Some People are Just Too Angry/Bitter for Love

[SaintDamage]

So, you are on GirlsAskGuys, you scroll around on a certain topic, and you see a post that is attempting to help other people with the opposite sex. It's a detailed post with a lot of information, however...most of the people hate the advice.

I'm sorry that I don't have any sources to provide, but I feel that the reader probably has seen this attitude everywhere. Particularly when a women tries to give advice on how to get a girl. A lot of guys give the common criticism of "women don't know what they want", or "this entire thing sucks, here's how you really do it" - and then proceed to give advice on how to be rude and crude instead.

I'm not a feminist, but I don't think sticking up for women is purely a feminist issue. I see tons of women get destroyed by many critics due to their own advice being "stupid". They get humiliated for saying to other guys that "women like polite guys", or something of that nature. Do girls like bad boys? They may like a lot of their attributes, but politeness is certainly a big attribute that is likened. Does one particular girl like purely buttwipes? Yes, but not all girls do.

A issue that anyone can see on these types of posts is the users that claim that all women want this or that, or that guys want that or this. These types of assumptions, I believe, are said because the people commenting are usually just angry.

They may have seen many horrible things in other people, especially the dating scene. The advice that "girls like good guys" makes some guys tremble with bitterness. They argue and complain otherwise. And if you have seen these types of threads throughout the internet that provided user feedback, you also know that is usually the same case every single time.

If You Are One of Those Types of People Who Complain Like That, Please Listen:

Your negative outlook is almost like mental baggage

There are billions of men and women on this earth. You will find some that are crazy and want bad people, and you will also find others who want a nice person to be with them. Yes, we know: you have had the absolute worst luck in meeting other people. So have I, but that is just how it is. Do not allow those experiences to make your mind believe that all people of the opposite sex are scum who want disgusting people in their lives. Some people only want sex, some don't. Some are manipulative, some aren't. Did you run into mostly bad people? If so, I'm sorry and I know you will meet someone that is considered good.

Older People Are Harder To Crack

"You are just 19. I am 50 and I seen the same thing all my life! I traveled the world even!" You are sure to hear this said to me if this post goes semi-popular. Here's the problem with these types of people: None of us know how you truly are. We don't know how your personality is or how you act around others. Yes you are 50 something, but that could also mean that you spent 50 years wasting your life by being a horrible person who sees everything in a negative view. Or you could lack personality and confidence. Or you could be plum crazy. Your age does not equal anything or prove anything. If you really did travel everywhere, you should have a partner. No one to blame but you.

Just Take Responsibility

This fits nicely with the older people issue, but nonetheless applies to everyone. So many people hate to admit that it was all their fault for something going wrong! I admitted that I was not attractive a few years ago, so I did something about it and I became way better. If I never took the initiative, then I still would be that person today who lacked character. I'm glad I pointed my own finger at myself! Why won't other people do the same sometimes? Is it your pride, perhaps? So many people do not understand the powerful feeling of constructive criticism, and looking at yourself through another person's eyes. Get rid of that pride to improve yourself, because the more to deny it, the worst you become. This advice is not purely for dating, but for everything. Just take responsibility and be honest with yourself if you truly just....suck. You can improve and become who you want to be!

I suppose this was a rant that probably no one cares about. I just typed this because I see it everywhere and I simply got aggravated. You hear this stuff among conversation in life as well. Just take a higher look at things besides "all men are pigs", "women only want money". That world is miserable and so are you. So, improve yourself.

[Unit1]

"A issue that anyone can see on these types of posts is the users that claim that all women want this or that, or that guys want that or this. These types of assumptions, I believe, are said because the people commenting are usually just angry."
"The advice that "girls like good guys" makes some guys tremble with bitterness. They argue and complain otherwise."

"Some People are Just Too Angry/Bitter for Love"

That pretty much sums this up with the extreme MGTOW, feminazis and uncategorized bitter people. Basically.

When I see such comments, I simply want to... LAUGH 😂😁 Ha-ha-ha!

