Relationship Mistakes (Pride)

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“Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune”. Carl Jung

Pride is a major destroyer of relationship. Pride makes people feel self-sufficient, thereby having the trust that they don’t need anyone. Like a slow poison, pride undermines love, trust and mutual respect. It is critical in the early stage of relationships to uncover pride before it is late. Pride also makes it difficult to appreciate and apologize. Insecurity in marriages arises from pride. Pride makes a person self-centered by placing personal interest above that of partner and relationship.

There is a story of a married couple who had a disagreement; the wife felt the fault was from the husband, while the husband felt the fault was from the wife. For a while they couple did not talk to each other. The wife went into prayer requesting that the husband should realize his mistakes and apologize. But as she prayed she had a strong push that she should go to her husband and apologize. She was shocked at this revelation and instead resisted that she has done nothing wrong to apologize. At this moment a question came to her mind “Do you want to be married or do you want to be right?” As she pondered on this question, she realized that it is easier to apologize and get back to happy terms with her husband than to hold on to her pride and keep the meanness and remain unhappy. Apologizing does not take anything away from who we are, but instead it reveals a positive sensitive character.

Do not take advantage of your partner or exploit his/her weaknesses but try to support him/her with your strengths. You should have the idea that what belongs to you also belongs to your partner. Pride often builds as a direct result of a person's inability to see his/her partner as equal. Pride makes one or both partner think that they are better than the other, or entitled to certain benefits. Pride is born out of having a wrong assumption about life. In order to have a relationship that lasts, one must learn to overcome pride. Do not dwell on thoughts of being better than your spouse. Truly, pride is the greatest enemy in any relationship. If there is no humility, a free flowing relationship is not impossible. It takes understanding, patience and Love to stand the imperfections of your partner. Some display of pride includes.

My way is better than yours •

Ingratitude: not appreciating the help from your partner.

Self-indulgence, concerning with your personal needs, while ignoring the needs and desires of your partner.

Anger, as a result of frustration.

[Anonymous]

So this take is geared towards women more?