give it up, it's more likely this person wants the idea of you or wants you fit a mold. Then they don't actually accept you.

If you smoke weed or drink a lot (the harms of both FAAAAR outweighing their benefits) and the person says give it up and they accept you otherwise and you want them then only an idiot would choose to Blaze and beat juice over having a life partner. But again these are habits and not who you are.

Now if they say, pretend to be a different race or talk with a certain accent then that's not an acceptable request.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what kind of change we're talking about here.

Of course we all change when we're in a relationship, even just a little bit.

But I'm not changing the core of who I am and my values.
Do I want someone I can grow with? Sure.
But I don't want to be with someone who wants to change who I am.

Was in a relationship once where that happened and I was miserable, having to rearrange everything in me to try to fit my puzzle piece to what he needed me to.
I felt like I was never good enough, and I'm not going through anything like that again.

[Keyboardkat]

Nobody changes for someone else. A person only changes if they are motivated strongly to change themselves. If you change for someone else, it won't last, because it's not really you. Find someone who will love you for who you really are, and not demand that you change!

[exitseven]

I did change for somebody. When I got married I was still the same loner that I always was. All of a sudden I was no longer alone in the world and I had to all of a sudden take another person into consideration whenever I decided to do something.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[OlderAndWiser]

I change my underwear every day and my fiancee is very appreciative!

[exitseven]

My wife got me to wear underwear,

[OlderAndWiser]

@exitseven I'm good with wearing boxers except at bedtime. I don't want anything between me and my fiancee, or me and the sheets.

[exitseven]

😊😊😊😊😊

[IslaTheWitch]

To some degree, of course. As long as the change is not affecting who I am. Fixing behaviours which irritate my husband, working on controlling my emotions. I did a lot, for the sake of our relationship, and he did as well.

[RobT312]

Yeah in a relationship I think both sides change a little…if there was a demand to change or something drastic I think there would be resistance on my part

[Anemone978]

Nah I did in the past wasn't worth it.. I rather be myself and find someone that actually likes me..

[Staximus]

Maybe start cleaning my room more or something like that, not drive like such a crazy asshole when she's in the car, try to be more healthy and eat less hamburgers. On second thought, maybe not the hamburgers.

[Nikki1989]

You don't have to change if you find someone that is truly compatible.

[Billlewis]

Of course I would, because the only purpose of being in a relationship is to please her.

[Starrrboy]

Sacrificing some stuff and changing some habits yes.. but nobody changes as a person.. especially not for someone else.. they could walk out at any moment.

[Miristheiss]

Core values and core beliefs no.

Certain patterns and habits sure.

[Iron_Man]

If I’m doing something wrong that they’re not happy about of course I change I’ll do whatever it takes to make my girl happy

[Ben487]

yeah if she was that special. But unlikely.

[Yannae]

If it's a change I wanted to do anyway before meeting her.

[Masterodd]

All of us, change in some respect.. that's why we are in a relationship.

[smashleyy]

No. Growth should be for yourself

[sheenagwapa]

justice will be mine somedat

[love_conquers_lust]

Grow together or grow apart

[LiamJHayden]

Change something integral to who I am? No.

[Simslover92]

Nope.

[shades777]

change for myself

[BLP11520]

No I won’t