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I Was "The Other Woman"

I've seen some questions lately about girls and guys being dumped for someone else, so I thought I'd share my tale from the other side of the situation.




I was the 'other woman'.

I was the girl that my boyfriend 'emotionally cheated' with.



I haven't discussed this with anyone before. We've been together for a year, and it's been the happiest year of my life. I know he's happy too.


But I needed to get this off my chest.



When we met, my boyfriend was in a long term relationship with his ex. She was a bitch, to put it simply. She'd post naked photos of herself on chat forums, refused to get a job, and expected him to support her and pay her way, financing her every whim.



He, while unhappy, felt trapped, I guess. Both their families thought marriage was on the cards. She wanted it. He didn't.



He'd been trying to leave for a couple of years when we met, but simply felt too guilty about leaving her jobless and homeless. Shortly before our first meeting, she finally got a job.



When we met, there were sparks from the start. I didn't know he had a girlfriend at first, and I definitely tried my luck with flirting. He, to his credit, tried to avoid leading me on.


I Was "The Other Woman"


Then I found out about her, and I was devastated. This amazing, incredible, sweet guy was already taken. But we kept talking. I stopped flirting, so we stayed friends for a bit. Then he started to open up about the problems in his relationship. I sympathised, but tried not to tell him what to do, knowing I would have ulterior motives.



Not long after, he broke it off with her. She knew about me, and thought she knew I was the reason he was leaving her. She recruited a few friends and family to harass me online, but that was easily dealt with, courtesy of the 'block' button. She never seemed to realise that, while I'm sure my presence had an effect on his decision to break it off, her behavior was the true culprit.



Now, he's happier than he has been in a long time. He now WANTS to get married, and he initiated the discussion about it. I believe she is now becoming more independent, and hopefully keeps her job and learns to provide for herself.



When someone leaves their partner for someone else, it's not always an evil deed. Sometimes it's best for everyone.

I Was "The Other Woman"
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