I have been dating in real life and online life and I notice that either way you date. Whether you like it online or offline there are still the same type of things occurring in both types of dating. I have noticed there some things I don't get why they happen but they do and how they annoy me. This mytake is about these things in dating that is annoying.
Have to give a person a reason why you won't date them when they don't get the hint:
I get it you like the person a lot, you probably image you two being marry and having cute kids in the future. But they crush your dreams and tell you "I don't like you in that way" or whatever way they put it. I have been on both sides of this but it just irritates me that you HAVE to give a reason why you don't like them. Why do I have a better reason other then "I just don't like you". I seen online some men will even jump to conclusions on why you wouldn't date them. Online I would not reply to messages I don't want to start anything with. I ignore this white guy and he jump to the conclusion that I am that white woman who does not date white men in general.
Its ridiculous how people just act like they know you like the back of their hand without even having a conversation with you. Also the nerve of some people will say crap to others, the guy who thought I was that type of woman reply with "oh so you those girls who don't like white guys". Or men outside my race who like "Oh you that type who date only white guys".
I.don't.have.to.give.you.a.answer. Especially when you being a douche like that.
Telling you who you can be friends with:
I have experience this, I know many people (both men and women) experience that one boyfriend/girlfriend who thinks they have the right to tell you as a person who you can hang out with (friend wise). I hate the arguments "well if you care for them you care for their feelings","you try to make them happy as well" and all that BS that people use as excuse. I get it some people get too close and cheat but the fact that you ASSUME that something would happen between me and this person is what pisses me off.
And if you just start dating who are you to make a judgement that this friend shouldn't be in the picture? just because we dated for a year or two or maybe 4 years doesn't mean you can walk into my life and say who can stay or not. I would choose my friends over a person if they have no reason to hate this friend and think I will just choose someone who I just met over someone who I know for longer. Unbelievable. Also people who don't like each other can be mature and tolerate each other not try to force a other person to choose sides. Its not hard to put on your big boy/girl pants and try to get along, unless the friend crosses a line. No reason why you can't try to tolerate each other.
When dating always have to be together all the time:
I get that it shows how healthy your relationship is or how in love you are to the world. But seriously you don't need to be with them 24/7; it's annoying and your boyfriend/girlfriend would feel like dead weight after a while. If I want to take a shit by myself I don't need someone sitting there with me when I'm trying to. It's weird and uncomfortable (yes my ex tried to do that to me). But guess what, when I'm reading I don't need you there and if you don't want to be there then don't be. When I'm playing game and you have no interest why stick around? Go do something you like and leave me to what I like.Its okay to be apart if you can be apart from your best friend nothing wrong being apart from your partner. I don't mean to stay apart constantly but I like a few hours to myself every single day. I wish my partner would get that and just leave me be during that time.
Thanks guys maybe I write more things after this mytake we see. See ya!
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how many dates so far?
Why does that matter?