How I'm Different From Other Women

[loveisbeautiful]

People always think when you say that you're different than most people or your own gender, that you're just saying it to be cool. But, I haven't been cool the last 28yrs of my life, why would I try to start now? So, when I say I'm different, I mean it. I'm not like most people and when I saw a post that my cousin put up on Facebook yesterday that said "my nail place has Margaritas", I said to myself "this is why I'm not like most women". So, I decided to write a take about it.

So, here's 8 things that make me different from other women.

1. Manicures/Pedicures

As I said in the begining, I saw a post yesterday morning my cousin wrote about her nail place having Margaritas. And, I said to myself "this is why I'm not like other women". I don't do manicures or pedicures, I've never been in a nail salon. The only salon I ever go to is hair salon, but other then that I don't believe in paying people to do something I can do myself.

2. Long hair

I have a short hair, it's a little past my chin but that's as long as I'll ever let it get. I'm not anti long hair, I had long hair when I was little. But, then I grew up and it didn't fit me anymore and I wanted a change. So, I cut it, colored it and got rid of my bangs. I understand people think womens hair length defines their feminity but I like the way my hair is now and I'm not going to change it. If that makes me unfeminine or undatable, then so be it. It is what it is.

3. Fashion Trends

I don't keep up with the latest fashion trends or wear what's in style. I wear what I like and what I want to wear. if it happens to be in style, then great but that's not what I wore it for. I could really care a less about trends.

4. Shopping

I'm not a mall person, I don't really like shopping. I mean, I've gone shopping and I go shopping but there's always a reason for it. I don't just shop, to shop. It's just not who I am. I know many girls like hanging out at the mall for fun but I don't, I only go if I need something or if some family members are having a shopping trip ask me to tag along and I haven't seen them in awhile, so I go for them. Other then that, not really my thing.

5. Girls night out

First off, all my friends are guys but if I had female friends I wouldn't do the girls night out. Most girls nights out involve some kind of alcohol /drinking and flirting with or checking out guys but I'm don't drink and I don't flirt or stare at random men, so it's not really a thing I'd fit into too well.

6. Gossiping

I know most women aren't like this but there some women that thrive on gossip and I'm not one of those people. My idea of a good time is not talking about other people behind their back or gossiping about things that aren't true. I'm just not that kind of person

7. Female solidarity

I find that women seem to defend other women, even when they are wrong. I don't believe I'm under obligation to defend other women or stand by their side, when I know they were wrong or don't agree with them. I defend the people that need defending or that I feel are being wronged. But, I don't defend some one because their a woman and so am I.

8. Sense of entitlement

I know not all women have a sense of entitlement but there are women that do. Being an only child, one would assume I'm one of them but I'm not. I didn't get the things I had as a child because I acted entitled to it or because I whined until my parents gave in. I got stuff because I earned it and because I never asked for anything and I've kept that same mentality into my adulthood. I don't feel I'm entitled to anything and I certainly don't feel entitled because I'm a woman.

Truth is, there's many things that make me different from other women and other people in general. This is just a small portion of that but not all of it. Anyway, this was my take on what makes me different. Thanks for reading :)

*Ending Disclamier*

I've been on here long enough to know that after people read this, they are going to think I wrote this for a reason but I didn't. There's no reason, no motive, I'm just someone who wanted to express some of the things that make her different from others, that's it. This wasn't an attempt to brag about myself. This wasn't me stereo typing all women . This wasn't me trying to tell everyone that I somehow feel superior because I'm different then others, that's simply not true or how I view myself. I'm just a chick who decided to write a take about what makes her different, nothing more and nothing less.

I want people to share their thoughts on this if they wish and I want other people who feel different, to know they are not alone. What I don't want though is, people construing this into something else or accusing me of things I didn't do and wasn't doing. Please, just take it as it is intended to be, not how you intended it to be. Okay? Thank you.

[9mfeo]

You want a cookie or something?

What was the point of that? Why did you share that (which honestly read like "Oh, boys! Look at me! I'm not nearly as awful as All Those Other Women!") if you supposedly have no agenda?

If you want to talk about why you're so different, maybe talk about things you *do* differently, instead of all the things you don't do. What are your hobbies? What's your favourite performing artist? What did you study? What are your dreams?

The fact of the matter is, every single person is unique. By saying you're Not One Of Those Girls, you showcase how completely unoriginal you are.

