Would you rather ALWAYS be the persuer. (or) ALWAYS be the persuee.

[Anonymous]

Being the persuee : You may not get persued by anyone you like, or persued at all. You can bot persue. Even if you like someone. You can only be persued.

Being the persuer : You may not get who you want, or get anyone at all. You can not be persued. Even if someone likes you. You can only persue.

I choose Persuer. Nothing good comes from doing nothing for yourself. imo.

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+1 y

in this scenario. negative consequences befall you, or someone you care for, if you deviate from your new found 'role.


persuer. or persuee.

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+1 y

note:


everyone else in the world remains the same. you are the only altered being with a role enforced by the universe.. where deviation causes negative consequence.

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+1 y

lol nvm. look if you deviate from your role, it just doesn't work.


persuers get rejected by persuers. and persuees get rejected by persuees.


nothing grisly and hideous happens. the relationship just never takes off. they find some reason to reject you immediately. even if they persued you.


persuers can not be persued. persuees can not persue. end of story.

[imimim]

I commented below that I would rather be the pursuer, but wait, I just thought of something. What if some guy says "hey you're cool, go out with me?" and of course I have to say no or just walk away or whatever. So he leaves. Then the next day can I decide I like him and call him up, thus making me the pursuer? Haha sorry I'm messing with your universe thingy, but that just occurred to me. Barring any loopholes, though, I would rather just pursue because I would be so frustrated if I liked someone and couldn't do anything about it. Might be a good exercise in patience for me to just be pursued though...

[Asker]

yes. but youd have to be the persuer. you can't switch roles. as long as you don't accept when he asks. and you take control after, its OK.

you couldn't persue him then decide you want him to persue you. but you can persue him.

[imimim]

Ok cool! :)

[pickledxtofu]

Pursuer

Then I'm in control of my dating life, especially when I'm married and no longer want to be pursued

[Asker]

I agree.

[moviedude714]

I thought you expect guys to make the first move and do the approaching, asking out

[pickledxtofu]

I do. But at some point I would get tired of being pursued. Given the choice, I'd like to not spend the rest of my life being pursued

[blackkid2]

I would always want to be the pursuer because that means that no temptation will befall me since when I'm with my totally hot girlfriend in this alt. universe you suggest no one will try to break us apart or steal my totally hot bod away from her using their totally hot assets.

[Asker]

they may try but you can't react. you would be mute. or disabled or disfigured or somehow prevented from responding. youd get in trouble if you responded... because you are a persuer. not a persuee.

;-)

[blackkid2]

Oh, so they can try, oh ... Damn.

[Asker]

yup. everyone else in the world remains the same. you are the only altered being with a role enforced by the universe.. where deviation causes negative consequence.

[blackkid2]

I actually thought that people would just not find me attractive or worth pursuing. The rules changed. :( Or maybe my interpretation was bad? Whatever the case I will die in your world based on my choice. Shit.

[Asker]

lol . they didn't change I just elaborated. I realized I hadn't explained in a concrete way why you can't just deviate. I thought people would just accept it. but I guess everyone wants wiggle room ;-)

[blackkid2]

So ... this disfiguration if I tried. What would happen exactly?

[Asker]

lol I don't know well lets just say it won't work. nothing horrible happens. you just get rejected immediately by anyone you accept advances from.

[blackkid2]

Wait that is what I wanted to happen!

[TedStar]

Persuer. Maybe it is because it is all I know, but being in control of my dating life is important to me. You will always win some or lose some, but I'd probably go crazy if I couldn't ask someone out who I really liked. Also that feeling of reward is awesome

[Asker]

I agree 100%

Just curious... Would you understand anyone else feeling the same way. or do you only expect men to feel that way?

[TedStar]

I can understand anyone feeing like that. In fact my last relationship started because ex was tired of wating around for mr right and wanted to be more in control of her destiny

[Asker]

Good to hear;-)

[LongWalksOnTheBeach]

Persuee, because like you said, you've got to do stuff for yourself and not just sit around and wait. With that said, if a girl initiated, I would absolutely consider it.. and if I were into her, I'd take over the pursuing role from there.

[Asker]

you cant. if you are persuer you cat get with a woman who persues you. the point of the question id you have to give up one or the other. if you persue no woman can persue you. so if you really like her and you chose to be the persuer and she persues you. you can't be with her.

[Asker]

Cant*

If*

[Blobb]

Persuer in that case, being with someone means more when you chose them out of all the people you could get with rather than just clinging to them cause they're you're only choice.

[Asker]

Well...You could still choose as a persuee . you don't have to get with just anyone. you just can't go after them.

funny because most gus say women get to choose because they are being asked. you're saying you can't choose for real if you're just being asked.

[Blobb]

Well no you can't. Cause the ones you want may or may not ask, hot hot women have choice, and even then it's still limited :P

[Asker]

yes I agree. I was just trying to see if the bs argument other people use about the persuee having all the choice because 'all they have to do is say yes or no', would fly... with anyone in reality.

hot hot hot lol

[Anonymous]

Being the pursuee, since I'm too socially-awkward to do the approaching

[Asker]

Honesty. Cool ;-)

[Opinion Owner]

basically I hate how guys get labeled weak for being passive in this department

[Anonymous]

always be the persuee, it funner

[Asker]

I don't think there's anything fun about not being allowed to act on your own behalf. youd have to wait around for whoever you were interested to do something. and if they by chance didn't see you, it'd never happen, because you're not allowed to do anything. plus they have all the control. I think its demeaning and boring. not fun., but then I'm not a passive person and I don't like other people making life decisions for me. that's OK we just disagree.

[imimim]

dude QA, you asked the question, you don't have to get mad at people for their opinions. I do agree with you though, I couldn't give up all my control. Interesting question.

[skinandbones]

persuer

[Anonymous]

always be pursued.