Is he teasing me cause i’m gullible and vulnerable? or it’s a sign of saying he likes me?

[mstoxicprincess]

There’s this “ friend” of mine or rather can call it a frenemy (i know him from a friend of a friend - we are in 1 crew, meaning we never hang one on one, but just in a group) that ever since i know him (3 years) he’s been teasing me and bitching on me. Many times he’ll say these really rude comments on my body or my dress or my hair etc. he noticed everything i do and he likes putting me down. example he’ll whisper in my ear “you got a flat ass” when it’s not that flat at all and then a few weeks later he’ll make bets with me and if i loose he tells me “show me something i’ve never seen before , actually you’ve got nothing to show“ or “i bet u can’t give me a proper lap dance” etc.

at one point 2 years ago back when i was together with my ex, he told me one night when nobody was around , how my boyfriend (at the time) told him he wasn’t happy in the relationship and he tried talking me into trying open marriage or swinging to “improve my relationship” i asked my boyfriend wtf and if it’s true , he’s like fuck no, never.

i never thought he liked me , to him i always assumed i was just a fun innocent girl to target on but the more i think into things he said or done i’m unsure ….
Here’s the thing, i asked him once why he’s saying mean stuff to me and why he comments on things that he doesn’t like about me all the damn time and he answered me because u fall for it and then he winked. I asked him ur sure? is that the reason or is it cuz you low key have a crush on me? and he was like nope not on you.
it’s pretty obvious he does have a crush on me …. is it normal for guys to lie like this? am i overthinking?

[MementoMori777]

It's possible he has a crush on you but the whole bullying thing is so pathetic and childish it's just unnecessary, if you are vulnerable and gullible it still won't change the fact that he is being childish, did he stop teasing you after you confronted him cause if so, then it most likely means he does like you and the confrontation made it like you were on to him so you stomped on his whole little game he had going lol

[mstoxicprincess]

haven’t hung out with him since. I don’t enjoy his vibe…

[mstoxicprincess]

he does always make extreme eye contact with me so that’s another reason why i think he likes me

[MementoMori777]

Yea it's possible he might, he just didn't express it properly and he fucked it up for himself.

[mstoxicprincess]

also , forgot to mention that he does have a stuck up personality and a huge ego. i told him once that i hate him and after he offended my ass , i told him he’s always gonna be a fuckin looser in my eyes and i’ll never respect him. could be that’s why he said he doesn’t have a thing for me 🤷‍♀️ maybe it’s his ego I don't know

[MementoMori777]

Ego can be very destructive, I'm sure his ego plays a part in all of this cause instead of simply opening up to ask you on a date or for a way to contact you he relied on hate and insults, which I don't know how that has ever helped anyone for someone to rely in this kindergarten method, did he try avoiding the cooties as well 😂🍼

You made an intelligent move separating from such idiocy.

[BoopBoopBeep]

He sounds like a tool. Tell your friends you don't like how he acts and don't hang out with them if he's there. If they tolerate that behavior your friends are tools too.

[mstoxicprincess]

Thanks. what do u mean by tools and why does he enjoy doing these things

[BoopBoopBeep]

From Urban Dictionary:

1.) A guy with a hugely over-inflated ego, who in an attempt to get un-due attention for himself, will act like a jackass, because, in his deluded state, he will think it's going to make him look cool, or make others want to be like him. The person may even insincerely apologize later on, but only in an attempt to get more attention, or to excuse his blatantly intentional, and unrepentantly tool-ish behavior.

2.) Someone whose ego FAR exceeds his talent, intelligence, and likeability. But, of course, he is clueless regarding that fact. He erroneously thinks he is THE MAN!

[Guardian45]

He's obnoxious, and you can stop him dead in his tracks with: "If you don't stop sexually harassing me, I'll report you to HR."
Or if you don't mind, then you can just keep going with flow.

[mstoxicprincess]

i’m avoiding him. that’s all. but my question wasn’t how to deal with him, it was whether he enjoys teasing me or if he has a crush on me

[Guardian45]

Like a little boy, he enjoys teasing you AND has a crush on you!

[mstoxicprincess]

yeah. he’s a kid in my eyes

[Guardian45]

Yup. How old is he? Is he married?

[mstoxicprincess]

yeah and he’s 24

[Guardian45]

The Prosecution rests, Your Honor.

[mstoxicprincess]

wdymn by that

[Guardian45]

I mean that explains that he's a little boy who enjoys teasing you AND has a crush on you.

[spartan55]

He's married. I guess you are just going to ignore that. So gross.

[mstoxicprincess]

He was married at the time. He’s separated for a few weeks now

[spartan55]

Lol...'separated for a few weeks now' ohhhhh... my bad! He's separated for a few now... everything's cool!
So, he is separated according to who? Him? Why do women go for fuckheads like that guy? Enjoy.

[mstoxicprincess]

my question wasn’t if i should be with him or not. I would never fall for him. My question was just to understand what his language means that’s all. Thanks for your input tho ;)

[spartan55]

Yeah, right. Why would you even care "what his language means" and why ask if he has a crush on you? Stop acting like we are all stupid.

[Andres77]

He's a tease. Keep your distance. That's the vibe I'm getting