[loveisbeautiful]

I don't want anything but yet other person who wants to make assumptions about me, without out knowing me. I had no agenda and I certainly didn't do it to get male attention but it doesn't matter what I say. You've already made your mind about me.

For the record, I said these were SOME of the things that made me different not everything. And, clearly everyone here has there own definition of what "different" means. What I meant by different is, I don't fit in this world. I don't belong, I never have and I never will. That's what I meant.

Another thing for the record, I know everyone on here wants to think everyone is unique in there own way (and maybe they are) but most people are just trying to keep up with the Jones and do what everybody else does so they fit the social standard of what's "normal". Everyone can deny that but it's true. Not many people want to stand out because standing out means ridicule and no one wants that. So, unique isn't as common as you think.

[9mfeo]

It's your hobbies that distinguish you, not your in/adherence to random stereotypes, doll.

[cinderelli]

upvote!!

[astrOnaut01]

I have wanted to use this picture for a long time. Thank you, MyTake Owner.

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[lacorine197]

lmfaoooo

[redeyemindtricks]

Sweetie, I'm the life of the party and have always been, without ever having had more than a drop of alcohol. #teamsober4lyf
Just because YOU don't drink, doesn't mean you can't hang out with people who do, or frequent establishments where alcohol is served. I mean... tbh, most people are boring af until they get a couple of drinks in them. LOL
I've never felt pressured to imbibe, and I've never felt awkward or "left out" for being the uncool girl with a Shirley Temple or a Diet Coke when everyone else was getting shitfaced. Really, no one ever pushed the issue, past a simple, polite "No, thanks."
Not to mention the fact that I was (and am, when I do get the chance to go out these days) always available as a designated driver for mah squad. <3

Also, flirting is a sport. It can be a participatory sport, or a spectator sport, or neither. Again, yr friends are hardly gna pressure you into anything you won't feel comfortable with (unless you are really, really choosing the wrong friends).

So, regarding #5, my point is that #5 should be a non-issue.

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About #6 -- Class attracts class. There are classy groups of girlfriends, and there are trashy groups of girlfriends.
My friends and I don't talk shit. We talk, but it's constructive. Or at least entertaining in a way that's not DEstructive.

This touches on #7, too. My friends are... classy. We do not preach the gospel of You-Go-Girl in a way that will ultimately destroy the girl.
Do we stick together? Hell yes we do, because we are friends, and that's what friends are for.

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What about the most important thing in the world, though -- RELATIONSHIPS? That's curiously missing from this whole picture?

How bout that?
Communication?
Sex?
Emotional availability?
Intimacy?
Displays of affection?
Attitude toward commitment?
How do you talk about yr partner?
How do you talk about relationships?
Do you want children?
Etc.

I mean, don't take this the wrong way, but, "long hair" and "going to the mall" would be how I defined the differences between boys and girls when I was 13 or 14 or so, but not at yr age. As an adult woman, I'd be thinking of this issue almost exclusively in terms of the above issues, because those are The Things That Matter At The End Of The Day.

[loveisbeautiful]

First of all, I never said I haven't been around people that drink because I have. I just don't do groups, I hate groups and a bunch of girls hanging out together is not my idea of a good time.

Second, if long hair doesn't matter to women my age. Then why did I over hear a women in my salon say she couldn't, have anymore hair trimmed off because "her boyfriend likes her hair long"? It matters to women more then you think.

Also, I said those were a few things that made me different but that wasn't all that did. And, I do think about all those things. All I do is think, all day and all night and even when I sleep. All I do is think and worry and analyze and over analyze about jobs, life, relationships, my dreams of being a wife and mother. That's all I think but once again based on 8 things someone wants to assess me and make assumption about me, without even knowing me. Hence why I did this disclaimer because I knew this would happen.

[Applefan1]

First of all: LMFAO at all those butthurt women that have commented, they must be guilty of the things you listed and hate the fact you are letting the cat out of the bag!!!

Nice take!!! Finally a woman that understands what us men mean about the women that take no responsibility for anything and act entitled just because of what they have between their legs. It really is pathetic some women act like that even when you are just telling the truth of how they act. I think society needs to get harder on women and they should have to do the same time for the same crime.

Anyway, I love your take. You are so right! and have a great attitude to life. This may sound weird but can you please have some children that are girls so we can have some more awesome women like you because I am sure you would be a great mother.

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[loveisbeautiful]

Aw, thank you. I really appreciate you saying that. It's very nice :)

[Applefan1]

Your welcome. Don't worry about the haters. The women are butthurt! which is pathetic and the men haters on here are just rude. I want to marry a woman with the kind of attitude you have. :)

[loveisbeautiful]

thanks, again. I really appreciate that.