[Idonthaveausername]

I agree with everything you said here 100%. People who allow other people to make them bitter and angry are never going to find a solution to their problem in life. Sadly this site is full of people like you've described. The only way for them to get over it is, like you said, to stop making excuses and start taking responsibility. If you've had more than one failed relationship in the same way or several failed relationships, then there's probably a problem with you, and not just the so-called assholes you've been dating

[cth96190]

@SaintDamage you mean well and I believe that you are sincere.
I also think that you are naive, in terms of female nature and female behaviour.
I hope that you have a dream run, but most men do not.
Most men are destroyed by women, psychologically, emotionally and financially.
You would put me in the class of bitter and angry old man. I have a right to be.

[SaintDamage]

Thank you for the kind reply.

I do appear naive, I agree. But I had my fair share of being an angry and bitter person myself. I would say I spent a few years straight in that state of mind in regards to women. But I thought that there was something more than my bitterness, and I wanted to find out what it was. I don't see it as naivety, but in my opinion "logical", which is some are bad, some are not.

Of course that is just how I see it, but we obviously see things differently, and that's fine. I do say that females are definitely more psychologically adept than us, though. They can be very smart, which can mean more of them possibly being manipulative (this comes from studies that the female brain gets more developed than the male brain at young ages).

Did you know that many years ago when women were spit on world-wide, they actually did resort to manipulation to gain power to rule nations? They made powerful men turn into mockeries!

[evenlift]

People don't like the idea that they can be sold to. And yet the sales industry is huge and pays huge amounts of money. Definitely, a man should take advice from romantically successful men, not from women. Many women actually admit that they don't know what they want. It's got nothing to do with anger or bitterness.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Oh geez yeah... some people seem great until you "really" get to know them... and it's not fun with most people.

[independentman]

Not all but most of us 😂😂😂
Women want money so men want
All men are pigs and if women understand pigs language what they are 😂😂
I am to proud honestly I feel fucking worthless

[Kristie12]

I totally agree, negative people are a complete turn-off and pull everyone else down as well.

[COCOCHANEL]

you got angry because other people get angry?

the circle of life ♪

[SaintDamage]

I like to call it, "Righteous Anger"!!

[julviolin]

what do you mean you're not a feminist? you believe in inequallity for men and women?

[kespethdude]

I think he's an egualitarian. One who is TRULY for equality with the sexes, and with all other matters too.

[julviolin]

@kespethdude but you do know the definition of feminism?

[CHRIS11796]

I'm curious to know but what did you do to improve yourself?

[SaintDamage]

I started to just simply go a different route. I thought that the mentality that "all women are bad" or whatever was just a dull vision of people, and I decided there was something more to that. I also confronted that I just had a bitterness/anger problem due to bad experiences, and I needed to do something to change. I started to study seduction and learned how a lot of things are, like how being the typical nice guy gets you no where after the first initial contact (niceness is great, but it becomes boring after awhile). After studying for a bit, I realized some people are just attracted to things that are different than me, and also I learned the wrong things I was doing in trying to attract people. It all gave me a sense of power since I better understood the subject.

Responsibility is key to improvement. That's what they even say in rehab, so that's proven advice. Also, you learn just how our psychology affects human contact as well, which gives you ideas on what not to say.

[SaintDamage]

To add to that a little: I still get rejected or overlooked sometimes to this day. But I have a different perspective on it, and it doesn't totally get me down. I can try to learn something from it, or just not care. I occasionally have girls like me purely for looks, and I can honestly say that it sucks when someone likes you like that. Those types of people usually come with unneeded drama, ... and possibly diseases. Some may argue that "all women are still bad, you just have a different perspective on it", but again, ask yourself: "is this honestly the truth?"

[CHRIS11796]

That's a good route for better success. Proud of you bro. Glad you're not making any excuses for yourself and taking action. Sorry you run into girls like that, but you'll eventually run into one who likes you for the person you are, not for what you are.

[Anonymous]

Then, how do you explain so many a-holes having so many relationships?

[SaintDamage]

Mankind. That's how I explain it. Maybe a dose of manipulation.

[Anonymous]

"I suppose this was a rant that probably no one cares about."

You win.

[SaintDamage]

Oh do I? I sense condescension.

[Opinion Owner]

It rained here so your sense of condensation is spot on.

[SaintDamage]

Odd, you are.

[Opinion Owner]

;_; I am normal.

[Anonymous]

True that..
Nice take.

[zagor]

Sadly, GaG is the only place I meet women...

[lazermazer]

Nice one

[Anonymous]

agree with that