There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to please your partner

[Anonymous]

I was recently listening to the song "Hey Mama" on YouTube. While scrolling through the comments, I saw stuff about feminism being thrown down the drain and how it is such a sexist, masogynistic song. While there may be some masogyny in it (when Nikki mentions how he's the boss and "she be respectin'") the rest of the song is really about making your guy feel good. People think there is something wrong with that. But in reality, why wouldn't you want to please your partner?

In any healthy relationship, pleasure is a given and received thing. Does restricting sex really prove a feminist point? "I AM NOT A SEX OBJECT AND I WILL RESTRICT ALL SEXUAL ACTS WITH MY CONSENTING PARTNER JUST TO PROVE A POINT." That is what I am hearing from these so called "feminists." If you can explain, please do.

Anyway, I think most people can agree that sex is an important part of any real relationship. Built upon love and trust, it's a great thing. Staying loyal to your partner (also in that song) both mentally and sexually doesn't make you a sex object. Wanting to have sex with your partner doesn't make you a sex object. Wanting to please your partner sexually does not make you a sex object. It also doesn't make you any less of a woman. Your partner will appreciate anything you do for them. You won't be looked down upon.

This us an excerpt from an article about the author's thoughts on the song. Our interpretations are a bit different, however, she makes it seem like Minaj only wants to please the guy because he's good in bed. Never is that mentioned in the song, however, everyone is entitled to their own opinions.

Ladies and gents, you can be independent and still make your partner happy. You are in no way tied down and need the man or woman you are having that relationship with. It takes two to tango. Make that tango enjoyable and please each other in all ways you can possibly do so.

[bryon]

I totally agree with your take on this. I really like the things you said about " what doesn't make you a sex object " , cuz its the damn truth. I can't count the post that I have seen saying my girl or my guy cut me off on sex cuz blah blah. that's usually d caused by something insignificant. using your stuff to to get what you want isn't love , its control plain and simple. I don't know about anyone else but this old dog don't roll over and do trick for that treat.. thanks for sharing this young Lady

[Anonymous]

You are right. In fact not only os 8lit ok to please your partner mutual altruism is the corner stone of healthy relationships. As for your comment about a guy being the boss, why is it only ok fir women to be the boss?

[myTake Owner]

I never said it was haha. I was just pointing out what sone people think. Personally I don't see either person being a boss of the relationship. In my opinion, the two people are their own bosses and work with each other.

[Opinion Owner]

As do I in relationships. Although sometimes, one differs to the other, such as when one has more experience in a certain area.

[myTake Owner]

I believe that each gender has things they are better at. It's just how our brains are as well as our physical makeup. I personally hate doing heavy work, and I can't, so I have my boyfriend do it. He's so much stronger than me. I prefer to cook and do easier outside work like mowing the grass. Some see it as gender rolls, I see it as doing what is easier for the both of us

[Opinion Owner]

I think some people confuse trying to force non traditional gender roles with "liberating" people from "traditional" ones. I don't think people should be harassed or humiliated because they have "traditional" traits any more than if they have "non" traditional traits.

Personally I see too much social acceptance of this. Like its all of a sudden acceptable to tell a man with a stay at home wife that he is "objectifying" her, and he "doesn't respect" her. Both are lies most of my friends that are married have stay at home wives, they are happy and they love their wives with all their heart.

[myTake Owner]

And if the woman wasn't happy, she could go get a job. Nobody in a healthy relationship is being forced to do what they do

[Skadouchebag]

I didn't even know this was a problem. I mean, seriously, it's only a matter of time before these women start griping "MY PANCAKES RAPED ME THIS MORNING BECAUSE THE WHEAT IN THE FLOUR WAS PICKED BY A MAN!"

[Anonymous]

Yes, but you can't have a pleasing relationship with a feminist.