[Applefan1]

Your welcome. I just want to say my goodbyes as I am leaving GAG. :(

[loveisbeautiful]

How come your leaving?

[Applefan1]

I make too many typos. Most people make them every so often but for every 1 they make I make 10 and I typed something that would have been good but the fact I made a typo in it made me look dumb and it was important to me. So I am giving up on GAG and closing up. :(

[loveisbeautiful]

You shouldn't feel bad, everybody makes mistakes. If what you wrote was important to you, then try in again but don't give up just yet.

[Applefan1]

I can't type it again because that just destroys the point. :(

[lolatyou]

I can completely relate to these except for the short hair part lol.

I hate getting my nails and hair done, I only do it because I want to look good but the actual experience of it is not relaxing one bit to me. There's a bunch of other women either on their phones talking next to me or talking/gossiping next to me in chairs. Just a bunch of shit I don't want to hear. My girl friends/sister/mom all go there to relax and to me it's a nightmare that I can't wait to get out of. Just like shopping too.

And the fashion trends and beauty trends in general are ridiculous. If I see one more selfie with some painted on eyebrows, a crop top and a duck face or how do I get a thigh gap question- i'm going to stab my eyes out.

I also can't stand the- i'm a girl so i'm entitled shit. Work for your own stuff. That's one reason i'm so thankful that I grew up very poor because at least I learned that things aren't handed to you just because you have a pair of boobs. And for god sake stop thinking that just because you're with a man who is successful, that you're successful- make your own way. Any semi decent looking girl can dress nice and spread their legs for a successful man- that doesn't mean that you did shit for yourself.

I don't necessarily think these things make you different than other girls though. There are lots of girls like this and I have amazing girl friends who besides the shopping and nail addictions are great people who don't do most of these petty, trash things.

[loveisbeautiful]

At least you mildly understand what I mean and most of the people I know and that I see around, do like those things (that includes family). So, maybe that's why I feel different with those things. I don't know.

[lolatyou]

Yeah, I understand. It didn't come across like you were being snobby about it really lol

[loveisbeautiful]

Thanks, I appreciate that.

[Anonymous]

Alright, hey, here's the thing. I know you didn't write this with the intention of seeming superior, but the fact is, it comes of as pretty narcissistic.
What you've written sounds like it's condemning other women for liking any traditionally girly things, and makes you sound like you think you're better than them.
Regardless of whether you meant it or not, you need to realise how it comes across. If you don't want your writings to be mistaken for something else in future, you need to alter how you're writing them.

[loveisbeautiful]

Oh, so it's my writings fault. It can't possibly be that people like to twist everything everybody writes and turn into something it's not, could it? I don't care what women do, hell my own relatives do those things but I just don't thrive on those things. It's not good, it's not bad, it just is what it is. Truth is it doesn't matter what I write or how I say it, people will interrupt in a negative way.

[MaskedSanity]

^^^ This.

[Opinion Owner]

No, please understand what I am saying here. I know that you didn't intend to write this in a negative way. But ensuring that your message comes across the way you intend it to, is YOUR responsibility, not the responsibility of your audience. So don't get all indignant over this, because I'm actually trying to offer you some useful advice.

[loveisbeautiful]

Okay.

[Anonymous]

Gee, you must think you're so special or something. Let me tell you: I, as well as thousands (if not millions) of women all agree with every single one of those behaviors. I absolutely hate all of those things, which separate me from "most" women the same way it does for you. I despise all of those girly behaviors. It doesn't make you different. It's a common outlook on life.
Because the girls that follow those behaviors tend to speak the loudest, that's what is commonly seen as "popular" or "mainstream." Yet, it's not. There's a tie between "girly girls" and those that aren't. Maybe it's time to turn the TV/computer off and look around outside. You'd be surprised by how many women you find that sit at home in their pj's all day, looking as natural as can be.

[loveisbeautiful]

I don't think I'm special. I said those were some of the things that make me different, not all of them. I know many many women that like those things, that includes relatives. But, you can believe what ever you want. I don't have any energy to defend myself anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry for being such a b*tch.

[loveisbeautiful]

I appreciate your apology.

