I am guessing that you are not bothered about being stronger and a better wrestler than your boyfriend.
If you were bothered by it then you could do two things
(i) dump him for someone stronger than you
(ii) let him win and he would be none the wiser.
However, you don't let him win, and you haven't dumped him, so that probably means three things:
(x) You are a modern girl and don't care about conventions saying the guy should be stronger, but you are going to be true to yourself and to him and you are not going to let him believe that he is stronger when he is not, by letting him win
(y) You possibly aren't that trusting of guys and prefer guys who cannot beat you
(z) You like to be dominant even if you don't realize it yet
I think there are four possibilities from his point of view
(a) He is operating on the basis that when men lose they actually win if this leads to sex, so he is letting you win
(b) He cannot beat you,
(c) Even if he doesn't realize it, he is submissive and likes to get beaten by girls so he is letting you win
(d) Even if he doesn't realize it, he is submissive. He cannot beat you, and is having a hard time reconciling the submissive side of his nature which enjoys getting beaten by a girl, with social conventions that says that guys should be dominant and should be able to win against a girl.
I think (a) is unlikely as I can see a guy losing in wrestling to a girl for this reason but not in arm wrestling which is more about pure strength. I think a guy would want to win that if he could.
If it is (b) then he has a few options
(1) He accepts that you are stronger and carries on going out with you, assuming you are OK with this? If he has made this decision then he will probably stop challenging you but will keep going out with you.
(2) He cannot accept it and is too lazy to go to the gym so he stops going out with you. If so he is probably not worth having as a boyfriend.
(3) He cannot accept it and goes down the gym until he gets stronger than you and probably learns some wrestling or a martial art like BJJ while he is at it. You will be able to tell if it is this one since he will be going to the gym. He will probably stop challenging you for a while until he has built some muscle. He is a guy so if he keeps going to the gym, he is very likely to end up stronger than you and probably quite quickly since you sound like a strong girl but not a female body builder.
It will be difficult for you to distinguish between (b) and (c) or (d) since all you will know if that you keep winning..
If it is (c) then he will probably continue to challenge you and will continue to lose and his submissive side will come forward. It is up to you if you want that. Did you select (z)?
If it is (d) then he will also probably continue to challenge you and you will continue to win because he cannot beat you. Either his submissive side will come forward. If so, are you (z)? If not, and he decides to suppress his submissive side, he will stop going out with you, which is probably for the best.
There is unfortunately another option for (b)(2). He cannot accept ithat you can beat him. He is too lazy to go to the gym, but instead of just stopping going out with you, he turns violent and cheats to beat you such as using a weapon. Some comments on here are along those lines, ie in a real fight the guy will win because he will fight dirty. However, no guy in a relationship with a woman should ever be so bothered about losing that he has to fight dirty. If it looks like it is going that way, dump him. Signals on this will be things like him continuing to challenge you and going very quiet and moody after he loses.
lol, he needs to uh ... step up his game.
I think it’s a beautiful thing. I hate being weak as a girl, my height and pint-size frame don’t help, but I also love feminine guys, being stronger than a male partner sounds amazing, being able to protect and ambush him with tickles, amazing.
I'm stronger than my boyfriend and I actually love it. I used to cheerlead too! We are tough 😊
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Being competitive is me and my girlfriends favorite thing. It's just soooo hot for both of us. I'd guess that it's the same with you two, he's probably enjoing it, possibly just letting you win. I'm a good bit stronger than my girlfriend, we even things out through push ups before arm wrestling. If she was stronger, I'd be very eager to catch up again (just like she's currently, but of course she'll probably never be able to) and ask for rematches all the time as well. I do let her win from time to time without telling her. It really might just be that. Just ask him about that and watch his reaction.
Or better for literally very most of problems: Just ask him directly, since he's your favorite person to trust. It's nothing wrong to ask and you'll get a more reliable answer than anyone here could give.
Suuuure you are. Has he ever hit you without holding back, actually go all out and trying his best to inflict pain and damage upon you in the way that you do to him? Nope, didn't think so. So then, how the hell can you claim to be stronger than him, any more than a patrol cop can claim to be stronger than a gangbanger he wrestles to the ground and places in handcuffs? Fighting back, risking inflicting injury and being done for assault, for both the gangbanger and your boyfriend, isn't an option; society forces us to back down and to not resist, because of the potential repercussions of not doing so. It's nothing to do with your strength. And it doesn't make you stronger- to the contrary, those laws, those social and legal inherent advantages which you rely upon, exist solely to compensate for your inherent weakness and inferiority. Feel your privilege...
I have always played wrestle with my wife, even when we were dating. So much fun.
Love how she is so competive, and goes all out to win. Headlock with her legs is her killer winning move.
I think my brother's Girlfriend is stronger than he is but I'm sure he can fight dirty if he needs to. lol
It's not a turnoff for me. I like it.
I wouldn't mind a girl who was stronger than me. I think it would be really hot actually.
If he is your age, that's pretty crazy. Have you checked to make sure he really has balls?
I think it’s cool! It keeps things entertaining in the relationship
I would love to have a girl that was stronger than me.
That’s so hot! How big are you?
I have always like a stronger woman.
That’s awesome!
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