I´m going to tell you what we both want! I´ve been answering a lot of questions on some other forums, as well as in real life. I wasn't very active here for a long time, but this I have to share.
What do both sexes want?!? It´s so simple that it´s ridiculous, and you are going to fight it, because it can´t be that simple, it has to be more complicated than that. I mean, isn't the other sex so frustratingly complex and wtf are they thinking sometimes??
Well the thing we all want is.... to be happy! Yes that's it. To be happy and this is where it all goes so so wrong. Because we don´t know how to be happy. Society has it all wrong, and we ARE the society! Everything we do is about getting that feeling of happiness. Think about how many times you entered a relationship thinking this is going to solve all your problems and you will be happy or how many times you would happily dream about being in love, but actually being in love with a thought of being in love!
Men want to be accepted, loved, and respected! Society is hard on us - try to be a 20 something virgin in this world... oh boy.... Women are tough on men, so men are tough on women!
Women want to be be accepted, loved, and respected! Society is hard on women, just try to be a single mother... yeah one mistake, one bad call, labeled for life! Men are tough on women, so women are tough on men!
You are getting into relationship to not be alone. You are running into them, not building them! You are looking what you could get, not what you could give! You are listening to her/him to answer and get your turn to speak, not to understand her/him!
Happiness is IN you. Life is simple, we are the one´s making it complicated! We can´t change other people, but we can change ourselves. So give women and men what they deserve, what they want. Give them love, respect, and accept them. Help them build and you will help yourself. Give them a chance to be happy, to recognize their own worth! We all are enough insecure, no need to spread it even more.
And for goodness sake, stop being so hard on each other! Yes there are some differences, and this take does not answer them all. I will never know what it means to be a woman, I´m not meant to, but I can get a glimpse of that life through women in my life. We need to learn from each others, and isn't this variety beautiful?
So this is me giving some support to you.
You are awesome, I know you are.
And give, always give. It's so simple and beautiful to give :D!