If you could only chose one blessing out of these two, which would you chose to have?

[TenderFantasy]

Having a healthy, loving, supportive spouse? Or having a beautiful, healthy and successful child?

And why?

A loving, supportive relationship for the rest of your life

A beautiful, healthy child that grows up to be successful

[aceleon]

how can i have the child without the girl unless adoptive?

also none of it, both of them is boring can't you give another option? i really don't give a damn about money but blessing for being rich would be good at least i could do some unorthodox shits i was thinking about like having 2 lion cub and raise them, or i don't know, i really have no dreams for money either but neither a girl or a kid is a blessing to me either.

straight out give me super powers or something the rest is too boring.

[TenderFantasy]

You can do a surrogate. Some people (maybe you too) can have the money for that.

[aceleon]

surrogate? how? imprenate a woman and take the kid when he/she borns?

[TenderFantasy]

@aceleon No, with a surrogate, you don't have to have sex with them. They can just take your sperm and have it implanted. Usually, this is done legally to where the mother signs of her rights to the intending parent or parents.

[aceleon]

no need, i would want kids yes but i don't want the responsibility and worries that will come with them.

[Saiesh30]

Although I like kids but I don't plan on having any. Ofcourse you never know what happens tomorrow but so far I have no such dream of having kids and leaving a legacy.
Hence I'd choose a loving, supportive partner to spend the life with. A partner for me is more important.

[TenderFantasy]

Wow that's decisive of you. How interesting. 🙂👍

[Saiesh30]

Oh thank you for the MHO 😇

[KittyKat90210]

That's such a hard choice. I said child because I feel like I would have a greater responsibility for their happiness and success. They would have their whole future ahead of them. Not to say I would ever want a relationship to go bad, but conceivably I can find other relationships. A child is my child forever.

[TenderFantasy]

It IS a hard choice. True. You want BOTH. I think a good number of the population does, but sometimes, as luck has it, you just can't have both and you're stuck with one only!

[IslaTheWitch]

It depends. If we decide on a child, then B; if not, then A. But I haven't met him yet, so I can't vote :D

[Ds4739]

A marriage is the most important relationship in your life. To give the best chance for your child to have a good relationship, you have to be able to model that for them.

Single parents love their kids. Parents in a good relationship don't just have twice as much to give, they have much more.

(I was raised in a good relationship home, but was a single dad.)

[TenderFantasy]

"Parents in a good relationship don't just have twice as much to give, they have much more." What do you mean? And what if you cannot find that regardless of how much you've tried to look? I've tried that (find a good man) since I was 25 plus, but as luck would have it, unfortuantely, like I've told others here, I'll I've gotten were Papa's Boys, Mama's Boys, Men who just wanted to use me for sex, an ego boost, didn't know what love was if it slapped them accross the face, racist, too judgmental and critical (like my recent ex), etc. Ugh.. 😞

[TenderFantasy]

*all I've gotten I mean.

[Joshydavid25]

Damn, I feel selfish but I would want a loving, supportive relationship for the rest of my life.. I want kids, and it would be nice to have a good one, but at the end of the day kids are a result of two people that were designed to be together til death did them part..

[TenderFantasy]

Designed? If they were designed or destined, then why do I see so many failed relationships with or without children? After my last one ended I think I stopped believing in soulmates really.

[TenderFantasy]

And yes IDEALLY that is true, but reality is far from that ideal sadly.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Maybe the spouse. I find it kind of a trick question since it seems like a prerequisite to raising a healthy child that my wife and I get along really well.

[TenderFantasy]

It's not. Some people don't have good luck with finding someone that loves them enough to want to marry them and have children with them so like me, I'll probably take matters into my own hands if that is the case. a lot of people force things or push things for them to get what they want/need in life. They force the issue and I might do the same! I'll just tell my son or daughter in the future when they're old enough that there are a lot of men that don't want to be married and start a family. Or at least the ones I wanted didn't really want me back! At least in the long-run. 😞

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Makes sense. In the case of my wife and me, I think I would need her aid to properly raise a child which veers in that direction of the spouse. I'm kind of thinking it similar to, how on airplanes, they advise parents to put their oxygen masks on themselves first before their children, even for the sake of the children.

[tfan1]

We already have a 11 year old son who is doing quite well school wise. Still working on common sense. I have to teach it to him because he’s not quite understanding things that he should know.

[TenderFantasy]

I never really had common sense as a child of that age. He's normal as can be, don't worry. 🙂 Sense usually comes about with age.

[Katie1964]

These are not mutually exclusive, in fact I would say they are interdependent.

[TenderFantasy]

Sometimes, it is. Like I said, if you reach the age of 40 plus and no man wants to be with you and have a family with you. There's been cases of that happening and the woman goes and spreads her genes on her own because like I said to @GuyAnswersGirls123 a lot of the men that I fall for don't like me!

[NathanDavis]

if she married me, I know she would want me to pick our child... so I would go with B

health is everything

[Sevenpointfive]

i'll choose C. i'll have some animals as family

[TenderFantasy]

❤👍.

[serious_miss419]

The two relationship differences can’t be compared. One relationship is valuable and impresionable, the other relationship is not a necessity and doesn’t give you a purpose.


However, life without either non comparable relationship is still a life with a thriving chance of happiness.

[TenderFantasy]

"One relationship is valuable and impresionable, the other relationship is not a necessity and doesn’t give you a purpose." That's not true. It does TOO give you a purpose to live. If you really love your spouse or significant other, you'll feel happy that your purpose is to be their life partner and wife/husband, and therefore have a purpose in that sense! Not everyone thinks their purpose is to be a mother or to spread their genetic line! Loving someonoe and being in charge or the reason for a big part of their happiness, is purpose enough, and others that have had children, say that they were just "EXTRA" in the scheme of their life. THAT'S the one that is not a necessity! Okay, probably biologically speaking, if you want to continue your genes, then fine yes I agree, but otherwise, I think a lot more people would agree that LOVE (receiving it and having people think well of you and caring about you) is more of the necessity for survival than reproducing! LOVE is a NECESSITY for people's mental health and sanity. Why do you think humans evolved to crave love? ! It's a mechanism for survival and even group/ familial love is important! Without that, ostricism back then, often times meant DEATH!

[Titanic1912]

I want children who grow up to be successful and healthy.

[TenderFantasy]

So do I. Every parent does. Every NORMAL, GOOD and MORAL parent that is haha.

[OtterMan68]

my child would be a much better legacy

[TenderFantasy]

Oh yeah? You don't consider the memories you and your significant other have made together a legacy?

[OtterMan68]

no, when we die, we disappear

[TenderFantasy]

@OtterMan68 No true. I still remember a lot of things I did in my past with other people. They don't disappear just because we pass away. Please grow up.