What’s your biggest insecurity? Did you get over it? If yes, how?

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el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Accepted Answer

Not being told that I'm beautiful and perfect for my look from (single) guys in my country. Still, not worse than not being accepted for my opinion, skills and abilities. I compare myself to other women who get attention, likes and compliments online and offline.

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What I do:

- Deleting my social media accounts. It's really bad for your mentality. Never ending competitions, intentional or unintentional.

- Distancing myself from those who can't notice my value, and connecting the new ones who have morals and similar lifestyles. (Fitness and Celibacy)

- Unveiling my vulnerability. I used to think being emotional and talk about feelings is weak. But it actually helps a lot when I communicate with both men and women. Being able to express what I have on my mind directly is relieving. No mind games anymore. I think we need to practise the skill to say what we want and reject things we don't want.

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Scenario: In a specific case like when an unavailable man showed interest in me, I was brave enough to ditch him and declared that I never feel appreciated, but sorry for his wife instead.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

My biggest insecurity in like is the feeling of abandonment.

And just when I finally found a guy that promised me he would never abandon me - he died 4 months ago.

That abandonment is for eternity! Just think...

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

I don't have an insecurity about myself, just about time. its a problem where if I am not doing something I get stressed out. Like if I relax I start to worry I won't get all my life goals done in time, so I end up overworking myself on my passion projects, and I get burnt out physically while my mind is still racing at a billion mph with ideas.

Its very frustrating, sometimes it makes me feel physically incompetent even though I know I'm putting in more time than I should be, and that I'm just a human and still need to rest like everyone else.

I'm not sure what to call this, because typically an insecurity is putting yourself down in some way, whereas I'm simply setting very high expectations of myself because I'm impatient.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I think it was... the entirety of myself, lol my mindset, definitely

EmmaMary · Answer

@elena_stewart

Before my BR six years ago, I was always conscious, embarrassed and very insecure over the sheer enormous size of my breasts.

Try as I might to hide them as best I could, they were always extremely prominent and I was fully aware of the constant staring and long glances from both men and women.

If only I knew back then what I know now, I would have had the reduction done long before I did.

Nowadays I have only the faded scars to put up with, but on the plus side my whole life, health, wellbeing, and of course my purse, have had the most wonderful transformation.

Starrrboy · Answer

Oh boy that sounds healthy lol.. my parents had me when they were really old.. it was a dysfunctional family and I was a neglected child.. I always feel like an outsider and I have a really hard time approaching people, I seriously overthink it and I feel like I'm forcing myself on them.. when I receive attention/affection It's not truly satisfying because a part of me gets reaaally anxious.. I can't say I'm totally over it but I think I'm doing a decent job keeping up with it.. Also being smart and calculated about the people you bring in your circle helps with it.. and hopefully one day I'm gonna break that psychological wall completely..

Red-Blaze · Answer

My biggest insecurity is that of an impostor; some consider me intelligent, and some will depend on me for stuff.

I always feel that I may just be faking it, and somehow, they did not notice. They will notice at any moment, and then I will be a complete despoilment to them if they ever find out I am pretty but a complete idiot.

I keep reading and seeing people who say it's just something everyone has, but I feel as if, for everyone else, it's not that bad. I am just a big imposter who somehow was not caught yet, but any day, it will happen.

I made myself a virtual existence; it started honestly as a way to test myself and find out once and for all if I am really just looks and no brains or not, but in the end, it's ended in the same thing. I feel that people trust me on things because I am a woman and not because they really check if I know or not and that I am still, after all, an imposter.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

mostly, if I am enough... for others...

but I learned to value myself, my skills, my body, and myself... so the moments when I feel insecure in this regard are rare, and I can mostly predict them.

how? mostly by retrospection, by learning my lessons and trusting my friends.

CandyLandAm3ircan · Answer

Obsession Was My Insecurity
Couldn't Just Tolerate Rejection

Instead i Got Super ButtHurt

Saw It as Just BullShit
Cuz It Was No Special Treatment

But That's Reality,
Realized I Can't Manipulate
& Guilt Trip For The
Upperhand

Sometimes Obsession
Craving Attention
Is Just A Broken Ego
Crying Out For Self Reflect

Obsession Was My
Escape Filling Void
Turns Out You
Can't Believe &Can't Ignore
What Isn't There
Or Make It Real

Just Accept
What It No Longer Is

Obsession Is A
Waste Of Delusionally Inspired
Addicted Energy

Must Be Stopped
Avoided at all Costs

RebelinSteel · Answer

I am my own bundle of insecurity. Part of it is I am actually really good at what I do, however it’s hard to be consistently good and my insecurity is failing to be good all the time. Letting others and myself down, being human I guess

exitseven · Answer

I used to be scared to death of girls. I was always afraid to ask somebody out on a date. I always figured they would laugh at me and then tell all her friends so everyone would laugh at me. When I went away to college I had many female friends and they sort of helped me climb out of my shell. .

LaurenM1997 · Answer

My biggest insecurity is my scar from open heart surgery and no I still haven’t got over it it’s there for life and sometimes it affects me

AmyHew1tt · Answer

I've got way too many insecurities, lol. Being bad at math, the shape of my hips, my dry lips, cellulite, stretchmarks, etc. And my food allergies. I haven't made a lot of progress with them, though I'm working on it pretty consistently.

virtualwasp · Answer

im ugly and will never find a guy who will love me

slatyb · Answer

So many. Mostly fear of being socially inappropriate or merely annoying. I have no reason to believe this. I try to be considerate and supportive and people seem to like me.

Anonymous · Answer

My reflection. Not because of my appearance, but I don't see what others see

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not having enough money always made me feel insecure because money is something we seriously need in this life.

As I have gotten older I'm far less insecure about such from before but money is still important in my life.

NewgodOmega · Answer

The biggest insecurity I had was not able to find a purpose for my life I got over it be understand there is no purpose of life

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

My body. And nope, never got over it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I had real trouble talking to people when I was young, but I got past that by doing a public speaking course. When you have to talk in front of 500 people, you snap out of your shyness damn fast.

jimmy2 · Answer

I lost all my main family members there no getting over that

Triarii · Answer

I feel like every complement that i resive Is out of pity

Berweic · Answer

I am very forgiving and never get smarter. That's why the stakes I eat are doubled

OtterMan68 · Answer

I'm not having the positive impact on people I think I should be having

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