A few years ago, I saw a myTake in which a young user said "I don't know what love is." That comment got my attention. By the time you get to be my age, you will have seen and heard so many things that very little will shock or even surprise you, but that comment made me stop and think.
(This is NOT me! I am much more handsome than this . . . really! :) :) :) )
Many young people today are disillusioned about romance, love, and marriage. I get it. Hollywood issues movies about people betraying their love or their marriage and it is treated as a minor infraction that should be accepted as the norm. That is so incredibly wrong!
Many girls think that most guys just want a girl with big boobs for making boom-boom once or twice, and then they will move on to their next victim. And guys seem even more poisoned about love and romance. Frankly, I am disgusted with MGTOW and the absolute hostility these guys have towards women. I want their grandmas to pull their pants down and give them a damned good spanking because they are acting like spoiled little brats.
If you want to be bitter for the rest of your life, I won’t try to talk you out of your misery, but . . . I’ve known love and I’ve known heartbreak and, in my life, I’d rather take a chance to find romance than crawl into a cave to avoid heartbreak.
So, if you are one of these people who does not know what love is, I have written this myTake for you because . . . I know what love is and I hope that you will want to look for love in your life.
There is a woman I know. She’s not perfect but’s she’s very close to exactly what I want. I feel excited knowing that I will be seeing her again soon. I feel happy when I am with her. I know that I can live without her . . . but I don't want to. Our relationship may not last, but I hope it does. When she is happy, I share in her joy. When she is sad, I want to console her. If she cries, I want her head to be on my shoulder. I want to be the one who she knows will always be there for her. I try to be a better person for her.
Her birthday is February 14.
When she talks about herself, I am not impatiently waiting for my next opportunity to talk, but I am actually listening to her; when she says something about her likes or dislikes, I remember because I want to give her things that she likes and I want to shield her from things that she dislikes.
Since I met her, its seems as if it has been raining less and, recently, I feel younger.
I want to get in bed, whisper something sweet in her ear, and go to sleep with my arms around her. I want to see her face when I wake up in the morning. She is 65 years old and she never entered a beauty contest but I know she is beautiful.
I don't have her on a pedestal, I know that she has faults, but I adore her anyway. Every time I look at her, I smile. When she reaches for my hand and wraps her fingers around mine, I feel special. When I have my arms around her, the rest of the world does not exist. Every time we kiss, I feel excited. Whenever I think about my future, I see her standing by my side.
This is not just lust, infatuation, puppy love, addiction, or anything else; this is love. I know because I am in love and love feels great. “Love’s the finest thing around,” according to Mr. James Taylor, and he’s right!
Sadly, sometimes love is unrequited.
Sometimes, you love someone and they don’t feel the same way about you. When you really, really love someone, you aren’t possessive. You want what is best for them. If the best thing you can do for your partner is to set them free, then you give them a kiss for luck and you hide your tears until they're gone. When they are far away, you cry like a mother wolf who has lost her pups. You scream like your arms have been ripped off. You wail and sob and mourn the loss in your life. Even a few years later, you may occasionally shed a few years . . . but you move forward with your life and eventually, you start dating and you look for another partner because once you know love, you will always want it in your life.
It is easy to say nice things about love, but I don’t want you to think that all it takes is love. I would be failing you if I gave you that impression. Love, by itself, is NOT enough to make a relationship work. There are other necessary building blocks. This is where people get on the wrong path. They think “All we need is love.” They are wrong! Dead wrong!
Being in a successful long term relationship requires four things: love, trust, respect, and work. Love is an absolutely essential ingredient. You’ve got to have it. But you’ve also got to have trust, respect, and you must both be willing to work to keep your relationship alive.
My grandmother often said, “Being married is the toughest job you will ever have,” and she was right. In the next few weeks, I will be posting myTakes about trust, respect, and working on relationships.
We’ll talk again soon!