My Thoughts On Cheating, Why I Believe It Can Be Self-Destructive and Why It Is Wrong.

[estoydorado1]

First up, my definition of cheating:

Cheating is when you make promises and commitments to someone and assure them that you want

a monogamous, long term relationship and then turn around and creep with other people.

-To be clear this doesn't include open relationships, non-exclusive friends with benefits, etc.

Secondly, why it is doomed from the start:

If he broke his promises to her, shamelessly showed you his lack of respect for his self-proclaimed commitments, and then you turned around and believed every word out of his lying mouth... why wouldn't he cheat on you? You've actively given him the okay to do so. It doesn't matter how special he swears you are or how nicely he treats you... I'm sure he was just as suave with that girl who's relationship you decided to creep into. And talking about how the last girl wasn't good enough isn't justification for his behavior If he wasn't happy he could've grown a pair and used his words for all you know he could be "bored" or "unfulfilled" with you right now and chances are high he won't bother to tell you either.

Thirdly, why it's wrong:

Based on MY definition of cheating, which is when commitments/expectations are clearly explained and agreed upon and then 1 party breaks that trust, cheating is just plain selfish. It's a straight out lie.

You can go on and on about how "strong our bond is", "it's true love", etc. but no matter how you cut it or how you feel about the person you're cheating with, you're still disrespecting the person being cheated on to the utmost degree. Shoot, if you wanted her man so much you could've walked up to her and told her you were in the process of taking him and he was fully willing (she'd probably slug you but let's be real, you would too if you were in her place). But when he lies to her, makes false promises to her, and strings her along he's wasting her time/energy/resources and you're now actively involved w/ the entire charade. You're both trifling for that nonsense.

**Btw, this applies to both males and females so insert he/she wherever it may apply. And yeah, I know people are still going to cheat, that's cool, I'm still going to judge.

[genuinlysensitive]

Agreed, as for your definitions they are the definitions, when people say the definition of something "is not my definition" they don't have "another" definition, it is attempted justification, in this case for lying and cheating.

[estoydorado1]

Yeah, I know what you mean about the flimsy justifications. I was trying to avoid giving people the room to dodge lol.