Co-worker that's got a boyfriend sent me a facebook friend request. Is that weird or normal? ?

[saud1998]

We've known each other for maybe 6 months or so. Before the company closed, we'd text here and there and whatnot. Then a couple of days before the company closed, her boyfriend quit (he worked with us) and she got more active with texting me. Literally, she would start the conversations with work-related stuff and then it would get to actual conversations like about her dogs or other things. Not sure if she was texting me cause she was bored or? But, there was no dry texting between us. I'd make her laugh and what have you (I would look over to her office while texting her funny stuff or teasing her to see her reaction). 2 days after the company shut down, she added me on Facebook. I have her dad added (he worked with us also). Her dad and I are actually cool with each other. We talk here and there. But, never thought she would add me on Facebook. That caught me off guard. I cont post much on there. But, she'll look at my Facebook stories. Been 3 days since we last talked. Thought about texting her and asking if she got abducted by aliens. Obviously, I like her but haven't made a move or anything because she has a boyfriend.

Weird

Normal

[Luopio27]

Sounds to me you kinda like her. You said it yourself, her dad and her boyfriend both worked for the same company you and she did. It seems to me that she finds it casual to have you in her facebook.


Not to burst your bubble but ask her directly how is she doing with her boyfriend. Never asume, always find out.

[saud1998]

I thought about asking her. She did tell me sometimes she wishes she was single. That kinda was a red flag. I don't know if I should text her or not. She hasn't responded back to me since Monday. But, the text I sent wasn't really a text she could necessarily respond to so.

[Luopio27]

You seem to like her and she seems to have been running in your head, full speed. I have set to folllow the rule of forgetting everyone who is in a relationship.

If she dumps him for you, she could do the same to you. Triangle drama is dangerous.

[Ebhall34]

My coworker and I added each other on social media even though I was engaged. We never went out to hang out or anything tho. I was into her due to me being unhappy in my relationship and once my ex and I broke up, we instantly started hanging out and are now casually dating

[Ninania]

Do you see your coworker as a friendly person or sex on legs? Cause she's just being friendly, no need for you to sexualise her or your interactions.

[saud1998]

Who said I was sexualizing her 💀. I said I like her somewhat. Just haven't made a move cause she's gotta man

[Ninania]

@saud1998 if you're not sexualising her, there's no need to think that hard about her having a boyfriend.

[saud1998]

Guess I'll shoot my shot f it

[Ninania]

Dude, you're either her friend or nothing to her. The last thing she needs is a "friend" shooting their shot.

[Ninania]

If you had this relationship with a guy, would you assume he'd be sexually interested in you, or just being friendly? Cause she's very likely trying to make a friendship, and you're choosing to let your attraction to her cloud your judgment. That's what I mean by sexualisation. You're sexualising your interactions with her, instead of seeing her as a person regardless of her gender.

[HappyWoman34]

She maybe wants to make some friends. Her boyfriend doesn't own her you know.

[AviatorTom]

Why would you think that's weird? Facebook is not a dating site, and a friend request is not a solicitation for sex. She likes you as a person and would like to stay in touch. Perfectly normal.

[slatyb]

She may be one of those people who just friends everyone they meet. I don't make FB friends with my colleagues.

[Texaskid1]

Meh... adding someone as a friend on Facebook is nothing. I have seen profiles of married people who have a million Facebook "friends" of either gender.

[LiamJHayden]

Common. Some people try to add anyone they meet.

[Anonymous]

It’s a friend request not marriage proposal

[qwert1234]

You like her.

And that is not a question by the way.

[Kingofkings1992]

Bro… it’s just a friend request. Chill out. Doesn’t mean she’s trying to get with you.

[gothbxtch]

normal, doesn’t mean anything romantic

[KatherineJ]

Totally normal

[Anonymous]

I say normal as long it doesn't become sexual.