No it is not normal for a boyfriend to tease you in a mean but playful way. There is always some meaning in that type of teasing but it's covered up or buttered up as if it's a joke. There are some guys that don't seem to know the difference between being serious or joking. I doubt he's starting to feel too comfortable with you... but he might. However, that type of joking that hurts a person right off and then the person laughs is a total disregard for the person he does that to and is very disrespectful. I'm sure you'd never do that to him. No couple in a serious relationship where they really care for their partner would ever do that type of thing. He is being very mean to you especially if it's in front of any other person. You need to tell him to just stop that and that you don't appreciate his joking that way because it hurts you. That's not playful and I'd say he doesn't seriously love you as much as you think he does. Nor does he seriously adore you because if he did that would never happen. How easy would it be for you to do that to him? If you really do love him and you think he really does love you, then it should be very easy to have a nice conversation with him about that, and one that he'd appreciate knowing your true feelings. Do that soon because you want him to know that every time he does that he's hurting you, and ask him if that's what he wants to do. Time for him to grow up and stop his childish behavior because he could very well be a very nice person and great boyfriend for you. Good luck!
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It means he is pretty insensitive, for sure. He doesn't understand what hurts you and why.
You need to have a serious talk and explain why it hurts, and see if he stops. Otherwise, you're just letting him control you by hurting you, and that is a sure sign of an unhealthy relationship..the surest sign, in fact.
That's called being passive aggressive and mean spirited. Would it be OK if a girl did that? No. then why would it be acceptable for your boyfriend to?
What if I walked up to you and said for example "Yeah that dress doesn't make you look fat or anything" with a smile, and then when you got mad I laughed and said "Just kidding!". You would think I was a mean girl and a bitch. Well that's what your boyfriend is. Do you really want to be with someone like that?
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You should tell him that you dont like him being mean to you in a playful way, you love him being honest and telling you eveything, but not that, unless he believes it, in which case he should talk to you more delicately and nit as blunt.
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