7 Morals Necessary for a Successful Relationship

[Anonymous]

You love your partner, so you want the best for him/her. You want to make sure you bring out the best in eachother. Many couples think that they can last but end up breaking up months later. In order to avoid being like those couples, let me give you my top 7 morals necessary for a successful relationship.

1. Honesty

Honestly why date someone if you lie or if they constantly lie to you. If the person you love lies to you or if you lie to the person that would do backflips for you then why be with them? Why hurt and disrespect that person? The truth does hurt, however it will help strengthen the relationship.

2. Just

Be willing to compromise. If you always get your way, that’s great but know your partner will eventually resent you. Learn to compromise. Best example is my boyfriend who I adore HATES HEALTHY FOOD!!! However I managed to make it work because he loves soccer. So we had a soccer date and ate healthy food that is a smidge of what he and I do when we compromise.

3. Loyal

Really? If you constantly flirt with members from the opposite sex in front or even behind closed doors then just don’t date period. Until you yourself can be comfortable being with one person for long term then don’t bother. I went from 20-25 until I got committed because I just wanted to do my thing. Yes I dated but never really cared for anyone until I met my partner. He too didn’t really commit to anyone until he met me.

4. Trustworthy

You make a promise, you keep to it. Don’t make promises you constantly can’t keep. Stop letting your partner down. Be someone that your partner can rely on for anything. I know if I had a major issue I can count on my partner for advice and if he isn’t feeling well he knows I’d come over in a heartbeat because that’s what we do. Not saying it’s glamorous but you do it.

5. Humble

Nobody likes a cocky, self-centred, egocentric individual. If you are that person, just date yourself (no but seriously, date yourself). Stop acting like you are on top of the world because in a blink of an eye you can lose it all. People that are Lawyers that are cocky and work Downtown Toronto or any major company they get cocky, lose their jobs and then? Exactly so stay humble, know your place and work hard knowing it can all get taken away from you in a snap.

6. Respectful

Why date a person you don’t respect. See the value of who you are with. Know who you date reflects you and how you act reflects who they are. Your partner has CHOSEN to spend PRECIOUS TIME with YOU and all you can do is bark orders and make them feel worthless…. Yep your relationship is as good as over.

7. Self-Control

Really? You can’t handle yourself so why date someone. You need a good head on your shoulders and know that regardless of what you do career wise (because in this economy it’s hard to find a job PERIOD) that your partner is always watching you. If they notice you impulsively buy things, constantly are raising your voice or causing drama that’s on a “Real Housewives” level than seriously control yourself. No man or woman wants a partner that’s a Drama Queen or someone that is constantly broke.

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Thank you guys for reading this. If you have anything to add please comment below. Also let me know about any topics you’d like for me to write about. Thank you again and god bless :) <3

[Anonymous]

These sound more like values than morals. Values are characteristics or traits that are desirable. Morals are teachings that guide us how to live out our values, and may be specific in regards to conduct and thought. Morals teach us how to be wholesome individuals. Values are just traits.

[gapminder]

#6 goes both ways, as I will not respect anyone who doesn't respect me equally.

[Nicolás25]

1. Bullshit you don't want to hear how you've gained weight little white lies are OK in most women's eyes but on other things they do want honesty
2. compromise haha I agree but it should go more like she wants a cat I don't so we got half a cat head or tail you choose jk but if we get a cat I get to walk in our apartment naked compromise
3. agreed
4agreed
5. Don't date a cocky guy to begin with
6. Respect eachother is a better line than that nonsense on the t shirt
7. Self control is important but not in the way that you are talking about I don't care if she went shopping and now is broke its her money but when she sees a bunch of cute guys she must have the restraint and self control to not show interest and stay professially friendly same goes to me if a bunch of cute girls talk to me.

[OlderAndWiser]

I view the world of women in very simple terms. There are two types: 1) those who have never, ever, ever lied to me, and 2) everyone else. If you tell me one white lie, I don't care what the motivation was, you are in the second group. That because, once you justify telling m a little lie, you will convince yourself that bigger lies aren't so bad, either.

If my girls wants to know if the pants make her ass look big, she's going to hear the truth. . . and it may hurt, but she will always know that she can trust me.

[myTake Owner]

@OlderAndWiser It sucks but it's true. I rather be brutally honest (sometimes I'll put it kindly). People need the truth and even if you lie over one little thing that one thing will eventually be a big thing and no one wants that. It's like a snowball, you start off small and it gets bigger to the point it starts to crack and break (that's how lies are, they start off small and then they all crack)...

[OlderAndWiser]

Right! That's why there's only two categories: women who NEVER lied, and everyone else.

Trust is like virginity; you can lose it in just a few moments and then you will never have it again.

[myTake Owner]

@OlderAndWiser You just really need to have a wall up and stay safe (really get to know your partner before bringing the wall down)... Things take time, no one is perfect but lying is something I don't like and won't waste my time on...

[SammyGurl]

Great take, my guy and I learned many of these principles while going through our premarital counseling, they work. One thing that works for us is putting each other's needs above our own, kinda ensures you're not being selfish. Selflessness is a great thing for couples!

