What does it mean when your girlfriend can't stop saying how she hates her ex when the topic is brought up?

[brettb]

My girlfriend randomly brought up how her ex is dating this girl who is a bigger woman. She then kept on saying how she hated her ex continously and then kept making fun of the girl who is bigger even though mygf has never met her...Could this mean anything? We are currently fighting over this as I believe this possibly displays hidden emotions still. In general rule of thumb, could this mean feelings are still there even though she doesn't want to tell me? Is it immature to call her exs new girlfriend names? Any advice or perspectives would greatly be appreciated.

[titoloco]

What does it mean when your girlfriend can't stop saying how she hates her ex when the topic is brought up?

= Unsolved ISSUES.

We all have somethings we hate about our ex(s), but you need to be an ADULT about it. The relationship ENDED. Whether you were ready, or not, happy, sad, angry, guilty...etc. It's OVER. What you can do about it is remember what that experience taught you and thank your ex (s) for teaching you that valuable lesson.

If after a break-up and a new relationship starts all you can think about is...how your ex wronged you and how they should die in hell, get revived, get your balls crushed by a HAMMER, die of pain, get revived again, and again and again...and it goes on and on and on... THAT GIRL has major issues. She should seek professional help, because issues as they go unsolved create coping mechanisms that DAMAGE a person for life. She is going to use the next boyfriend as her TOOL BOX to solve previous issues and succeed in creating others.

A pattern I've noticed in DAMAGED girls Is they always bring up, unsolved issues to the new relationship.

These girls Are not FIT FOR DATING at the moment.

[walter89]

Oh god that's is what I call HELL. I've been there its called drama. Guys are easy to move on in a month or weeks but females maaan they take months or years. As far I see she hasn't moved on. I remember my ex ex every single time brought up over her ex and I got sick of it, stud up and told her "either move on and forget about him and start a fresh relationship or we breaking up because you seem to have feelings for him and jelaousy" and omg she started to say why you don't listen to me why you are you a jerk. -___-

Since she always brought up her ex than I brought my ex's, she says "I don't care" That's when I told her "you want my attention but from you nothing", and so we break up.

I want to say she IMMATURE and BIG DRAMA QUEEN, """"STAY AWAY FROM THOSE FEMALES""""

I feel sorry for those females that are like that. I swear you gonna start loosing guys that really are THE ONE but because of the stupidity drama and can't move on. They end up worst heart broken. An advice for females IF you recently had came out from a break up PLEASE don't start dating okay make sure you are 99.99% clear from your past.

[NoOneListens21]

Ask her, if I break up with you will you finally shut up about him? But then she'll probably start talking sh*t about you. XD

It is immature. She is probably still in like or love with the guy. Sounds like she got with you too early. Then again, when you're with someone for a long time and you didn't have a clean break..i guess that harbored hatred stays there til you deal with it or just push it down and forget about it untiiillllllllll they are faced with that situation. XD

Point is, why would you talk sh*t about someone you don't know? Why would you even care about him or his situation? Why even talk about him if you're not with him or not even friends? Cuuzzzz you care. If you didn't, you wouldn't be arguing about it with your new man. Tell her she should probably either drop it/deal with it or you drop her until she deals with it.

[krisann]

I do this to my boyfriend sometimes with out thinking about how he feels. He mentioned it me before and said I get so worked up I must care. I do believe this in some cases because when me and my current boyfriend are not on our best and not talking I tell my friends how I hate him and it hurts, but that's different. My ex I have no feelings of love or the desire to ever go bac, but I have told him before how I can't stand him and he sucks. Maybe she doesn't realize but if your bringing it up to her she needs to consider how you feel and let it go. Its not good for your relationship and if she wants a healthy one with you she hopefully will open her eyes to how this feels to you.

[women-venusmen-mars]

i was reading similar tips and advice on this sort of thing today I always had my suspicions the guy I was seeing was not over his ex. Turns out I was right as I think he is now back with her. What I found was if someone still talks about their ex then they still care and probably still have feelings for them. That is a clear sign of jealousy the guy who I was seeings ex slagged me off to other people and admitted she was just jealous of us. How long has your girlfriend and her ex boyfriend been broken up anyway?

[dearheart14]

I'm sorry to say this but her actions are showing she is not over him. I just got out of a relationship myself because my ex would not stop bringing up his ex. I reached my boiling point with him when we ended up going to a restaurant were she happened to be at too. Well, I spent the whole dinner listening to him talk about her and wonder what she was doing. I was not happy and it made me feel like I meant nothing to him. I also began questioning is he still cared for her. He denied it of course but he never made it clear that he was happy with me. So I ended it. Its up to you what you can put up with. You must decide what is best for you

[helpmeeee]

I think that she sees you as a guy whom she could tell anything and that includes her opinions and hidden grudges and oh hey, part of it, is her ex. Seems like she's not completely over him...and it seemed like it was her ex who broke things off and this definetely scarred her. So now that he has some new girl, your girlfriend feels like she's been replaced. Like, she's no longer important to this guy she used to love. Us, girls, do the ugly cat talk with our girlfriends, not our boyfriends, because it only results to a fight. She should appreciate her life more, you know? And if you love her, help her. Show her that she shouldn't feel sad and be bitter about her ex's new girl because dude, she has you. :) treat her better than her ex and maybe she'll see how horrible she's acting now.

