The biggest lesson I learned in my most recent relationship was focusing more on positives than negatives. In the end we lost sight of that. I hope to build that with someone new.
Specify to your partner WHY you are grateful
After awhile, "I love you" runs it's course. It is not something that promotes growth or change. Imparting KNOWLEDGE creates growth and change with your partner. With my most recent ex, whenever she would make dinner we would sit down and hold hands before we ate. We would look each other in the eye and tell each other what we were grateful for. She was religious, I was not. But each time it gave feelings of warmth to express that we were grateful to be together in that moment.
How a Female Can Reward Her Partner
Sex is a powerful aspect of a woman. Too often women are taught to use sex as blackmail or as a tactic to withhold in order to manipulate. I find that sex can be used as celebration. As a way of expressing love rather than punishment. Ladies, why on earth do you nag your husband to do shit? There's no need for that. "Baby, it really means a lot that you cleaned the house. Let me suck your massive cock." or "Congrats on the new job baby! Let me cook dinner tonight." or "Baby, it's Tuesday. I love you. Let's go play basketball at the park."
Imagine the look on your man's face when you express something positive about him and follow it up with a memory or a shared experience. It is something that I failed to do. Life and a Pandemic got in the way.
How a Man Can Reward His Partner
"Hey baby, the morning sex was amazing! Let me take you out tonight on me." Or "Baby, you do so much for me. Dinner was so nice. Let me change the baby's diaper tonight. You sleep easy. Okay?"