I'm just not ready for commitment

[Anonymous]

I'm at a point in my life, where I'm turning 20. I'm happy right where I am, and I'm completely happy being the free spirit I am. I have a promissing career in law and human rights ahead of me. I'm going great with my University work, I have my health and fitness, I have an amazing network of true friends who I love, and I am just generally happy. I'm not ready to commit yet.

All around me, I'm seeing girls my age getting engaged and married, but I just have no interest in that at the moment. Don't get me wrong, I do aspire to have a loving family one day, but for now I'm just happy being me. For the first time in my life, I am perfectly happy being who I am, and I wouldn't change anything, or anyone around me, I'm enjoying my life so much.

Now with this being said, I'm not the type of girl to sleep around or go out with just anyone. I'm not afraid to say things how they are, and I'm sure of myself, I'm perfectly happy being the crazy free spirit I am.

I just don't want drama in my life, and until I find someone who I can still be a free spirit around, someone who I can be my complete self around, who I won't have to change for, I'm happy staying right where I am.

To the man who I said no to when you asked me to be your girlfriend, there will always be a part of me who loves you, but for the time being, I cannot see myself comitting to anyone.

I want to see the world, I want to travel to Spain and see my family in Greece, and learn French. I want to leave my mark on the world in humanitarian law and make a difference. I want to work hard and have my eyes open. I want to have late nights with my girl friends eating pizza and watching Ryan Gosling movies, and not worry about anyone waiting for me. One day I will be ready, one day my heart will be ready to settle. But for now, I just want to explore and enrich my mind and heart with new faces, new crazy experiences, crazy friends who I eat too much food with, and new cultures. I just want to dance and run and learn and open my heart up to new people from all over the world. I hope you understand.

[bubble_tea]

Wow, guys can be bitter if you can easily say no to something they are willing to lose an arm to get xD

I hope you never lose sight of your goals once you find that guy who doesn't mind that you binge watch Ryan Gosling movies and gush about how perfect Gosling looks, who also doesn't mind if you'd rather travel Europe alone or with female friends to easier make new friends. It's much harder if not almost impossible to make new friends if you travel as a couple.

[genuinlysensitive]

Lol dont flatter yourself :(

[bubble_tea]

@genuinlysensitive ah so you're the anon guy in the first comment. I'm sorry to tell, but I'm speaking from experience.

[genuinlysensitive]

Actually, no, but you keep thinking that. Just like you keep thinking that every guy wants a relationship with you just bc you have a vagina. Hilarious!

[bubble_tea]

@genuinlysensitive lmao where did I say that I thought "every guy wants a relationship with you just bc you have a vagina." ? Indeed, Hilarious!

[bubble_tea]

The experience comment was about "making friends while traveling as a couple"

[genuinlysensitive]

Yea have you considered stand up? You obviously think you're funny...

[Anonymous]

You realize being in a relationship will kill none of those dreams, and will improve your life greatly if you let the right person in.

[Bonnie12I27I12]

relationships aren't for everyone. they add stress and for now she just wants to be free :)

[Opinion Owner]

Add stress? Being alone is stressful. Also, being free is not the same thing as not caring.

[bubble_tea]

Being alone is only stressful when you want to have someone. Having someone is stressful when you want to be alone.

[Opinion Owner]

No, its still quite stressful. The only difference is some people are better at bullshitting about it than others.

[bubble_tea]

😂 so we're in agreement here

[Yc2K15]

cool story... You know that some people search for love and some grow up with it. You are only 20 and you are at Uni, pretty sure it is normal for you not to have time/interest in commitment. Not everyone goes to uni, and the people who are committing to families around the age of 20 is normal and always has been. Its only in the recent decade or so where having material in the western world is more important than having a family. Me personally I would rather be 50 with a 25 year old child than 60.
Its ok to be yourself but don't let your existence be clouded by material. Sometimes travelling with friends is 10 times worse than travelling with a partner lol trust me.

[JohnBhoy94]

Sure, "be free" and all that jazz. A guy is undoubtedly going to cross your path sooner or later - someone you won't be able to resist.

Seems like you put a lot of unnecessary stress on relationships... have you been hurt in the past?

[springocelot]

Ok. Such things are typical of your age. No one loses out on anything.

[DarkHumorRUs]

That sucks for you. Dunno what would be worse about having a partner to do all those things with...

[Not_Helping]

I'm confused as to why it matters. So be single, no one loses anything on the deal.

[Nathand]

its too early for this crap.

You'll be a changed person in about a year.