[Anonymous]

I have some exes who hurt me really bad, and they have affected me deeply to the point that I have nightmares about them or almost PTSD-like symptoms. I have no feelings for them, sexual or emotional, and get tense muscles thinking about what it was like with them. Lie a waking nightmare. I don't care about what they're doing, but if they contact me I'm furious because they damaged me and abused me and I wish they would move halfway across the world. So, if she was abused by this guy, it could be like that.

However, her making fun of the girl he's with makes me wonder, because if it were me I would feel sorry for the girl and be mad at him for taking advantage/robbing the innocence of another person.

She definitely needs counseling.

[tiffybaby]

It hurt when you find out your ex is happy and dating someone else, even if you have no interest in the person what so ever. Especially if you believe their new partner has a flaw that you never had or you think you are better than their current partner. Just tell her that you care for her and it shouldn't matter what her ex is doing if she really cares for you. She may not be fully over him.

[mshaker]

It bothers her that he has a new girlfriend.

I don't think she's that into you.. Sorry, not trying to be mean just getting you to see the reality of things.

Cause if she didn't care, she wouldn't even speak about it.

And for the fact that she has stated that her ex is dating a "larger" woman then her. Kinda shows she's jealous. Whether she's fat, ugly, tall, skinny, it shouldn't bother her. But Unfortunately it does. I would suggest dating someone else.

[Twloha722]

How long have you been together? And who broke it off? If he broke it off it could still be a sensitive subject and she does it to make herself feel better. It is immature but maybe it's how she copes. If it's a recent breakup maybe she is feeling some jealousy and she doesn't know how to deal with it. Even if there are some feelings still there that doesn't mean she doesn't want to be with you. Maybe try calmly talking with her about it and tell her how you feel about the situation without being accusing.

[InquisitiveMale]

It means she's still hung-up on her ex and carries feelings, not necessarily for him, but towards him. In the worst case scenario she still hopes she can reignite a spark with her ex.

If you're looking for something serious I suggest you examine your situation. Post examination, be it you're still determined to have a relationship with someone who cannot in her current state love you, you need to find a way to help her move on. A timely pursuit.

[cazza3]

It means she's not over him. The opposite to love isn't hate, its indifference. When you don't care for someone, you don't wish them ill times or feel the need to comment on their life because its of no significance to you. What they do or who they do it with doesn't cause emotions to rise in you it just becomes "whatever".

[InquisitiveMale]

I agree with your first sentence and nothing after. Love is an extreme. Hate is an extreme. Indifference is nothing. You might have merit in claiming it an ideal standard for a brake-up but an impossibility if love was involved.

[cazza3]

@inquisiteMale. Yes they are too extremes and when you break up with someone you can hate them for a while but when you're over them you no longer hate them, you're feelings towards them become indifferent

[Theguyoverthere]

I had this problem with my last girlfriend. It was very annoying. I'd have to hear about the exes and the stuff that happened almost daily. I don't miss it one bit. Girls like your girlfriend either need therapy, have feelings for their ex, or both. She needs to get over him.

[gonyr]

Tiffybaby's answer may be right but it just goes to show hw crazy girls really can be lol

My advice. Don't fight about it. Just tell her straight up that you are uncomfortable with how strongly she feels about here's and that you should take sme time t figure out what your relationship really is

[Anonymous]

I've done this and I generally still had feelings for my Ex and was trying to convince myself I didn't by just being repetitive on how much I hated him and also by making fun of his new girlfriend as I was jealous. So she could still have feelings for him and also be jealous of his new girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

WHY does she even care if he's dating a larger girl... its non of her business...She has moved on with you and that should be her main priority ... He's an ex for a reason... secondly your girl sounds jealous of the bigger girl because she has made it work and currently has her ex.. I think your girl is not over her ex for her to care this much and bag out the new girlfriend which shows her jealous side...

[TheoryOfAvarice]

She's not over him and/or she is offended that he is dating someone she deems less attractive than she is. If that new girl were more attractive she'd probably still complain and be even more upset. Yes she is acting immaturely.

[backagainagain]

It means she jumped back into the dating pool too early. There are still feelings there, feelings of hate are still feelings, and that still means she should have stayed single for longer to get her head or heart straight first

[MaddieandBrandon]

She probably just wants to assure you that you are her boyfriend now and not him that's probably the saying she hates her ex part. Yes her feelings are probably still there for him but don't hold it against her. She is your girlfriend and your her boyfriend pure and simple.

[harveykinkle]

If she hates him there's feeling there.

Indifference is when she doesn't care. I could care less what any of my exes do.

[angel1142]

Yes it is immature to call names a person she doesn't even know...

Then yes again she is probably not over him :s...

[RedSmartie]

Either he did something really bad to her or she's still not over him.

[temptationfalls]

She's not over him and she's a jealous overprotective kook.

[Anonymous]

She's not over him yet and is still carrying a torch for a guy that's *not* you. if she didn't still want him, she wouldn't care about digging at the new girl in her place. Be careful.