[Kerbie]

counselling is great me and girl have couples therapy it helps us so much

[Anonymous]

What the heck is #2 supposed to be? You just put the word Just. Seriously. Was that a typo. Also all of these only work if it's both people trying to make the relationship work. Also it takes compromise, and self love because I feel that if a person does not love themselves then how can they truly love someone

[myTake Owner]

I have written other posts on Toxic vs Healthy. Take a look at it. Yes I purposely put the word Just.

[Opinion Owner]

Well that makes no sense to me, no offense

[Opinion Owner]

No thanks I only read this because it was on my live feed

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

just (adjective)- based on or behaving according to what is morally right and fair

[myTake Owner]

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

@asker Why couldn't you explain that yourself?

[myTake Owner]

Because I was away from my laptop during that time period.

[Anonymous]

I'm just a natural flirt. It's always been a big part in my personality. I get it from my mother buuuuuut I don't flirt to the point where things get out of control. My boyfriend knows I've always been a natural flirt and he's okay with it because he knows I won't do anything. So some people, (like me) come with that trait naturally, 100% of the time I try to not flirt with the opposite sex. which I succeed 95% of the time but its just how I am.

[ras144]

I don't understand why anyone would need this take. Are people that stupid?
Also, what is considered flirting? Because some people blow compliments out of proportions and throw jealous hissy fits.

[myTake Owner]

Flirting can be taken differently for anyone. Personally when I talk it sounds like I am flirting, however my guy knows when I am talking and when I am flirting. Only time I flirt is with him. I agree 100% how people take compliments out of proportions (learn to pick and choose battles also about that). Also this take is good for people because sometimes they need some advice, it's like asking a friend for it.

[Azara]

lol

#are people this stupid.

Well said. ;-)

[SomeoneImportant]

The only problem with trustworthiness, is that in a relationship, it has nothing to do with whether or not you're trustworthy. It's routine.

You break the routine, your partner loses trust.

[myTake Owner]

Sometimes going outside of routine can be good (if it's just to spice things up and both people know what's going on). Routine can become boring and eventually people just get sick of the same thing. Routine is good but not always needed all the time... Unless you end up having kids then routine is a must! You break routine and you are so screwed lol

[SomeoneImportant]

Depends.

I meant when you've already established a routine like responding to texts quickly, saying you're going one place, and only going there.

Doesn't seem like much, but if you take a few hours to respond, when it used to only take a few minutes. The routine/trust is broken, even if only temporarily

[lost_kitten]

I like this. It's got great points. I especially like the picture for number 3. Hehe

[Roostah]

Most people today do not have 3,4,5, AND 7 in this generation.

[dartmaul15]

too true there. the generation of "mine" and "me"

[Trotters]

Excellent, Very true, but 7 simple things that some people just can't manage 1 of them... pffft!!!

[Darkfairie17]

Love this take! All of these are great qualities in any relationship!

[Anonymous]

Also remember to put your women in her place by reminding her of your obvious superiority as a man.

[myTake Owner]

Or maybe she will just let you think you've put her in her place when really you haven't.

[Opinion Owner]

Or maybe I'll get 5$ deposit back and shave my poodle.

[myTake Owner]

or maybe you can do that lol I just personally think it's 50/50 in a relationship and sometimes you gotta let either the male or female take the lead once in a while.

[Nicolás25]

You pimp slap that hoe if she gets out of line (sarcasm)

[Azara]

o p : why would a woman be with a man who needed her to pretend she thinks he's superior in the first place.

i mean I've heard the thing where women will just let the guy 'think' he's in control.. as if thats an accomplishment. to spend time demeaning yourself by putting energy into tricking someone else, so you can be in a dysfunctional relationship.. makes no sense. dont get it. never have. just leave if he's a bigoted control freak. and pertaining goes against moral # 1,.. honesty.

I don't know if you all are joking or not. there are 3 uproots which im guessing are from guys who took it seriously. and 3 down votes from women whop took it seriously... why would anyone take this seriously on here or in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

OMG! I had such a crush on "Topanga" back in the day!

[becca123]

There's a show on Disney called Girl Meets World, where those two are married and raising a teen daughter. Topanga really REALLY aged well :)

[myTake Owner]

@becca123 For me when I think of relationships I honestly think about them. They went through so much and yet they turned out amazing. Really believe that they modeled for us along with other good tv classics how a relationship is (they weren't cookie cutter perfect which I liked)...

[Anonymous]

Not bad. Of course, each person has their own set of morals. There aren't "just" morals, set in place. But, I like the way YOU think abou relationships

[Sircomplainsalot]

A very well-written take, sums up my feelings on the matter perfectly :)

[girlsvsguys1]

if you don't respect us then we don't respect you back.

[Phoenix98]

What you've said is just basic common sense lol.

[annsyah]

Common senses that people in a relationship commonly forget about.

[Phoenix98]

@annsyah quite sad but true yes, I still can't believe that we need to remind people and tell them about common sense in the first place -shakes head-

[zombiebabe]

very true take!!!
that owl is so funny lol

[ColdHeartCries]

Loyalty and trust are a must.

[Zorax]

Great Take, I agree :)

[clampfan101]

I have all of these. I'm annoyingly shy, though...