Love, Freedom, and Beauty and Why All Are Important

[ChromAzonyx108]

Sometimes when I see a beautiful girl I feel disappointed because I think that I won’t be able to have her, that she’s “out of my league” so to speak. I mean, there is always the possibility but the probability is low in my mind.

However, I’m trying to change my perspective on this. For one, you can’t own a person; even couples in relationships don’t really own one another. Part of what makes a person who they are is their freedom, and there is a certain beauty in freedom.

It is ugly, the very idea that you possess somebody because you love. You possess somebody – it means you have killed somebody and turned him into a commodity. Only things can be possessed. Love gives freedom. Love is freedom.” – Osho

When it comes to love, you want the other to choose you. If the other is forced or tricked to love you then that isn’t real love. You want the other to choose you, to love you, for who you are. You can only have that with freedom.

Back to the concept of beauty, I want to make an analogy that birds are beautiful against the sky, but cage a bird and you take away its freedom and its beauty. Similarly with people. If you love someone you’ll let them go, you won’t pin them down and stifle them.

Disappointment is one problem for me. Another one is that people (i.e. family, friends, etc) would poke fun of me for so much as glancing at a girl, saying that I’m interested in her. But is it wrong to want to look at beauty? Nature is beautiful. Girls are beautiful. Why can’t I enjoy a sunset the same way the sight of a pretty girl?

Perhaps this myTake does little more than show how uncoordinated my mind can be, but what I’m trying to say is that love, freedom, and beauty are connected. Love is giving freedom, freedom contributes to beauty, and beauty incites love.

[Guy13]

You add these all up with some leadership and one has great sex and life.

[Cccgala]

You would be technically intrigued with her beauty, so that would be a clear display of interest in her facial attributes. So, you can enjoy the sight, actually. Your relatives have a point to some degree.

Anyways, I liked your analogy about the three.

[ChromAzonyx108]

My relatives have a point to some degree? Hmm, thinking about it, I can just look at something without being interested in it. I can also look at someone while being interested but it doesn't have to be a romantic or sexual interest. I could be "technically intrigued with her beauty" as you put it.

fyi, I might be somewhere on the asexuality spectrum