[DaBuzzman]

That's very cool and nothing wrong with that at normal. I think I would like somebody of your type. I totally agree with all the areas you touched on and don't care about most of those either. But the one thing I will tell you though if you care or want to hear is that the one thing I have a huge fetish for is hands and feet, especially hands. I can't be with a girl for some reason who has man hands or grows short or chewed nails. I like a girl with at least sexy and pretty hands and nails. Doesn't have to be inches long. Just a reasonable medium length or longer past the tip of the finger. I love touch and love to touch, play with, and massage hands and feet. I love backscratches and nails in the bedroom during sex or foreplay is amazing! Would you do that for a guy that was into you, and if he too was willing to pay for it? Just curious.

[loveisbeautiful]

No, because I like my nails short and actually get anxious when they are long (even just a little bit). So, that wouldn't work for me.

[DaBuzzman]

Respectable! Thanks just thought I'd see.

[loveisbeautiful]

You're welcome

[serious]

It's a good take overall. For point #2 , you said you have short hair?

Well I know that most men won't like short hair, and also most women like to keep long hair only but as far as thinking about men are concerned I am an exception, I only find short/Boycut hairstyle on women appealing, well the hairstyle that you mentioned may not be boycut exactly but nevertheless it's short.

It's really good to know that you are one of those who loves to keep short hair only. That's really good.

Plus you are confident about yourself even if it makes you undatable or less feminine although I don't agree with that.

I don't know but may be some day you may come across a man who likes short hair on women? just saying please don't mind.

Anyways, it's a good take overall.

[loveisbeautiful]

Thanks and a double thanks for thinking I'm confident, I talk a good "I don't care game" but really I'm not as confident as I'd like to be. It's one of the many things I need to work on within myself.

[Stacyzee]

I can relate with some of the things you mentioned. Most of my friends are guys, that's because I have a harder time getting along with women in general. Most guys find me attractive, and we seem to hit it off very well. The only bad thing in this, is that most of them see me as girlfriend material or a potential fuck.
For this reason, I wish I had female friends but I just haven't been able to relate to a woman really well.
I <3 shopping.
I have a unique sense of style.
I don't follow any trend, instead i set my own, and put outfits together to create something hot.
I have the confidence to wear outfits that some women wouldn't be caught dead in.
I have a confidence level that's unbreakable.
If I'm feelin' myself, no body can tell me shit nor do I care.

[loveisbeautiful]

I get what you mean about not relating to other women, I have hard time too. This take proves that since most of the women gave me a good tongue lashing. You seem like a very confident person, I wish I could be. My life would be a little easier.

[Stacyzee]

Yeah, gag is filled with over sensitive people or those who flip your words for the sole purpose of to create an argument and take offense to what they think you mean.
I understood you were coming from a place a good especially due to your disclaimer (you covered yourself because you knew the comments that would arise ).
Confidence is something that can be worked on, I have faith you'll get there with it some day.

[loveisbeautiful]

You're right, that's exactly why I wrote that disclaimer but it still didn't stop them. And, thanks I appreciate you saying that. I haven't been confident for along time and I'm honestly not sure where to start. If you don't mind me asking you, how do you stay confident in yourself? How do you not let other people bother you?

[InconspicuousBox]

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[SnazzyPants]

I LOVE YOU

[InconspicuousBox]

@SnazzyPants Haha XD It's true those. These things don't make one different. Most all of these apply to me, but they also apply to a lot of the girls I know. No one trait can make you different from "most girls", because that's acting like "most girls" can fit into one category or trait, and that's just stereotyping.

[SnazzyPants]

Exactly! It's kind of like those posts of people saying, 'everyone else is doing this, but im over here like this! I'm so different and unique!' and then you see the millions of comments of people agreeing 'wow this is so me i can totally relate lolz' not even realizing the irony of it.

[lanternhill]

Saying you're not like most women usually means you're not like the 2-D image portrayed in the media of the shallow party girl/similar. Not too hard.

I'm also not very girly. And it bothers me. I'm glad to be able to think like a man (and like a woman) but I would like to be able to be more stereotypically feminine - while not being two-dimensional.

I find it sad that the societally standard image of women has become "someone without depth."

[takumii]

So, you're different than most women... Wow , I mean.. It would matter me much... But..
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[kitty71]

Good article. Im also different from other women. i relate myself to number 1, 2, 3, 4 5 7 and 8. I dont follow along the womens trends these days. Nowadays many women had became very shallow and narcissistic. Not all women of course but the majority. I dont like to emulate them or follow some womens trends eitehr. You just have to be yourself and be confident of who you are. If you dont like to pay money to get a manicure so what? If you dont like to be a fashion geek so what? If you dont like to defend other women just for the same of defending the same sex. so what? You defend who you think needs to be defended regarldess if it is a woman or a man.

