It doesn't take a genius to figure out what a healthy relationship feels like Vs. what an unhealthy relationship can do to you as a human being when some time passes with you IN that relationship... But a lot of the time people forget these general 'rules' which would make their lives a whole lot better!
All of these points apply to your feelings when you're with your SO, when you're thinking of your SO or when your SO is involved in the situation in any way and it goes without saying [but I'm still going to say it] that you being happy with your life and confident with who you are FIRST are basics for the start of any happy relationship:
If you feel:
- free to express yourself
- a better person
then congratulations! You're in a healthy, loving relationship!
But, if you feel:
- unable to say what you really feel
- unable to express what you want
- fearful of your SO's reactions
- anxious or stressed
then I'm sorry to say, your SO is using you to feel better about themselves or to selfishly get something from you without giving anything in return!
Hopefully you're in that healthy, loving relationship, and if you're not...it's healthier to wait and observe and, with time, you'll get there!