Forgive the callousness of the title. I don't mean to sound harsh so let me explain.
I was over at Elite Daily and I found an article entitled, "I"m Scared He'll Cheat If I Let Myself Go." It was an interesting read and I'm willing to bet a lot of women have asked themselves this question. And there's a bit of sexism in the fact that men don't seem to worry about this nearly as much, or as often.
Let me make one thing plain before I begin: That author says she's scared I'll cheat but I wouldn't do that. I maintain my effort to be a gentleman and therefore, I would never cheat. I might, however, consider ending a relationship if my partner "let herself go," as they're calling it. But wait, don't get all lathered up. Hear me out.
Let's start with the cause of laziness and distance between two people: Insecurity. And here's something helpful:
Moving on, the door swings both ways. If I let myself go and my girlfriend/wife didn't, she'd have every right to leave me, as far as I'm concerned. She went to the effort of maintaining her health and I did not; she respected her body and I did not. Furthermore, let's not forget the practical side of remaining healthy: It's not all about looks. Here's something that I want everyone to understand:
"The healthier we are, the better our relationship is likely to be."
Why? Healthier people have more active sex lives. They've got more active lives in general; they do more things and they often do them together. When one starts to "let themselves go," it should be no shock that lifestyles that used to gel suddenly clash. You two used to go hiking and play tennis and what have you; now he just sits in the recliner and watches football while you're still trying to exercise and eat healthy. There's a rift now.
And yes, attraction plays a role. It always does in any romantic situation. If one person isn't so attracted to the other anymore, that's a problem. It's not anyone's fault; it's the way nature works. The reason most of us are attracted to slimmer individuals is because we're looking for a healthy parent for our young. It's instinctual. We are animals, after all, and no member of the animal kingdom is seeking out a lame partner to rear its young. Right?
We started out this way:
And you ended up this way:
So, if we both start out as healthy people and you stop being healthy while I maintain, I'm going to come to some conclusions. I'm going to conclude that you care less about the relationship than I do, and that you care less about your own health. You've stopped taking responsibility for your own life and I can't stand that. You don't respect yourself, you don't respect what we've built together, and you're too lazy to do anything about it.
Sorry, but sayonara. And again, a woman can say this to a man for the exact same reasons. Door swinging both ways. Equality. :)
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