[loveisbeautiful]

Thanks.

[spuitkaas]

Almost every trait you descibed also accounts for me. A lot of women are like that, but I sort of have to disagree to the entitlement thing. I think thinking you're different than everybody else and you say you don't think you're better than other people while your undertone says something completely different sounds entitled. Maybe not for being a woman in particular , but as being so different than other women.

[loveisbeautiful]

Well, I'm not entitled and I don't get how being different than the rest would make me so but I can't tell you what to believe. So, it's fine.

[cinderelli]

These things are extremely common.. I myself can relate to many of these.. so you can't say you're different from women or you're like some alien on planet earth.. we all are unique in our own way.. our dreams and plans and achievements make us different from others.. not salon appointments..

[loveisbeautiful]

Okay.

[justbanANNAz]

while this is a lovely mytake, i don't believe that these are things which can necessarily set you apart from other women.

maybe physically yeah, but as a whole individual, these aren't really the things that would make a man say 'wow, she's different', u know?

all that said though, own who you are. i love the bold tone in this take, the self love here is nice to see. nice one hun xx :)

[loveisbeautiful]

Thanks.

[steven7890789]

@justbanANNAz look at all the guys commenting above liking what she is saying.

[justbanANNAz]

@steven7890789 not surprised.

[Takada]

All of those apply to me as well, along with working in a predominantly male industry, but please don't advertise yourself as "different". Find some hobbies and become good at them to set yourself apart from others.

[loveisbeautiful]

I'm not advertising myself as anything, it is what it is. And, what makes you think I don't have hobbies already?

[f_ckmeup]

I can be equally as 'chill' as you claim to be, just with a care regimen for myself. So yeah Ill get those mani/pedis, go out with my girls, wear whatever trendy crap i decide to shop for with my hard earned money, rock out in whatever length i want for my hair, and still go home eat, sleep, and shit like the rest of us.

You aren't some class of different because there are just as many you's as there are women you claim to be different from.

[loveisbeautiful]

I don't claim anything and I'm really tired of people acting like I did something wrong by writing this. As I said, that's just a small portion of what makes me not like the rest but it's not everything.

[OlderAndWiser]

You do sound like a different kind of woman and confidence is an attractive quality to a guy who also has some confidence. However, sometimes "I'm different" morphs into "I don't fit in or belong with everybody else." So you must always remember the words of Margaret Mead: "Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else."

[loveisbeautiful]

That's exactly it though, I don't fit in and don't belong. It's why connecting and relating to people has always been really hard for me.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is easy to feel that way, especially if you are a person of above-average intelligence. You know every little detail about yourself and all the crazy thoughts and ideas that swirl around in your head and then you compare that to the little bit of what you know about other people. Most people hide their insecurities and you are not privy to their feelings and crazy thoughts so you look at the picture they present and you say to yourself, "Wow! They have it SO together. . . unlike me, who is a basket case." What you don't realize is that they are probably having those same feelings and self-doubts and feeling like they are the odd man out.

I think this is a prevalent problem for young adults and one that goes relatively unnoticed.

[loveisbeautiful]

That's sounds like mildly accurate statement of how I feel sometime.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you have a best friend who you can talk to very candidly? If so, describe your thoughts and feelings on that subject and ask him or her if they ever think/feel that way. The answer may surprise you.

[loveisbeautiful]

I have two actually and maybe I'll do that.

[OlderAndWiser]

Good luck with those conversations. :)

[loveisbeautiful]

Thanks. :)

[luvstoned4him]

I am glad I am not the only one. I dont do any of those things and sometimes my family and close friends think am a bit odd or boyish but I am not. I like that you are different and I am pretty sure that there are others out there. Great take. I gave you a thumbs up :) :) :)

[loveisbeautiful]

Thank you, I appreciate that.

[luvstoned4him]

you are most welcome

[Jack_S]

Im sure you aren't like other women, but in my experience "im not like other girls" means your are exactly like 50% of other girls

[SnazzyPants]

THIS ^ Not even talking about this girl in particular but it annoys me so much when women say 'ohh I'm not like the other girls I play video games and I don't like makeup and i have guy friends lolz ;P' GET. OVER. YOURSELF. there are millions of other girls just like you and you are not in any way shape or form a special individual little snowflake. Honestly this isn't even really directed towards this mytake.. I just had to vent my rage on this topic. haha