Is it normal to lose any adult feeling (can't post adult posts here yet) when you don't have someone in your life?

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna try to explain. Some time ago i met this guy, we became friends and not long after we started have feelings for each other, when the feelings came something more sexual came with it when we started having **x and also **xting very often and do videos calls when we were away from each other. Every time i would feel so excited, so loved, so wanted, i would feel like the happiest woman alive, he would made me feel so good, everything was perfect. After some time sadly we had to stop all that (we still friends but just casual friends) and after that every time i tried to do something with another guy i would feel absolutely nothing, at first i thought maybe the guys i was with weren't satisfying me but then every time i try to do something by myself i also don't feel anything at all, i don't feel happy, excited, i don't feel good.

That's where i noticed that when i lost him in my life as my lover it too away all my adult feelings and I don't know if this is normal but that is so weird bc before him i met some other guys and we had to breakup or just go on our own path but i would never feel this way, it's the first time i can't do anything by myself or anything with other people.

Is this normal? Has anyone experienced that either guys or girls?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Since we're the 1st April, everything is possible, but I'll assume it's not a prank.

• "we started have feelings for each other"
• "so excited, so loved, so wanted"
• "we had to breakup"

You seem to be asking if this is normal to experience feelings of loss after a breakup...

YES it is normal, for everyone normally constituted, there is a mourning phase to endure...

[Asker]

No thats not what i mean at all, its not about "loss after a breakup" or anything like that, is about losing any sexual feeling or sexual interest

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

To me it looks deeply related, once you get to know what it is to be desired and desire someone you love then sex without feelings would look uninteresting, alienating, don't you think?

[Stevepro68]

I felt that way after my divorce for years. Then three years I met her and it's like I'm 20 again 4 years later it's just right. If you split my divorced time 4 years of feeling kind of emotionally and sexually numb to 4 years of WOW. So it may not be forever. You just need your person.

[Nikki1989]

There is never anything normal about sexting and video calls if you are a mature adult.

[Asker]

no no no, that's not what i mean! I mean that after me and this guy stopped being sexual and sadly we also had to stop being romantic with each other, i just lost every sexual feeling for myself and any other person